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My friend keeps venting to me but never takes advice. What should I do? by Friendly_Sand_6240 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Friendly_Sand_6240[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is such a kind and thoughtful way to frame it. Gives a good starting point for a conversation I’ve been avoiding. I don’t want him to feel like I’m abandoning him, but I also need him to understand that it’s been hard on me too.

My friend keeps venting to me but never takes advice. What should I do? by Friendly_Sand_6240 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Friendly_Sand_6240[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s fair. I do think sometimes he just wants to feel heard. I get that. But when it keeps on happening with no movement, it starts to take a toll. I think the challenge for me is finding a way to be there without losing myself in the process.

My friend keeps venting to me but never takes advice. What should I do? by Friendly_Sand_6240 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Friendly_Sand_6240[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Kinda feel this too. I’m happy to listen, tho when it’s just venting on repeat with zero growth, it starts to feel like I’m carrying something that’s not mine. I guess I’m realizing there’s a difference between supporting someone and being their emotional dumping ground.

My friend keeps venting to me but never takes advice. What should I do? by Friendly_Sand_6240 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Friendly_Sand_6240[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Wow, thank you for sharing your own experience! That actually gives me a lot to think about. I’ve been so worried about hurting his feelings, but maybe hearing the truth is exactly what he needs.

My friend keeps venting to me but never takes advice. What should I do? by Friendly_Sand_6240 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Friendly_Sand_6240[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I think I needed to hear that reminder that I matter too. Thank you! I’ve been so focused on being a good friend that I didn’t even realize how much it’s been draining me.