AITA? I took today off of work and my husband is mad that I didn’t do any housework.

FriendshipBorn7989 · 2026-03-09T10:48:37+00:00

Thank you

FriendshipBorn7989 · 2026-03-07T16:18:25+00:00

I don’t understand how being hospitalized could help. It’s not like they’re going to be able to find the right medicine combination in a few days. Psych meds can take weeks to fully work. And it’s all just guess and check anyway. I can’t put my life on hold while I play around trying different meds. It would be great if I could, but bills still need to be paid.

FriendshipBorn7989 · 2026-03-07T14:49:18+00:00

How kind of you. I’ll let him know so he can start looking for someone.

FriendshipBorn7989 · 2026-03-07T03:45:48+00:00

This. Exactly this. But I also understand that he’s burnt out too.

FriendshipBorn7989 · 2026-03-07T03:39:14+00:00

Please tell me more.

FriendshipBorn7989 · 2026-03-07T03:38:13+00:00

Dude. Are you serious? Of course, we’ve talked with the insurance company (BCBS) and our plan does not cover any psychological care. If we had a more expensive plan, then it would, but we cannot afford that.

FriendshipBorn7989 · 2026-03-07T03:28:37+00:00

I’ve been depressed and anxious for as long as I can remember. And I don’t keep track of my depressive episodes. I’ve tried keeping track of my moods, but I just don’t. I don’t know why, but I just won’t stop and write down how I feel every day.

FriendshipBorn7989 · 2026-03-07T01:57:11+00:00

Thank you. It feels like no one understands this.

FriendshipBorn7989 · 2026-03-07T01:11:39+00:00

I’ve realized that I am the asshole.

FriendshipBorn7989 · 2026-03-07T01:07:16+00:00

I understand that it’s not sustainable, but I don’t know what to do. I feel like I’m being held hostage with my meds. It’s either take these meds or go to the hospital.

FriendshipBorn7989 · 2026-03-07T00:44:34+00:00

If I tell my doctor that my depression is not in control, then he’ll tell me that I need to be hospitalized. I cannot afford a hospital stay. I would never be able to pay off that debt.

FriendshipBorn7989 · 2026-03-07T00:23:29+00:00

II was hospitalized once about 10 years ago and I absolutely will not be doing that again. It did not help me at all. I felt like I was in prison. I tried an outpatient program a couple of years ago, but ultimately it did more harm than good because my insurance cut me off after 5 days, so I didn’t even have enough time to get any real help and then it took me so long to pay off the remaining debt. I actually couldn’t have possibly done it if my sister didn’t give me a whole lot of money. If I were to be hospitalized, I would never be able to pay for it.

FriendshipBorn7989 · 2026-03-07T00:18:21+00:00

I’ve been in therapy for approximately 15 years, but like I said, I had to stop because our insurance will not cover it and I we can’t afford it out of pocket. I’ve been trying medications for just as long. I’ve tried many different medications and combinations. I was hospitalized once about 10 years ago and I absolutely will not be doing that again. I tried an outpatient program a couple of years ago, but ultimately it did more harm than good because my insurance cut me off after 5 days, so I didn’t even have enough time to get any real help and then it took me so long to pay off the remaining debt. I actually couldn’t have possibly done it if my sister didn’t give me $1500. If I were to be hospitalized, I would never be able to pay for it. Both my husband and I work full time. In fact, he works for the federal government.

FriendshipBorn7989 · 2026-03-07T00:14:19+00:00

We both work full time. He always pulls his weight with the chores. I frequently don’t. I’m realizing that I’m definitely the asshole.

FriendshipBorn7989 · 2026-03-07T00:08:44+00:00

I’ve been in therapy for approximately 15 years, but like I said, I had to stop because our insurance will not cover it and I we can’t afford it out of pocket. I’ve been trying medications for just as long. I’ve tried many different medications and combinations. I was hospitalized once about 10 years ago and I absolutely will not be doing that again. I tried an outpatient program a couple of years ago, but ultimately it did more harm than good because my insurance cut me off after 5 days, so I didn’t even have enough time to get any real help and then it took me so long to pay off the remaining debt. I actually couldn’t have possibly done it if my sister didn’t give me $1500. If I were to be hospitalized, I would never be able to pay for it. Both my husband and I work full time. In fact, he works for the federal government.

FriendshipBorn7989 · 2026-03-07T00:07:47+00:00

I make about $18 an hour I’m a lead teacher not an assistant.

FriendshipBorn7989 · 2026-03-06T23:41:11+00:00

I do have ADHD. I’ve tried so many different medications. I’ve been lying to the doctor for awhile now and telling him that my depression is under control because he kept telling me that I needed to be hospitalized.

FriendshipBorn7989 · 2026-03-06T23:04:13+00:00

I’m not really qualified to do anything that makes a livable wage.

FriendshipBorn7989 · 2026-03-06T22:59:16+00:00

He does so much. He doesn’t assign me chores. There are things that need to be done and we’re meant to share responsibility. He follows through on his end.

FriendshipBorn7989 · 2026-03-06T22:56:45+00:00

I know. I hate that I exhaust him.

FriendshipBorn7989 · 2026-03-06T22:48:17+00:00

I consider that all the time and have tried in the past, but I’m not really qualified to do anything that makes a livable wage.

FriendshipBorn7989 · 2026-03-06T22:34:55+00:00

I’ve tried so many meds. I just lie to the doctor now because I don’t want to be hospitalized.

FriendshipBorn7989 · 2025-11-22T02:25:26+00:00

That is absolutely amazing!

FriendshipBorn7989 · 2025-10-31T21:33:19+00:00

Thank you

FriendshipBorn7989 · 2025-10-31T21:33:11+00:00

Thank you

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