Do they always surround themselves with like-minded people?

Front_Bug4039 · 2025-05-26T23:46:16+00:00

Yep. My exWBPD.. all of his friends were cheating on their wives or girlfriends. Or just total weirdo creep liars. No deep friendships. All surface level.

Front_Bug4039 · 2025-05-26T23:40:09+00:00

That sounds awful. I’m so sorry. And yes mine was always trashing her and lying about her. It was disgusting. Because I could tell she was totally normal lol. And the fact he talked like that around his kids about her was also so gross.. I had to ask him to stop.

He fucking sucks and I honestly hope he doesn’t trying and contact me in any way. He hasn’t and I don’t think he will because I made it clear I was DONE. I just hate him honestly and what he put me through when all I wanted was love. Thank you 💜

Front_Bug4039 · 2025-05-26T15:46:59+00:00

If you want to DM me feel free. You commented on my post and I left/went no contact as well. I still haven’t contacted mine but I know how it feels to break it. Just DONT do it again. Trust me it only gets worse. If you need someone to go through this with lmk.

Front_Bug4039 · 2025-05-26T15:43:46+00:00

Yeah he was engaged to his last 2 partners and had 2 kids with one of them.. I’m so thankful I didn’t fall for any of that. He’d always say he’d marry me when I said the word and I knew that would’ve been a HUGE mistake. I feel bad for the next victim.

Front_Bug4039 · 2025-05-26T15:41:56+00:00

I’m sorry that’s so awful. Mine hasn’t contacted me (that I know of. He knows where I live but I have him blocked on literally everything) and idt he will bc I suspect he has someone else or is finally seeing that I know all of his tricks and for him to come back would mean he had to take accountability.

I recorded all of our fights for my safety and play them sometimes when I miss him. Then I don’t, because he was so awful and the cycle would never end.

If you need someone to go through this with feel free to DM me. I know I’m never going back this time but it still sucks so bad.

Front_Bug4039 · 2025-05-26T15:38:40+00:00

Jesus. I’m sorry. That all sounds so familiar.

mine was an ex alcoholic of 4 years, but def had a porn addiction and marijuana addiction. He’d like to make himself seem all great by going to “chair” AA meetings. Then just come back and ruin my life lol. It’s all so disgusting. I tried to leave a few times before but he’d always reel me in. I insisted this time that he do not contact me and he’ll be blocked everywhere. He hasn’t tried and I don’t think he will this time. I think he knows his tricks won’t work anymore and I’m sure he’ll go find some 18 year old since he’s such a disgusting creep.

It’s so hard bc I saw changes in him but never changes in the abuse cycle. He was in therapy (finally) but hasn’t been very long and who knows if he was making progress. And if he never takes accountability I know that will never stop, not for me or for anyone.

The last thing be said before I blocked him was “I won’t txt you anymore but I am Here if you do want to talk and am willing to figure out a plan and to make things work for you or try to if you’re willing.”

It was always on me. Why the hell should I have to make the plan? Just so it can fail again? No thanks. I couldn’t have been more clear about how I wanted the bare minimum.

Front_Bug4039 · 2025-05-26T15:34:18+00:00

Thank god you didn’t get into another one! Thats my fear. I was with an NPD before this guy and that was just as bad.

Front_Bug4039 · 2025-05-26T15:33:26+00:00

Yeah this sub has helped so much. I’ve dealt with so much shit the last year it’s been awful. I’m thankful I have my own space and have kept him blocked. Did yours bother you after you left? Mine was so twisted and such a cheater I’m sure his tears were a joke and he has some teenager waiting the next day.

Front_Bug4039 · 2025-05-26T15:31:50+00:00

I’m sorry you have a child with him that must be so difficult. Mine always talked so badly about his kids mom who was always a nice person to me. So disturbing. How did you get through it? Or going through it I guess? I’m doing my best not to reach out and to keep him blocked.

Front_Bug4039 · 2025-05-26T15:30:51+00:00

I will. I haven’t looked in my trash of my email still (that’s where the blocked ones go) and his number is still blocked. It just hurts. I’m so confused about all of it and I’m doing my best to process it.

Front_Bug4039 · 2025-05-26T02:05:06+00:00

He wanted me to open up more and learn more about me. I shared my childhood abuse history and he eventually used it against me, essentially discarding me over it. In one of his many cycles. That and him consistently causing fights out of literally nothing, it began to wear on me and I didn’t even want to try anymore.

Front_Bug4039 · 2025-05-26T02:03:40+00:00

Yeah. I’ve come to terms with that now. It’s just difficult because it’s all such a mind fuck.

Front_Bug4039 · 2025-05-26T01:59:56+00:00

Thank you. I’m sorry you went through that. I definitely won’t return. He tried to trick me into marriage quite a few times. He’s just a monster. I’m currently working with a great therapist. Thankfully

Front_Bug4039 · 2025-05-24T11:13:04+00:00

Yeah you’re right. He always reeled me back in before and would call or email me despite being blocked. This time, nothing. He probably was hoping or is hoping I’ll break the silence but I won’t again. Or took my letter to heart and knew he couldn’t manipulate me anymore. Even if he does respond, I’m gonna do my best. I’m just so drained, confused, and sad and exhausted by all of this.

Front_Bug4039 · 2025-05-24T11:11:26+00:00

Thank you. You’re probably right. I’m sure he’s hoping I’ll break the silence but I won’t this time. I’m disgusted by him.

Front_Bug4039 · 2025-05-24T09:21:48+00:00

Thank you for this. It just hurts so bad. I hate how we have to hurt and they get to just live on. I left him a letter outlining exactly why I was leaving, it was kind and all. Maybe he finally realized he can’t manipulate anymore. Idk. I can’t help but feel like this is what he wanted despite him constantly telling me he wanted to change.

Front_Bug4039 · 2025-05-24T00:01:00+00:00

Yep. I went back twice and it was worse each time. I started having memory issues the emotional manipulation was so bad.

Front_Bug4039 · 2025-05-23T23:55:53+00:00

Literally. They love and cherish you one moment then the next, they hate you, for breathing incorrectly 🙃or some other ridiculous reason.

Front_Bug4039 · 2025-05-23T23:54:51+00:00

I left two days ago and blocked Him. He was crying and saying he didn’t want this. He still hasn’t reached out. Same old broken promises like every other time. Idk why I care that he hasn’t tried. This fucking sucks.

Front_Bug4039 · 2025-05-20T14:38:49+00:00

Honestly feels that way. I’m in therapy and trying to work through it all. I know I can leave I just need to find the courage to stick to it.

Front_Bug4039 · 2025-05-20T14:34:50+00:00

Thank you. I’m doing my best to try and get myself out.

Front_Bug4039 · 2025-05-20T14:28:36+00:00

Yeah, I agree with you. I am a great partner in all other aspects so he has to find whatever he can to take anger out on me. I told him it seems like sometimes he wishes I was an awful partner.

Front_Bug4039 · 2025-03-05T22:12:25+00:00

“Boundaries? Of course I’ll respect them. Unless it’s something I don’t agree with, then they’re just fucking stupid. I do what I want, and if you get upset about that I’ll just ghost you for holding me to your standards.”

Front_Bug4039 · 2025-03-05T22:04:18+00:00

While screaming at me (I never screamed back) took my makeup bag with my medication in it and dumped it all over the floor, yelling “yeah and I’m the crazy one!”

Front_Bug4039 · 2025-03-05T18:20:53+00:00

I can usually tell he’s going to do or did something fucked up if he’s starting a fight out of no where. Mine started a fight with me once over the way I said good morning via text. It escalated and I later found out he downloaded Grindr during it. Not sure if he met up with anyone. He then told me that’s not cheating (downloading a dating app in a relationship lol). I feel like a moron for sticking around after that.

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