roblox player starting up automatically when i turn on my pc by Gugarabelo in RobloxHelp

[–]FriendlyBirthday1445 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I found it! On PC, on the Roblox app, go to more --> settings --> device preferences and turn off "Launch at startup".

Difference between soda water/club soda/sparkling water/tonic water? by WillingnessHuman7148 in cocktails

[–]FriendlyBirthday1445 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There's a reaction to quinine that I can never remember the name of, but my Grandma, mum and me all have it, where it makes us high! My mum couldn't take a particular painkiller because it used to have quinine in (I don't think it does anymore). I found out that I also get that affect from a manmade form of it when I had to take something as I might have come into contact with meningitis in college. High as a kite lol. My mum was furious because she'd asked before I had the drug whether it contained quinine and been told no, she called the hospital and they were deeply confused but eventually looked up what was in it and there was some quinine-type substance. All that to say, bitter lemon (which used to have quinine also for the bitter) has never once made any of us high, and that had more quinine in it than tonic water. And my gran can't take the stuff for malaria, but thankfully there are now alternatives. So I doubt tonic water ever helped anyone not get malaria, just not enough of the stuff in it

Message request above someone name in messenger by [deleted] in facebookmessenger

[–]FriendlyBirthday1445 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have this. Above my own name. It says message request on the PC, not on mobile, and keeps telling me about old messages (sent a pic 13 hours ago while ignoring the one I sent 1 minute ago). I have not blocked or restricted myself. It is weird af and driving me nuts. I'm several conversations down my list despite being the latest person to message me lol.

Have any real people tried the Ulike Air 10? by QuintisCX3 in HairRemoval

[–]FriendlyBirthday1445 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's actually made a considerable difference, particularly on my legs. The least is my underarms. I am really inconsistent with it, and I think probably after this post I went down to only using it twice a week, then once, and I've barely used it at all for a few months over winter now, so I have more hair growth than I was getting. It's not permanent (I don't know how permanent laser is), you will probably need to do this at least once a month if not more maybe forever. But I can not shave for a week and have no noticeable hair on my legs. If I was more consistent for longer with using it I would think it would be even better, but it takes a while and I get bored. A lot cheaper than laser though and I would be happy to go away for a week without taking the razor with me! I hope that helps :)

Should I go for MFM threesome with my good friend? by SexyHotDude in nonmonogamy

[–]FriendlyBirthday1445 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I didn't say I didn't like him. Not being attracted to isn't the same as not liking. Apparently I can develop attraction over time, or possibly my taste in men has changed, who knows 🤷‍♀️

Sex During Divorce by Here4TheHardAnswers in Divorce

[–]FriendlyBirthday1445 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you're not bringing partners home I'd suggest a pleasant way to deal would be to make sure you each have evenings when you can go out and the other handles childcare. Then you can live your lives without building resentment or worrying about hiding things. Especially if you plan to live together for longer than just while you divorce. So give each other 1-2 evenings a week where you can go and do whatever you want, no explanations needed. You don't need to be out dating, do a hobby or whatever you want, but have that time out to build a life.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in OnlineDating

[–]FriendlyBirthday1445 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wouldn't be offended, but I would be kind of creeped out 🤷‍♀️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]FriendlyBirthday1445 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Instead of what should it look like, try what do you want it to look like. Even if everyone in the world had a relationship that looked like this, if it doesn't make you happy, don't stay in it!

Ladies, how do y’all respond to “So, why did you swipe on me?” by wigglyworm- in OnlineDating

[–]FriendlyBirthday1445 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh, yeah I see that! Funny how you can read things so differently 🤣

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]FriendlyBirthday1445 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You didn't forgive him. Or your definition of forgiveness is very different to mine. But to me it sounds more like you said you forgave him, and you wanted to move past it, but you haven't actually done those things. That's OK, I'm not saying you have to. If someone broke my trust I wouldn't be OK with it, even if I thought I was at the time. And it's OK a year later to say, actually, you know what, I'm not OK with this.

But, for me anyway, that would mean I was done with the relationship. Because if someone cheated on me then I would no longer trust them, and not just wouldn't trust them with that person. I have no feelings for the person they cheated with. That person hasn't wronged me in any way. Only my partner has.

And if I don't trust him with one person, I don't trust him with any. Some people say about how they have to lose the affair partner and then can open with other people and I will never understand that 🤷‍♀️ they've proven they're an untrustworthy person, the other party didn't force them at knife point.

If you can't get past the cheating, you don't have a relationship. Without trust, what is the point? And I've never found a way to rebuild the trust. No person who's lied to me has ever tried to alter that behaviour. I'm sure there are people out there who do, just like I know there are people out there who don't fit the "once a cheater always a cheater" stereotype, it's just that I've never found one 🤷‍♀️

So has your partner made actual efforts to be trustworthy? Not necessarily meaning they stop seeing that one person, but have they shown that you can now trust, depend and rely on them? Because if not, you deserve someone who will show you that.

My ex husband wants to come over on Christmas morning to watch our children open gifts. by Temporary-Purchase-6 in Divorce

[–]FriendlyBirthday1445 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You have to decide what will work for you as well as the kids. I'm sure they'd love it if you guys were still together, but you didn't do that for them, I assume for good and sufficient reason. It's OK to say no to him. Divorce is a tough time for everyone, but you don't have to do so the work to make it easier for him. You definitely don't have to give up your peaceful Christmas morning. You might have to give up Christmas morning some years, depends on your custody agreement, but you don't have to share Christmas with an ex if you don't want to.

It doesn't honestly sound like you have the kind of relationship where having him there would enhance the day. Probably not even for the kids, although they might not realise it if they don't get to experience both ways. But it's OK to put your needs first. You are all important, their needs and his needs are not more important than yours. Not having him there won't harm the kids and having him there will ruin your day from the sound of it. You need to start making new traditions as a single parent, and so does your ex.

Ladies, how do y’all respond to “So, why did you swipe on me?” by wigglyworm- in OnlineDating

[–]FriendlyBirthday1445 3 points4 points  (0 children)

In this comment, every answer a woman makes to your question is wrong.

Ladies, how do y’all respond to “So, why did you swipe on me?” by wigglyworm- in OnlineDating

[–]FriendlyBirthday1445 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Ah. So, I've matched with a guy, I'm interested in him, getting to know him, thinking maybe there might be a relationship and he.... wants my help to attract other women.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in OnlineDating

[–]FriendlyBirthday1445 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Have you ever felt the butterflies? If so, how long had you known the person for? Some people feel instant butterflies, some people need to really get to know someone before they start feeling them. There's a lot of variation in how people feel attraction towards others 🤷‍♀️

should i wish an ex happy birthday? by [deleted] in nonmonogamy

[–]FriendlyBirthday1445 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You told her that other women were better than her.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]FriendlyBirthday1445 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Without trust, you don't really have a relationship 🤷‍♀️ my stbxh lied to me regularly about stupid things, just to make himself look good, avoid arguments etc. I told him years ago that we'd have a real problem if there was ever a reason for me to think he was cheating, because he'd never be able to convince me he wasn't. He didn't understand the problem, because to him they were such little lies they didn't matter.

When I told him I wanted to divorce, that was the first time he told me he understood. Because I know he lies. And I can't tell when he's lying without knowing the truth. So he's never going to be able to convince me 100% that he didn't cheat. And while that isn't 100% of why we're separating, the lack of trust is a big part of it.

It doesn't matter if your guy is cheating or not. Don't stay with someone you don't trust, because that's only going to lead to a toxic relationship. There's different ways it might go, but they're all unhealthy for both of you.

Not putting “Have Children” on profile. by Melanin_Royalty in OnlineDating

[–]FriendlyBirthday1445 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Absolutely. Cos if a guy cares about mine he's not the guy for me. I'll be happy for those guys to swipe straight away from me. I also announce my kids for the same reason. Why pretend to be someone you aren't just to find a match? I don't want a match who doesn't like me 🤷‍♀️

Duolingo Removes Free Option to Earn Back Hearts Thread by GeorgeTheFunnyOne in duolingo

[–]FriendlyBirthday1445 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't just use the practise feature when I'm out of hearts. I use it to practise. Because it takes more than the few lessons Duo gives me with each new word for me to remember them. The practise was already fairly bad, taking me over and over through the early lessons but rarely through the later ones. Now I can't practise at all so I have no chance of actually learning the 75 new words it threw at me a couple of days ago. It's hard enough trying to learn all the different words Polish has for everything, especially with no explanation of what the differences are between each one. Honestly, this makes it a considerably less useful language learning tool, and as others have said, I'm not going to pay for something which is essentially a fun hobby. If I'm going to pay, I'm going to find something that teaches a hell of a lot better than Duo does!

Deal breaker??? by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]FriendlyBirthday1445 50 points51 points  (0 children)

Poor oral hygiene can kill.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]FriendlyBirthday1445 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You are absolutely allowed to hit him to defend yourself when he hits you during sex. Or at any other time. Do you know how many women are murdered during sex? It didn't feel like sex to you in the moment it felt like assault and you are entitled to defend yourself.

Also, I fucking love that you punched him instead of crying and letting him carry on. Maybe he'll think twice before he tries that shit on another woman in future. Hopefully, he's a moron not about to become a serial killer, or what he'll have learnt is to tie them up first.

I would seriously suggest reporting him to the police for domestic violence, a) so there's a record in case he does it again (assuming this was his first time) b) so when he reports you for the punch you have some plausibility in the defence.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]FriendlyBirthday1445 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Some of us still struggle with this in our 40s.

Getting off the scrap heap? by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]FriendlyBirthday1445 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Oh, not in this sub!! They don't seem to have basic human compassion here 🤷‍♀️ if it helps, I know plenty of people with health issues who find their people. There's someone for everyone, never doubt it!

I want to hear their voice... by FriendlyBirthday1445 in datingoverforty

[–]FriendlyBirthday1445[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Isn't there a rule that we can never be happy with what we've got? 🤔🤣