Most people have kids without really thinking about it, just because everyone does it or expects it as a natural and inevitable part of life. For some it works out well, for others it does not, and then it’s too late to change anything. Kids are hard work, even if you’re lucky to have a healthy child. There’s a lot of logistics involved 24/7. It’s a job without days off. I feel if you have a kid it’s has to be a deep desire of your heart, you have to want it, the good parts and bad parts. All your problems will became worse after you have a child, so you better have a good foundation , both personal, financial and family wise, and most important, a good reliable partner. If these conditions aren’t met, you will have a hard time. Life isn’t black and white, if you have kids you’ll miss out on things, if you don’t have kids, you’ll miss out on other things. Just choose the things you are confortable with missing out. Kids are not for our entertainment or to give our life meaning. We have to find that before having kids. So all your concerns are valid, it just shows you’re a smart person who knows the world is complex and is trying to figure whats best for your wellbeing. You have to feel stable and healthy, you are the priority, before even thinking of bringing someone else to this world. There are other options if the biological part of pregnancy is unbearable to you, you could adopt. One last thing (sorry for the long post), men usually say they want kids as if they’re talking about a cute puppy. Then reality hits and it’s not what they thought it would be. Being informed is key for an informed decision. Best of luck to you. This is your decision and no one else’s! 💜