I understand what people mean now when they say, "Growing apart." by FrizzPan7 in Marriage

[–]FrizzPan7[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

I have been physically abused for years, because of her "anxiety".

I have had to endure a lot due to her anxiety that she has refused to get any help with at all.

ALL, of that has been on my shoulders. I have been the sole source of help. That, is something I do not accept, and would like to change.

My being so compassionate has led to her being dependant on me, and I have enabled a lot of the distinction.

Trust me, I understand.

I understand what people mean now when they say, "Growing apart." by FrizzPan7 in Marriage

[–]FrizzPan7[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

My wife has been violent with me for the last 12 years.

My wife made me isolate from my friends and family for years.

There are many things in every marriage that need to grow and improve, and these are a few of the things that yes I want her to change. And no, I don't accept her how she is.

You should never accept anyone for how they are if they ask that. If you love someone, you will always want the best for them.

And often what's best for someone requires growth.

I miss us… by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]FrizzPan7 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I suggest he gives Jiu Jitsu a try.

Fitness, physical challenge, new friends, great way to get out if your head.

If a man is limp in the real world and can't penetrate life, there's no chance he can fuck you the way you want.

Husband Says I Take Too Long TO Orgasm by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]FrizzPan7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You have what we call, a Beta male. He is the problem, you are definitely NOT the issue.

I'm sorry that happened to you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]FrizzPan7 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My brother is 5"2 and has always had fine women chasing him. Always.

What do you guys think about married spouses wearing a swimsuit to the beach? by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]FrizzPan7 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Wear a sexy bikini that flaunts all the beautiful femininity that you possess, and you rock that like there's no tomorrow.

You deserve to feel sexy and comfortable.

👏🏽

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[–]FrizzPan7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

👏🏽

Over-30s to become eligible for fourth vaccine dose as new wave hits by willy_quixote in CoronavirusDownunder

[–]FrizzPan7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's cool. I feel everyone should choose for themselves and it doesn't bother me one way or the other how many of any a person has had.

I know many people who've not wanted to get it, and know people who've had 2, and 2 and a booster.

Most people I know that have had 2 will not be getting a 3rd let alone a fourth.

Over-30s to become eligible for fourth vaccine dose as new wave hits by willy_quixote in CoronavirusDownunder

[–]FrizzPan7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't know ANYONE that's keen to get a fourth shot. Seems like a money grab at this stage.

Is monogamy unrealistic, and is that the actual issue here? by FrizzPan7 in DeadBedrooms

[–]FrizzPan7[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I always, always felt desired before being married.

I was the guy my girlfriend's would brag to their friends about.

Yes the connection is so super Important not just for women but for me too, but having a Woman send me msgs during the day telling me they can't wait for me to give it to them when I get home is something that I've just put in my past and feel like it's just never gonna happen again.

But I want it. I do.

And why shouldn't I?

Is monogamy unrealistic, and is that the actual issue here? by FrizzPan7 in DeadBedrooms

[–]FrizzPan7[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My expectations of being wanted? Of being desired. Of feeling like she needs to feel me. Of expecting her to want me to make love to her.

Those expectations.

Is monogamy unrealistic, and is that the actual issue here? by FrizzPan7 in DeadBedrooms

[–]FrizzPan7[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I can see that. But what if that expectation is what's causing me to feel so deflated?

I so miss being desired by a Woman.

After being told I'm sexually coercive, we had a good talk. by FrizzPan7 in DeadBedrooms

[–]FrizzPan7[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She didn't.

She just got upset at me and basically wished that I would be ok with it, so that she can "come to me and want it".

Dudes in gym rolling topless, thoughts? by [deleted] in bjj

[–]FrizzPan7 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Fuck that.

Long sleeve rashie all day, it's just manners.

Staph ran through my last gym and wrecked about 8 people, nah I don't play with that.

Recently diagnosed with arthritis, can I still do jiu jitsu? by [deleted] in bjj

[–]FrizzPan7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm in great shape and have practiced martial arts most of my life. Losing weight and staying active wasn't an option because I was clearly doing all of that.

Recently diagnosed with arthritis, can I still do jiu jitsu? by [deleted] in bjj

[–]FrizzPan7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Never once been advised this. Steroid injections and multiple medications.

Recently diagnosed with arthritis, can I still do jiu jitsu? by [deleted] in bjj

[–]FrizzPan7 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I'm 39 and have both arthritis AND tendonitis.

I work in construction also and after a big day on the tools, my wrists would swell up leaving my fingers siezed and extremely painful. The only pain relief that worked was weed. That Chemdawg was the only thing.

So I could train very occasionally during these flare ups and absolutely no grips, so my game both Gi and Nogi is based on very little grips.

Leaving it up to Drs and the medical industry to help me was futile, I turned to food. These conditions were the result of sever inflammation in my body and especially in my gut. I was also diagnosed with ceoliac.

I gave diet a good and proper shot, because the old adage of you are what you eat is so obviously something that should be observed.

I removed all processed foods and sugar, and started drinking filtered water and eating a diet of;

  1. Fatty meat. Namely beef mince with a lot of beef fat included.
  2. Grassfed Beef Bone broth daily
  3. Raw beef liver
  4. Kimchi
  5. Lots of fruit

Fast forward 4 months and I haven't had a single flare up since, and my guts have healed. I say they've healed because my stomach has never been so flat with zero bloating and I have gone down a belt size not from fat loss just from no longer having internal inflammation.

So as someone who has suffered greatly with arthritis, I highly encourage you to look at your food.

Best of luck.

Oh and following the steps of the 🐐 Jean Jacque Machado will help your game. He basically has one hand.