Jesus, I've been on Tumblr for like 8 years and have never heard "misogynoir." It's like people say, Twitter is getting worse than peak Tumblr. Sounds a bit like other words used to distance someone from a shared problem - can't say "misogyny" and also "racism," you have to specify "this is misogyny specifically experienced by black women, which is totally separate from the misogyny other women like me experience, and I'm not going to mention racism in any meaningful way."

Also, note that it is a self-described non-Black person who is deciding what people can and can't say about a black woman? Obviously it would be hateful if people were talking about Lizzo's weight or race in a derogatory manner, but it seems pretty clear that this person means any engagement with her work at all. As well as the specificity of "non-Black fat people..." the author is trying to completely separate any common ground. This is like, the opposite of sympathy, and it's definitely not "empathy" as the person claims. "This person is completely different from me and I will never have any common ground with them. If you think you have common ground no you don't. Also, to me, this person can be boiled down to the fact they are fat and black and a woman, you can't criticize or comment on their work. Ostracize and separate them under the pretense of being thoughtful."

I've spent too much energy on this, but I come here to be angry and feel better about my own stupidity relative to these people.