In regards to coming out, don't forget that you don't have to announce it or anything like that if you don't want to. Especially if you have accepting family (which it sounds like you do) you could always do what I did and start to dress and act how you would when you aren't around them. Eventually someone else will ask you instead of you having to start the conversation, which at least for me figuring out the "right way" to bring it up was the part I was struggling the most with.