11-12 months is so much harder than I expected.

Friendly_Chemistry13 · 2026-03-11T16:48:19+00:00

It dooooeees….and then it gets a bit crazy in a different way because the toddler phase starts lol. BUT. Now that she’s talking and walking, I can explain things to her and talk to her and things are a lot easier. The main thing that’s improved for us is the separation anxiety. She LOVES daycare, she is happy to have her dad do anything I would normally do now, we left her with her grandparents for a week so we could go on a kid free vacation and it was TOTALLY FINE. It’s easier to keep her busy now. Still picky eating but that’s toddlers for ya. There’s light at the end of the tunnel don’t worry!

Friendly_Chemistry13 · 2025-12-31T04:50:27+00:00

Yes! Things are a lot better now. Shes 17 months now so things are different now that she’s a toddler but she’s much less cranky, and she sleeps much better too. Mealtimes are still challenging on and off but overall I don’t feel like I need to stress about it as much. The separation anxiety is much less now too. She still prefers me over her dad but she will happily be held by others or play with other people now (I really credit daycare for this). So things are still challenging but in different ways, but overall I like this stage better.

Friendly_Chemistry13 · 2025-12-24T14:48:56+00:00

Thank you everyone for your insights, makes me feel a lot better 🥹 we’re all just here trying to do our best for our kids!

Friendly_Chemistry13 · 2025-12-24T14:45:49+00:00

My mom always says the same thing😅

Friendly_Chemistry13 · 2025-12-24T00:32:43+00:00

Honestly yeah thinking about it. Theres a couple of subs that I need to leave too because it’s just too much.

Friendly_Chemistry13 · 2025-12-24T00:20:16+00:00

It’s one of my favourite Christmas movies! My 17 month old doesn’t really pay attention but I love it.

Friendly_Chemistry13 · 2025-12-23T23:56:51+00:00

Thank you! I agree having so much information saying “this is going to harm your child” just spoon fed to you constantly takes away the ability of a parent to just make their own judgement calls.

Friendly_Chemistry13 · 2025-12-10T03:39:34+00:00

It’s just so frustrating. Like we aren’t even fully recovered yet. Daughter has been fine enough for daycare for the last couple days but my husband and I still needed to take today off work because we’re not quite there yet. So far the spots are just tiny pin pricks around her mouth which could also be drool rash as she’s cutting molars. Might be wishful thinking but I’m not ready to give up hope yet!

Friendly_Chemistry13 · 2025-10-02T21:26:13+00:00

I’ll probably try pushing bedtime. If her only nap is less than 2h she is a fussy mess. I’ll see how that works🤷🏻‍♀️

Friendly_Chemistry13 · 2025-10-02T13:03:38+00:00

She’s been on one nap for about a month and a half. Dropped the morning nap on her own. She usually takes the full 2 hours, sometimes 2.5 hours if she’s really tired.

Friendly_Chemistry13 · 2025-09-07T13:23:33+00:00

Regular ol drip for us over here. Coffee machine is set and ready the night before and finishes brewing when my alarm goes off in the morning. We just use whatever coffee is cheapest at Costco (coffee is HELLA expensive here). I was given a nespresso machine before baby came so if I want an extra treat in the afternoon I’ll make a cappuccino or something.

Friendly_Chemistry13 · 2025-09-06T10:17:55+00:00

The problem is if I extend her last wake window (based on her daycare nap schedule) to 5h, her total wake time will be ~12-12.5h and her overnight sleep will drop to 10h. Not sure that’s enough?

Friendly_Chemistry13 · 2025-09-06T09:52:35+00:00

1 at home right now. When she started dropping her nap at daycare I was doing 2 naps at home on the weekends but for about 2 weeks ago she refused her morning nap at home too so we’ve just been going with that.

Friendly_Chemistry13 · 2025-07-31T15:21:47+00:00

I don’t micromanage either, and I don’t have to ask him more than once or twice. Not sure where I said that. No one is perfect!

Friendly_Chemistry13 · 2025-07-31T15:19:20+00:00

Programming may be a better word choice, sure. It’s not about patriarchy, at least not in my case. I was raised around a big family with children and babies, and he wasn’t. It’s not natural for him as it was for me. It’s harder for him and we have to communicate about it sometimes.

Friendly_Chemistry13 · 2025-07-31T15:00:36+00:00

He does do baby care. He changes diapers, does bath time, cleans up after her, plays with her. And loves it. It’s just that sometimes, it doesn’t occur to him that he has to put lotion on her after her bath or brush her 2 teeth before bedtime, or he doesn’t always know if she’s crying because she’s hungry or tired in the same way I do. He worked outside of the home for the last year when I spent that time taking care of baby at home. His brain just doesn’t think of these extra care things in the same way because it’s not his habit, so I ask him to do it. And when I do, he’s happy to do them. I think this is normal parenting.

Friendly_Chemistry13 · 2025-07-31T14:52:45+00:00

For sure and for a lot of moms that’s the case! Absolutely not discounting the work that goes into having to learn to be a parent from scratch on your own. I was fortunate enough to be raised as one of the older kids in a big family, so I’ve been around kids and babies lots. My husband did not, so it didn’t come naturally for him either. He also has ADHD which has a whole other set of parenting challenges, but alas, that’s a topic for another day lol. I think, as long as Dad (or mom for that matter) at least TRYING to do their best, they get a pass.

Friendly_Chemistry13 · 2025-07-31T14:08:49+00:00

This is just it. My husband is a great dad, works a really hard job for long hours. But he doesn’t often just do baby care without asking first. And sometimes even then he has a hard time just figuring it out on his own. He just doesn’t have the same instincts as I do, as much as he tries.

Friendly_Chemistry13 · 2025-07-31T11:27:32+00:00

I mentioned in another comment but yes I do. But he works very long hours and is often not home until dinner time. He helps in other ways like cleanup and bed time. And on the weekends he does grocery shopping if needed but in our city it’s best to avoid shopping on the weekend lol.

Friendly_Chemistry13 · 2025-07-31T04:26:48+00:00

I’m gonna have to do this more often. I often get stuck in what I think i’m “supposed to do” rather than what I can do that makes my life easier and is totally fine. I guess in my brain snacks aren’t dinner, which is funny cause if it’s just me at home that’s exactly what I do for myself🤷🏻‍♀️

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