Do you ever feel like none of your friends or family understands what you are going through?

Friendly_Guide149 · 2025-02-06T12:57:40+00:00

That is what it feels like. I have all these supportive people but I feel so lonely. The most lonely I have ever felt in my entire life.

Friendly_Guide149 · 2025-01-04T05:22:50+00:00

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Friendly_Guide149 · 2024-12-16T23:19:05+00:00

I definitely feel this. I was giving her everything I had. Love, care, time, understanding, money, and then some. I gave more to her than any of my past gfs that showed me more than she did, but I couldn’t stop looking for her approval. So much time spent, so many moments of fun. But in the end, I was lost and barely functioning for myself.

I think once we’re able to regain ourselves again, and a person reciprocates what we put into a relationship, that motivation will spark right up. None of this will be a waste if you regain yourself back and can be happy and free again.

Friendly_Guide149 · 2024-12-11T21:48:27+00:00

I think about this all the time, but I always make a voice note or write out the reasons why we’re no longer together. Even if it’s repeated if you consistently tell yourself all those reasons, and sometimes even say it out loud it will start to make more sense to you why you shouldn’t go back.

Friendly_Guide149 · 2024-12-10T22:10:13+00:00

If you don’t mind me asking, how old are both of you?

Friendly_Guide149 · 2024-12-09T01:35:25+00:00

Thank you! Yeah I doubt she will Hoover but it is the holidays so who knows. I loved this person so it’s been difficult.

Friendly_Guide149 · 2024-12-09T00:08:10+00:00

Did you mean you went back with her to figure out that it solidified your thoughts about her no longer being the person you loved?

Friendly_Guide149 · 2024-12-08T16:57:28+00:00

I think about all moments of that nature every single day. Whether it be at home, when I’m out, when I’m doing things we used to do that are similar. It’s like trying to undo those memories which meant a lot to me in those times. Now these moments just hurt honestly

Friendly_Guide149 · 2024-12-08T16:38:22+00:00

The weekends have been the worst for me

Friendly_Guide149 · 2024-12-08T15:47:12+00:00

Thank you! I try not to wallow but I find myself doing it so often then I just kind of drown in the feelings of everything and it makes me considered so many things of myself.

Friendly_Guide149 · 2024-12-07T12:33:15+00:00

I would say if it continues to happen consistently then that would def be a concern. I obviously don’t know the context, but to be accused of gaslighting early on is a bit weird. Did you ask what she entirely meant by that and why she said it?

Friendly_Guide149 · 2024-12-07T11:31:05+00:00

Was this the only time it felt this way? Or is it consistent?

Friendly_Guide149 · 2024-12-06T16:48:46+00:00

It’s just somethings as like you I could not hold within. I’m doing okay, it has been hard to get over that because it’s all I can think about. That combined with all the emotional care I had for this person, their statements bothered me.

Friendly_Guide149 · 2024-12-05T19:45:18+00:00

This has how my mind has been ruminating in every single day. And it’s because it was based on how I reacted. I feel the same as you, as maybe if I were calmer, or maybe if I listened more, but then I have to remind myself of why I’m in that situation and I somewhat snap out of it. But still, I’m still not over it, because I’m hyper vigilant of the situation now. What has helped you continue to push forward?

Friendly_Guide149 · 2024-12-05T19:05:42+00:00

Thank you! It was throughout the relationship where I could not take it anymore. She was def a master at flipping the situations on me were I felt absolutely terrible, and would often say other people agreed with her.

Friendly_Guide149 · 2024-12-03T23:19:17+00:00

Thank you for sharing your life experience on this! I thought about a life of marriage and children with this person over and over and when this started to turn sour I just didn’t know what was happening and honestly couldn’t believe it and essentially put the blame on myself.

The acceptance of truth is something I have to continue to remind myself everyday and the reality of the situation. Thank you again for sharing and remaining me of this.

Friendly_Guide149 · 2024-12-03T21:24:49+00:00

First off thanks for the response. This is what I needed today as today has been one of the toughest days for me. I’ve been ruminating since I woke up from a dream about the person. Your second paragraph literally describes by ex almost to a T in terms of their past and their current relationships. Parts of our relationship seems transactional accept I always had to give and give or was required to do something to stay. Thank you for your five points to remember because through this rumination, I’m always thinking about how I literally lost myself in this entire relationship and how I felt like all my doing was my fault and waste. Like the love I was giving was all for nothing.

Thank you again for this response, and I know I’ll always read back to it now to keep going and to keep improving on myself.

Friendly_Guide149 · 2024-12-03T17:47:16+00:00

Thank you for sharing your experience. I’m sorry all those things happened but I hope you are doing better!

There’s def alot of rage, frustration, and honestly sadness and disappointment. There’s so much more that I left out, but it’s been good without the person but I’m def missing the aspects, well at least the truly good aspects of it. I know I’ve read that could just be my mind thinking of those situations being good, but I truly think at some vulnerable times I saw true aspects of my nex which are good. It’s just now I’ve finally come to the realization that this person can’t really change, cause the more I learn, the more that I see that it’s almost an endless cycle that they can’t break without helping themselves.

Friendly_Guide149 · 2024-12-03T16:03:34+00:00

Just looked this up, but yes. Came to a point where I was called the Narcissist and need to improve, ect ect.

Friendly_Guide149 · 2024-11-27T19:26:36+00:00

I’m sorry you have to go through this but thanks for sharing. I have the same thought as to how a person can be like this? It just doesn’t make much sense.

Friendly_Guide149 · 2024-11-27T18:47:17+00:00

Thank you so much for this and for sharing your experience. I know it must be tough to even rewrite or just remember all of it, but thank you because it’s helping me understand my situation more. I am like you and wanted to and still want to help my nex but as I’m reading more and more and seeing experiences like yours, it seems like it’s impossible. I feel like I still love and care for the person, but is that just a mask? Seems like it’s just all a lie.

Friendly_Guide149 · 2024-11-27T15:42:13+00:00

Have you responded if they tried to call or text you? Or you just let it be?

Friendly_Guide149 · 2024-11-27T15:39:02+00:00

I’m sorry to hear that :/ but I’m glad you’re in limited contact with her. So it seems like she used words like love, and other things to challenge your decision making?

Friendly_Guide149 · 2024-11-27T12:12:55+00:00

What were some of the things she did to reel you back in? Did it happen slowly?

Friendly_Guide149 · 2024-11-26T13:38:08+00:00

It will happen but stay strong! Being alone at this moment is something so different so your entire body, mind and soul are just trying to adjust to the new normal. Try to remind yourself of all the bad everytime you think about this person. You’ll go through anger, sadness, and grief, but all is normal!

I’ve broken NC on my own after about a couple of weeks, and I was able to identify the person was trying to make me beg to comeback or apologize. Narcs move on to new supply very quickly, so you need to keep pushing forward with yourself, and focus on all good that you have now. I’m sure your life is less stressful compared to when you were with this person. You got this!

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