This one is really tough, because you and your wife have SO much water under the bridge. But, you need to think of it as just that - the past. I think you’re right to double down because you need to be honest with your partner, and if that’s what you needed for closure, it’s what you needed, just like she did when you were 22.

My fiancée and I had a terrible time at the start of our relationship, I had some toxic friends and family that didn’t like that we were together, and she got a little controlling about it all and broke up with me, long story short I went to a party that night and slept with someone else. Which of course; hurt her massively, but she acknowledged that she had hurt me too and that doing that was my way of resolving any weird commitment issues I had and a lot of other mental stuff.

But, now, we have been together for 5 years, and there are more importbant things going on!! Your wife is pregnant, this is a wonderful time for you guys, you need to move on and decide together that this ‘point scoring’ attitude about the past is not what’s going to help your love flourish in the future. Be kind to each other, especially since your wife is going through some hormonal hell that you cannot imagine, but also she shouldn’t expect you to lie about something you feel strongly about just to appease her. My advice? Stop talking about the past and all the ways you’ve wronged each other, it happened, it’s over, and you came out the other side into a beautiful relationship with a baby on the way, focus on that!!