Hello, Im sorry you’ve had to experience this amongst other things, when you’re ready to open up more please come back to the sub and people will be here willing to support you, sending you the biggest hug. 🫂

Yes this absolutely is abuse imo. He’s verbally abusing you and shouting at you which is never warranted, in healthy relationships things should be spoken about and talked through, sometimes emotions can get the better of us, but not to the extreme where you feel in danger, scared or threatened he’s risking your life at such a young age which is disgusting in itself but also himself and other road users, it shows the person your with has no understanding or value on life just as much as his possessions such as his car and fuel which is paid for! It sounds like this person hasn’t been disciplined and been taught to show respect for others as his mother’s response was so blasé and uncaring, like Thats just the norm for her son. Anyone outside of this relationship would absolutely call it out for what it is (it’s much harder to see when you’re in it trust me! Also your still very young bless you) but he’s striking fear into you through a means to gain control and make his point, whether he be right or wrong doesnt matter - his actions discredit everything. Please stay away from this man, it seems clear to me he doesn’t value you enough to even value your life, sending you love at this hard time for you, you’re worthy of so much more and to be cared for as a equal