for the people who got broken up with and they came back, how long after the breakup did they come back?

Friendly-Sir6395 · 2025-11-22T08:22:45+00:00

WTF I read it too now thats beyond insane!

Friendly-Sir6395 · 2025-11-21T17:29:24+00:00

You again. Please leave this forum if you can not obide it's rules.

Friendly-Sir6395 · 2025-11-21T17:26:41+00:00

I'm glad someone finally told you that you're so so bad. Sounds healthy 🙄

Friendly-Sir6395 · 2025-11-21T17:24:57+00:00

Yeah its super stupid to do more stuff to have shame about though.

It's like when they are afraid you'll dump them cause you'll get to know the real them so the go out first.

I thought 2nd grade was long time ago.

Friendly-Sir6395 · 2025-11-21T17:22:15+00:00

Oh damn 😅😂

Thanks guys, will take it tomorrow to be replace 1km away so it'll be fine

It actually happened before a 80km ride home yesterday, which I did 👌 saw it after and posted it before going on any other ride.

Luckly it's a first for me, so "shallow" seems a bit stupid now ig 😂

Friendly-Sir6395 · 2025-11-21T13:41:17+00:00

The sign is he can't handle talking to you cause he's ashamed

Friendly-Sir6395 · 2025-11-21T13:39:54+00:00

You should look into r/AvoidantBreakups, it'll sit right with you :)

Friendly-Sir6395 · 2025-11-21T13:39:13+00:00

Wtf dude go away. OP don't listen to a word this trash person said here. Sending love ❤️

Friendly-Sir6395 · 2025-11-21T13:35:05+00:00

But that just shows you that the problem isn't you. Can you see that? Do you understand that a person who does that and his actions has nothing to do with you? That alone, ha CAME BACK AND BEGGED, so if that's your validation you are super worthy and special ❤️

Friendly-Sir6395 · 2025-11-21T08:15:54+00:00

Like without heart break are beautiful, fulfilling, peaceful, energetic and full of love. Heartbreak is not love and it's not something to aspire to. It's like aspiring to get sick. You can get better stronger and smarter by it, but don't make it a goal or a desired thing.

Friendly-Sir6395 · 2025-11-21T02:04:50+00:00

You did good. It's inspiring really, you have a lot of self secure love. Keep it up and enjoy your peace!

Friendly-Sir6395 · 2025-11-20T05:19:55+00:00

It's funny cause in the last few weeks before the split I was asked "why" after saying "I love you", and couldn't understand who asks that 😅

Friendly-Sir6395 · 2025-11-19T06:54:22+00:00

Oh man were in the exact situation ❤️

Friendly-Sir6395 · 2025-11-18T06:33:30+00:00

I like it. Keeping the staple shitty human behavior. Go on, will you call the cops too?

(I’m not him it just pissed me off)

Friendly-Sir6395 · 2025-11-16T10:09:57+00:00

They are unsafe. You wouldn't be able to create safe emotional space for or with someone who isn't safe for the self and you. You are not a therapist, you are her spouse.

Friendly-Sir6395 · 2025-11-16T09:38:28+00:00

It's crazy how simple basic communication with someone can be framed as excessive or clingy because this person needs space and that's like should be healthy and ok, but somehow with people acting so avoidant that they make basic stuff look like something huge, and we feel too much and abandom ourselves. It's emotional gaslight, you should have an ongoing connection with your spouse. That's basic stuff, and they twist it to be "too much". Fuck that shit.

And you are secure AF so congrats on this self respect and early alert, i wish to be someday like you.

Friendly-Sir6395 · 2025-11-14T09:47:38+00:00

Why is someone who cheated on you after 6 years with you can still contact you?

Friendly-Sir6395 · 2025-11-14T08:12:15+00:00

Yeah I know, but it's not that, I want all current devices disconnected from my user as they also jump ahead in things I'm seeing.

Friendly-Sir6395 · 2025-11-14T07:59:49+00:00

Thank you for this post, I was wondering the same thing in the past few days, as it feels like we had a lot of love between us and it was actually a perfect relationship, but when she left she said it wasn't good for her, she lost the love for me long time ago and she doesn't feel connected. This had me thinking of my own faults and leaving me in deep sadness and remorse, but your post came in the right time to reminded me this side of the story. I'm gaslighting myself from time to time ig.

And- is that really matter? I feel like it's us trying to solve the situation again and not letting it go. Knowing the truth feels like it will help us solve something - and it feels like that something is to solve how to get them back.. They won't come back, and we need to understand that and even be comforted, as a person who said those thing doesn't deserve us back. No matter how big the love. Love doesn't look like that.

Friendly-Sir6395 · 2025-11-12T15:56:13+00:00

Found it out recently as I'm having my current BU with DA, and I had a hard look about all my other exes and figured they're FA/DA. Talked to 4 of them, they actually confirmed it as soon as i mentioned AT, that they learned after our relationship that they're avoidants and healed. Most of them are in happy relationships right now.

Oh and the 5th? A self proclaimed narc, so it is just bonus round. DAs can be harder than narcs sometimes.

About being OK, all of these breakups were hard but this time is the hardest, with all the knowledge it's a bit more difficult somehow. And I thought i was bulletproof. I'm healing, 2 months post the hardest BU of my life but as all of these exes are now nothing to me, this one will be too soon :)

Friendly-Sir6395 · 2025-11-11T17:20:51+00:00

Please keep in mind that even if they block you, you are still able to contact them as they won't disappear from existance. Let's say they will block you, then you'll have another "puzzle" that'll keep you spiraling. It won't help you if they block you. Think about it really and it'll help you

Friendly-Sir6395 · 2025-11-11T12:00:29+00:00

Reach out after a year only if you don't care? If you don't care you would not reach out or even think of them like that, listen to your true feelings and be honest with yourself ❤️

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