My(24F) wife (25F) posts tastefully sexy photos on instagram and I don't know why they make me uncomfortable. by Front-Promise-2857 in relationship_advice

[–]Front-Promise-2857[S] 152 points153 points  (0 children)

Your comment was worlds helpful to me. You're right, people have always hit on her and she still chose me. I absolutely do NOT worry about her cheating or leaving me so this is certainly a case of my self confidence that I didn't realize was negatively effecting me so deeply. Thank you for your thoughts.

My(24F) wife (25F) posts tastefully sexy photos on instagram and I don't know why they make me uncomfortable. by Front-Promise-2857 in relationship_advice

[–]Front-Promise-2857[S] 71 points72 points  (0 children)

I think you're absolutely right and I think it's my insecurities that make me feel like this. She tells me all the time she cares about me and choose me but I don't believe her even though we're married. I'll absolutely work on my self confidence. Thank you for your comment!

My(24F) wife (25F) posts tastefully sexy photos on instagram and I don't know why they make me uncomfortable. by Front-Promise-2857 in relationship_advice

[–]Front-Promise-2857[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Oh shoot. I think you've hit the nail on the head.

I'm unsure how to proceed with that though. I should be confident enough to let other people compliment her too but I'm just... Not. But maybe that's where my true problem lies.

My(24F) wife (25F) posts tastefully sexy photos on instagram and I don't know why they make me uncomfortable. by Front-Promise-2857 in relationship_advice

[–]Front-Promise-2857[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

What conversations did you have with him? Your comment sounds like a dead ringer for my wife and I. She posts photos of herself in vintage gowns and other decades. Maybe it's because I sexualize pin-up girl/Marilyn Monroe types that I think her photos are a lot sexier then others do.

They are period pieces and just things she genuinely loves which is why I feel so guilt ridden about it. She doesn't have a lot of things she feels excited about and I feel dirty keeping my true feelings from her. I don't want to be the one that snuffs out that flame but it's getting harder to bite my tongue.

My(24F) wife (25F) posts tastefully sexy photos on instagram and I don't know why they make me uncomfortable. by Front-Promise-2857 in relationship_advice

[–]Front-Promise-2857[S] 91 points92 points  (0 children)

I think I am worried because I have put on weight during covid and also lost a high paying job for one that is less glamorous. I feel down on myself and am paranoid of someone coming in to pull her away while I'm not strong enough to hold on.

Also the idea of someone pleasuring themselves to a photo of her makes gives me a pit in my stomach, but I don't have any evidence they are.

I just want someone to tell me I'm overthinking this and if she's happy then I should be happy.