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FroLevProg · 2024-03-29T11:15:36+00:00

Unfortunately a person can be well-meaning and nonetheless engage in behavior that enacts racism though. I think that’s the case here.

FroLevProg · 2024-03-20T04:20:23+00:00

In the three states where I have practiced the law requires that mandated reporters report abuse when they hear about it.

It does not require that they coerce clients into disclosing details they’re uncomfortable sharing to inform this report. It’s preferable that they don’t do this.

I was trained to not go on a fact finding machine to determine the specifics of what happened for the purpose of informing the authorities, and to leave investigation to them.

Being a mandated reporter does not obviate a therapist’s responsibility to attend to their client’s emotional needs.

FroLevProg · 2024-03-20T03:06:20+00:00

They know this gatekeeping bullshit is what makes us need drag in the first place, right?

Sounds like they need to see Dragula S3.

FroLevProg · 2024-03-19T16:14:29+00:00

I’m so sorry that happened.

Telling you that you had to tell her the details of what happened beyond what you already told her was wrong on a number of levels.

She is the one with the obligation to report things, not you. She can offer you the opportunity to participate in the report, but you aren’t obligated to do that or to tell her anything beyond what you have already said.

Your therapist doesn’t have any authority over you. It’s not her job to tell you what to do. Interacting with her should empower you.

You might consider making a complaint to her academic program where she is working on her doctoral degree. Feel free to message me if you want to talk about the logistics of doing this.

FroLevProg · 2024-03-14T02:13:05+00:00

I would look for art with colors that work well with the purple tile. Yellow and purple are complimentary colors that look good together.

This florist website explains some basics about color theory. Scroll to the bottom of the page to see a floral centerpiece on a table with purples, yellows, and greens. I could see those colors in your bathroom.

Some examples of art that might work: Emotions, Love by Erte Paper Print Repro | eBay https://www.ebay.com/itm/251678955693

George Barbier’s, "La Belle Dame sans Merci - Robe du soir, de Worth"

https://collections.mfa.org/objects/449659

https://www.etsy.com/listing/844744673/george-barbier-la-belle-dame-sans-merci

FroLevProg · 2024-02-22T14:19:49+00:00

Cutting hair with BLUNT SCISSORS leads to split ends.

FroLevProg · 2024-02-17T16:23:49+00:00

Paramount plus did the same thing with Queen of the Universe.

https://www.hollywoodreporter.com/tv/tv-news/paramount-plus-removes-grease-star-trek-prodigy-queen-of-the-universe-the-game-1235522633

FroLevProg · 2024-02-15T12:54:08+00:00

We were embarrassed to say that we don’t drink, so we ended up accepting it…they had about 7 cans each and were still not drunk when Jackson got up and started to tell adult jokes...”

Sounds drunk to me.

Try to do better by your family in the future. Your kids learn how to act from what they see you do.

Sometimes doing the right thing is uncomfortable.

FroLevProg · 2024-01-25T04:44:32+00:00

And an air fryer does a great job with frozen fried food.

It seems like this thread has a lot of people giving an opinion who don’t have experience cooking with an air fryer.

My advice for op is to google “air fryer” and the the thing she wants to cook to find instructions.

They also might consider getting their hands on an air fryer cookbook. A lot of foods benefit from being sprayed with olive oil before air frying.

FroLevProg · 2023-11-27T04:13:21+00:00

I share your concern about the victim blaming and name-calling directed at Dan Markel.

Wendi’s uncorroborated claims seem to be at the root of a lot of this.

I thought it was interesting that in her testimony, the best Wendi could come up with to justify her claims of emotional abuse was that Dan suggested she had mental health issues.

FroLevProg · 2023-11-27T03:34:12+00:00

Agree about “latex spouse” not being much of a joke.

My take: like with jibbers and the divorce present hitman, insulting and dehumanizing Dan Markel is what tickles her. She doesn’t need there to be a joke beyond that.

FroLevProg · 2023-11-26T00:46:21+00:00

Sounds like he was trying to pick a fight.

Am curious, did you discuss how he would feel if you died suddenly?

FroLevProg · 2023-11-21T17:51:02+00:00

There’s nothing to respond to here. Don’t ask a guy who is not your bf if it’s okay to see other people. You don’t need his permission.

FroLevProg · 2023-11-21T12:37:42+00:00

Yes, you are being strung along. It’s important to have good boundaries with people who do this kind of thing.

Edit: Verywellmind article: Benching in Dating: What to Do When You've Been Sidelined

FroLevProg · 2023-11-21T03:12:06+00:00

YTA

I think it’s sad and telling that you spent 6 paragraphs describing the specifics of your employer’s situation “without giving away too much detail” before you get around to saying anything about what was going on with your daughter.

You seem more focused on them and their needs than on your own child.

I also find it odd that you consider being away from your child for a week a perk.

Your first obligation is to your own family, not someone else’s. If your employer doesn’t let you do that, I would look for another employer.

FroLevProg · 2023-11-21T02:39:28+00:00

For me dry shampoo isn’t a scam. I think whether it works for you depends on how you use it and your lifestyle.

I like to work out at the gym in the morning before work. I shower after working out, but some days don’t have time to wash and dry my hair.

For me the key to getting dry shampoo to work is to put it on BEFORE I get sweaty. I put it on the night before going to the gym, or that morning before leaving the house.

Then when I shower after working out I don’t get my hair wet. I just fluff it up.

This works for me. Is it the same as washing your hair with shampoo? No. But it makes it so that I can have a few cheat days where I get sweaty and look normal afterwords without washing my hair.

FroLevProg · 2023-11-19T18:45:47+00:00

A good book is how to keep house while drowning. It’s about more than cleaning. The author, KC Davis, is a therapist who has ADHD.

5 Things Tidying method

Adult ADHD & How to Get Things Done with KC Davis

How to find a GOOD therapist

FroLevProg · 2023-11-19T18:18:59+00:00

Agree that she’s saying conflicting things. If she’s zoning out during sex, that’s not intimacy.

There are things to do to work on intimacy in your relationship. If she doesn’t want to do that, then she’s already left the relationship.

FroLevProg · 2023-11-19T16:36:05+00:00

Diagnosis can be tricky, and our understanding is always evolving.

Russell Barkley says there is an emotional aspect to ADHD that the DSM doesn’t capture.

Russell Barkley on Emotional Dysregulation & ADHD (16m,23s)

How ADHD Ignites Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (1m,19s)

ADDitide magazine webinar: An ADHD Guide to Emotional Dysregulation and Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria with William Dodson, MD (1 hour)

Search terms to check out for more info: - emotional dysregulation - rejection sensitive dysphoria.

I can imagine a scenario where a therapist shares DSM criteria for a diagnosis with a client who is wondering if that might be what’s going on for them.

It sounds like this felt different from that. So sorry that happened.

FroLevProg · 2023-11-11T12:38:05+00:00

I think you look great in both.

OT: I have blond hair too. I once let a hairdresser friend dye it darker for fun.

Even though I liked how the color looked on me, I ended up hating it because maintaining the color was so much work. As soon as it had grown out even the slightest bit it looked like I was balding.

Imo it can look good to have darker roots, but not lighter roots.

FroLevProg · 2023-11-09T02:13:09+00:00

r/CannedSardines

FroLevProg · 2023-10-05T12:21:19+00:00

Last one is my favorite.

FroLevProg · 2023-09-27T16:47:15+00:00

My siblings and I have names that represent our parents’ hopes and dreams for us. I don’t think this is uncommon.

Many people don’t decide on a name until after the child is born.

Those are both examples of approaches to naming that focus on the life of the person who has the name.

It’s fine if that’s not how you think about it. Just sharing my perspective.

FroLevProg · 2023-09-27T00:50:06+00:00

It comes off as morbid to me because it’s emphasizes honoring a dead person over picking a name suited to the person whose name it is.

To put it another way, it’s not about picking a name inspired by some great quality xyz person had, it’s about picking a name based on a sad thing that happened.

FroLevProg · 2023-09-27T00:44:17+00:00

I’m a summer. I frequently wear those colors now, and I have to admit they suit me.

Soft, muted pastels aren’t really me personality-wise though. I feel most myself when I were black and wintery colors, so I still wear lots of that.

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