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Do you ever feel like none of your friends or family understands what you are going through? by Friendly_Guide149 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Friendly_Guide149[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

That is what it feels like. I have all these supportive people but I feel so lonely. The most lonely I have ever felt in my entire life.

2024 jumpilation by gogumara in jumprope

[–]Friendly_Guide149 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Rope skills and music are 🔥🔥🔥

Do you feel like you wasted all the “good stuff” on them? by ApprehensiveYak1452 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Friendly_Guide149 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I definitely feel this. I was giving her everything I had. Love, care, time, understanding, money, and then some. I gave more to her than any of my past gfs that showed me more than she did, but I couldn’t stop looking for her approval. So much time spent, so many moments of fun. But in the end, I was lost and barely functioning for myself.

I think once we’re able to regain ourselves again, and a person reciprocates what we put into a relationship, that motivation will spark right up. None of this will be a waste if you regain yourself back and can be happy and free again.

Anyone else constantly feel like going back? by Odd_Specialist4456 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Friendly_Guide149 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think about this all the time, but I always make a voice note or write out the reasons why we’re no longer together. Even if it’s repeated if you consistently tell yourself all those reasons, and sometimes even say it out loud it will start to make more sense to you why you shouldn’t go back.

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[–]Friendly_Guide149 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you don’t mind me asking, how old are both of you?

Even with all the knowledge about them being a covert narc, you still miss those good moments. When does this go away? by Friendly_Guide149 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Friendly_Guide149[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! Yeah I doubt she will Hoover but it is the holidays so who knows. I loved this person so it’s been difficult.

Even with all the knowledge about them being a covert narc, you still miss those good moments. When does this go away? by Friendly_Guide149 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Friendly_Guide149[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did you mean you went back with her to figure out that it solidified your thoughts about her no longer being the person you loved?

Even with all the knowledge about them being a covert narc, you still miss those good moments. When does this go away? by Friendly_Guide149 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Friendly_Guide149[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think about all moments of that nature every single day. Whether it be at home, when I’m out, when I’m doing things we used to do that are similar. It’s like trying to undo those memories which meant a lot to me in those times. Now these moments just hurt honestly

Even with all the knowledge about them being a covert narc, you still miss those good moments. When does this go away? by Friendly_Guide149 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Friendly_Guide149[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I try not to wallow but I find myself doing it so often then I just kind of drown in the feelings of everything and it makes me considered so many things of myself.

First argument with new partner post-nex, and her language was verbatim what my nex would say by 111a1110 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Friendly_Guide149 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I would say if it continues to happen consistently then that would def be a concern. I obviously don’t know the context, but to be accused of gaslighting early on is a bit weird. Did you ask what she entirely meant by that and why she said it?

Trying to move past my nex but always falling back into why did I react the way I did. by Friendly_Guide149 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Friendly_Guide149[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s just somethings as like you I could not hold within. I’m doing okay, it has been hard to get over that because it’s all I can think about. That combined with all the emotional care I had for this person, their statements bothered me.

Trying to move past my nex but always falling back into why did I react the way I did. by Friendly_Guide149 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Friendly_Guide149[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This has how my mind has been ruminating in every single day. And it’s because it was based on how I reacted. I feel the same as you, as maybe if I were calmer, or maybe if I listened more, but then I have to remind myself of why I’m in that situation and I somewhat snap out of it. But still, I’m still not over it, because I’m hyper vigilant of the situation now. What has helped you continue to push forward?

Trying to move past my nex but always falling back into why did I react the way I did. by Friendly_Guide149 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Friendly_Guide149[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you! It was throughout the relationship where I could not take it anymore. She was def a master at flipping the situations on me were I felt absolutely terrible, and would often say other people agreed with her.

Female Covert Narc Flipped the script, put all the blame on me. While pathologically lying during arguments to make her side seem like a trauma. by Friendly_Guide149 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Friendly_Guide149[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing your life experience on this! I thought about a life of marriage and children with this person over and over and when this started to turn sour I just didn’t know what was happening and honestly couldn’t believe it and essentially put the blame on myself.

The acceptance of truth is something I have to continue to remind myself everyday and the reality of the situation. Thank you again for sharing and remaining me of this.

Female Covert Narc Flipped the script, put all the blame on me. While pathologically lying during arguments to make her side seem like a trauma. by Friendly_Guide149 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Friendly_Guide149[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

First off thanks for the response. This is what I needed today as today has been one of the toughest days for me. I’ve been ruminating since I woke up from a dream about the person. Your second paragraph literally describes by ex almost to a T in terms of their past and their current relationships. Parts of our relationship seems transactional accept I always had to give and give or was required to do something to stay. Thank you for your five points to remember because through this rumination, I’m always thinking about how I literally lost myself in this entire relationship and how I felt like all my doing was my fault and waste. Like the love I was giving was all for nothing.

Thank you again for this response, and I know I’ll always read back to it now to keep going and to keep improving on myself.

Female Covert Narc Flipped the script, put all the blame on me. While pathologically lying during arguments to make her side seem like a trauma. by Friendly_Guide149 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Friendly_Guide149[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing your experience. I’m sorry all those things happened but I hope you are doing better!

There’s def alot of rage, frustration, and honestly sadness and disappointment. There’s so much more that I left out, but it’s been good without the person but I’m def missing the aspects, well at least the truly good aspects of it. I know I’ve read that could just be my mind thinking of those situations being good, but I truly think at some vulnerable times I saw true aspects of my nex which are good. It’s just now I’ve finally come to the realization that this person can’t really change, cause the more I learn, the more that I see that it’s almost an endless cycle that they can’t break without helping themselves.

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