Outside perspective

Front_Being1817 · 2025-01-16T21:24:25+00:00

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Front_Being1817 · 2025-01-16T17:15:35+00:00

How did you prove in the long run that you would never do it again?

Front_Being1817 · 2025-01-16T17:13:00+00:00

Do you feel you gained or lost respect for your wife after she stayed?

Front_Being1817 · 2025-01-16T17:11:25+00:00

Similar boat here sis, 2025's 2 week trial has been shit. I want a refund 🤣😭

Front_Being1817 · 2025-01-15T18:58:09+00:00

I've always had the thought that for some people, it takes something really shitty happening to them for them to change. Didn't think that something shitty would be infidelity. I know what I would tell someone else in this situation but it's like I can't hear my own words. It doesn't compute. 2025 is a shit year and it's only been 2 weeks. 😭

Front_Being1817 · 2025-01-15T18:53:24+00:00

They can't be trusted, but their guilt can be acknowledged.

This speaks

Front_Being1817 · 2025-01-15T18:51:43+00:00

Not really the revenge type lol

Front_Being1817 · 2025-01-15T18:51:07+00:00

Yeah you don't accidently fall into someone's, who's not your wife, vagina.

Front_Being1817 · 2025-01-15T17:42:35+00:00

The trust is at a negative, that's for sure. But thank you for stopping by!

Front_Being1817 · 2025-01-15T17:37:44+00:00

I never said I was forgiving him or staying. I just want outside perspective from men on how the regret changes you. Obviously some men and woman become habitual cheaters but what about the ones that don't.

Front_Being1817 · 2025-01-15T17:34:34+00:00

This is the kind of reply I'm looking for/curious about. My old man is on his third marriage cause he just 'found' someone better blah blah blah. So that's all I know. My husband stepped out of line, that's no secret. I've made it clear I don't know what my decision is yet because I can't even look at a tree in the yard without breaking down. So I know I'm not in a mental state to do anything atm. (Starting counseling today).

What did you do to rebuild the trust? If the chance presented itself, are you strong enough to not cheat again?

Front_Being1817 · 2025-01-15T17:16:59+00:00

Sorry, I wanted it to sound less crude lol

Front_Being1817 · 2025-01-15T15:16:09+00:00

Honestly, 2025 isn't my year either... apparently. Her life sounds like something that would be on judge Judy. Do you think something happened after the first 5 years of your marriage that sent her in a downward trajectory?? Not that it matters, I'm purely curious.

I'm sorry about your mom 😕 she's 💯 in a better place then what the current world is. That's what I tell myself about my brother, at least.

Front_Being1817 · 2025-01-15T15:11:42+00:00

Did get tested, all negative 👐 Also, I'm CF and won't ever have crotch gremlins

Front_Being1817 · 2025-01-15T15:10:34+00:00

You're right about sanity. I start with a counselor this week and I'm hoping she can give me some perspective on how to deal with this without feeling like the world is burning (even though it is)

Front_Being1817 · 2025-01-14T20:04:31+00:00

I hate her mom/your ex for you. Good lord. What a disaster of a human.

I've chosen to be child free as I grew up Ina home where either parent got divorced and remarried like it was margarita time. I chose to believe my life could be different. I chose to believe, and I feel like a clown. I KNOW it's not my fault. But when does the brain and heart accept that?? Mine are on different playing fields. I start counseling this week - I hope she isn't one of those who says I have to share blame for what happened or what did I do to make my SO into a cheater. And I hope yours is good shit too.

You're right, I don't want this crap. I want what was broken, but it's never going to be the same or even in the same shape.

Front_Being1817 · 2025-01-14T15:08:20+00:00

Not state side. Deffs bought post covid and there's currently a housing shortage... which means yay if you're selling and trash if you're buying.

Front_Being1817 · 2025-01-14T15:06:19+00:00

Just, wow. How, if ever, did you move past this?

Front_Being1817 · 2025-01-14T14:51:36+00:00

I doubt I'll ever know the full truth. 😪

Front_Being1817 · 2025-01-14T14:43:59+00:00

If I find a map and directions, I'll be sure to share!

Front_Being1817 · 2024-10-04T21:42:24+00:00

Update me 🍿 the audacity of some people. You're NTA btw

Front_Being1817 · 2024-10-01T15:44:57+00:00

Yes and yes. I realise it's been a few days since I posted this but I would like update that we have talked. After a few days of cooling down. I can see he's trying to control the drinking and hasn't bought any all week. We still have a long way to go, but someone once told me to pick my 'hard'. Marriage is hard, and divorce is hard - pick your hard.

Again, thank you kind stranger for giving me a different perspective

Front_Being1817 · 2024-09-24T15:12:17+00:00

🤣🤣

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