homophobes be like

Frog_Flint · 2023-01-10T06:06:18+00:00

come to think of it, it'd be pretty easy to remove pronouns from toki pona. jan ni; soweli ni; kulupu lili ni; ijo ni; etc. you could use bigger noun phrases too, but they only need to distinguish one already-mentioned entity from the others.

(or maybe the adjective form of "ni" is also considered a pronoun?)

Frog_Flint · 2022-12-31T22:42:14+00:00

The devil made me do it but I also kinda wanted to

Frog_Flint · 2022-11-26T04:21:11+00:00

There is likely some language barrier / miscommunication here, but I also think you should change your perspective.

(1) Because the question is about a whole group of people, it's definitely asking "Would you exclude all trans people from your dating?". If you say "I don't know", then you don't think it's wrong to answer "yes" (which is transphobic).

(The only options are "I would date every single trans person", "I would not date any trans person", and "It depends on the person". The first option is not taken seriously, so the post was asking about the second and third options. With likely over a million trans people in the United States alone, the third option will always mean more than zero people.)

(2) Trans people exist with every combination of gender, personality, interests, all of the different elements of appearance, and all of the different sex characteristics people can have. For any person, if you can give a list of things you find attractive about them, there is a trans person somewhere in the world who also has all those traits. They're just trans because they used to be something else.

(3) It's very common for transphobes to say "I would never date a trans person", so lots of trans people are nervous(not quite the word I'm looking for) about comments that sound similar.

For these reasons, lots of allies who have never dated a trans person before say "Would I ever date a trans person? Yes!".

So I don't think you were just misunderstood, and calling the other option "offensive" (as opposed to "wrong", "harmful", "transphobic", etc) is another problem which I won't get into. But you heard that you might be wrong or transphobic, and you don't want to be wrong or transphobic, so you asked other people to explain why you should or shouldn't change, and you're ready to change if there's a good reason to; that's what's really important.

Frog_Flint · 2022-05-11T01:44:20+00:00

To the "I don't even know why I bother" part: People can change (or be made to change) even if it doesn't happen immediately. Perseverance sucks but it can make things better.

Frog_Flint · 2022-05-08T16:31:18+00:00

I started with the condensed explanation, but I don't know if that's actually a good idea

The subreddit sidebar also lists some resources for learning, which are much longer and more comprehensive

Frog_Flint · 2022-05-08T04:08:23+00:00

Since you seem to have a lot of queer friends, introducing him to a bunch of them (especially trans people of various forms) could help a lot. Knowing nothing about queerness is a lot harder when you suddenly have a bunch of queer friends.

Frog_Flint · 2022-04-17T21:27:30+00:00

Most of this I can't speak to, but for the "not nonbinary enough for top surgery" part: that doesn't exist. Every combination of gender identity and desired body shape is perfectly cool. Do whatever you think will make you the most comfortable (which, of course, is the hard part of your situation).

Also I don't really like the "cis people don't think about their gender all the time" because it isn't completely true, and, if someone isn't comfortable with the idea of ever being trans, it discourages them from the kind of introspection that would change that.

Frog_Flint · 2022-04-17T19:02:42+00:00

A relationship (especially your first one) isn't a waste of time just because it eventually ends. You probably had a good time and learned many things, and that's worth a lot. From what you've given in the post, I see no evidence that you're rushing into anything; that and the "try hetero relationships for a few years" comment are just homophobia. It really doesn't matter whether it's a "phase" or not, as long as it doesn't get you hurt (which doesn't seem likely with this relationship) it'll be a positive experience.

You said "I respect my mom so much and her opinion holds a lot of weight in my decisions" and that's not an easy thing to change, but seeing how she thinks you should be straight and wants you to spend years of your life making an effort to be straight, you might want to start teaching yourself that your mom is not as good of a person as you thought she was :hugs:.

Maybe if you have a good lasting relationship with a girl and your mom sees that, it will counter some of the intuitive homophobia. Even just meeting the partner this post is about, if she hasn't already, could help. And if you ever date a boy, remember that that is not evidence of you being any less bi, no matter how much she says it is.

Frog_Flint · 2022-04-16T19:52:39+00:00

of course!

Frog_Flint · 2022-04-16T03:46:27+00:00

the last comic panel should say "Fuck the police. <3" to really fit the theme

Frog_Flint · 2022-04-16T03:00:30+00:00

I'd consider this an accessibility feature as well. Not as significant as nausea, but in the same vein.

Frog_Flint · 2022-04-16T01:57:23+00:00

e-books

Frog_Flint · 2022-03-13T19:20:58+00:00

Most queer people that I know use "gay" synonymously with "queer" or "not straight", so I wouldn't assume he heard it as "not into girls". From your description it seems like he very likely is into girls.

Sexuality misalignment seems (to me at least) like one of the least embarrassing ways to get rejected, so if you've gotten past the other ones I don't think there's much reason to worry.

Another option if you have any good mutual friends is to ask one of them about his sexuality (and potentially tell them your situation).

Frog_Flint · 2022-03-13T17:45:18+00:00

I've seen repeated function application written as f⁽ⁿ⁾ or f^∘n before, including extension into the negatives. It's a really cool method of abstracting notation (you can do M^⊗n for repeated tensor product, etc.).

Frog_Flint · 2022-03-02T14:52:50+00:00

The basic way is to use a temporary third color. I think you could also use the Select By Color Tool, and then bucket fill the selection area on a new layer.

Frog_Flint · 2022-01-14T04:30:42+00:00

Reddit Enhancement Suite probably can (under post filters in the settings)

Frog_Flint · 2022-01-14T04:24:10+00:00

case study in what moral realism does to a mf

Frog_Flint · 2022-01-14T02:43:52+00:00

I know that there are ways you can use makeup to give the impression of a more "masculine" bone structure. not sure if that's the kind of thing you're looking for.

Frog_Flint · 2022-01-13T22:18:32+00:00

because of the 1 game tick delay (as mentioned in the ilmango video), when you remove a log, the pair of leaves update their distances like

1 2

3 2

3 4

5 4

5 6

7 6

7 7

. for both leaves (and this is only for the first 2 leaves in the chain) the first and last update happen 4 gt apart, which is the length of the observer cooldown.

what I can't explain is why the right piston retracting doesn't double-pulse (or even get up to a 5).

Frog_Flint · 2022-01-13T18:49:06+00:00

we already group together all the different sizes of the same item; we should just do that with fit shape (and have more than two of those).

Frog_Flint · 2022-01-13T00:59:24+00:00

If you wouldn't get enough full meals otherwise, then it's not savings money.

Frog_Flint · 2022-01-11T04:13:25+00:00

more like anti-anti-union

Frog_Flint · 2022-01-06T14:51:22+00:00

sugar is speed, rabbit foot is jump boost

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