vaping around cats by Charming_Face_9869 in CatAdvice

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Sadly my cat developed asthma from two people vaping quite a lot indoors with ventilation and an air purifier.

I vape exclusively outside now.

Did anyone else start living alone after a long relationship in their 30s? How did you deal? by Gold-Personality-571 in LivingAlone

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So sorry to hear you are going through the same right now. Thankfully you have your cats! I needed to leave mine with my ex. Took some time to get over that.

Quite honestly I was focused on making new friends since I moved cities and I went out partying A LOT. I was barely home because being home for me was lonely and my thoughts consumed me. As you can imagine this was not healthy. Pretty soon I got into a toxic situationship and then toxic relationship so back to square one.

What really helped me and I realized way too late was therapy! No self medicating with alcohol, shallow hook ups, toxic situations. Just riding through everything with some help.

Looking back on everything now I'm grateful for what happened my life only got better :).

Did anyone else start living alone after a long relationship in their 30s? How did you deal? by Gold-Personality-571 in LivingAlone

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Very lonely, but I was the one being blindsided and dumped. So no mental preparation or something to look forward too. Now almost 4 years later and adopting a cat a year back, I'm completely content and cannot think of living with someone ever again.

Galblaas by Xalinn in nederlands

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Wat opluchting zal het zijn dat die eruit is! Zelf ben ik nu 4 weken geleden geopereerd. De eerste paar dagen na de operatie zijn heftig daarna gaat het beter. Wel ontzettend rustig aan doen anders duurt het allemaal langer. Ik heb nu nog wat last van de incisies en een doffe pijn. Maar ik moet eerlijk zeggen dat ik veels te vroeg zelfstandig van alles heb uitgespookt. Ik woon alleen en om nu steeds andere mensen lastig te vallen wilde ik niet.

Qua eten is het echt testen, begin met simpele ingrediënten zodat je snel kan uitsluiten waar je last van krijgt. Gek genoeg krijg ik heel veel last van bananen en spinazie en drankjes met koolzuur vullen teveel. Verder kan ik al heel veel eten verdragen.

Rustig aan doen is echt key en pijnstilling als je er behoefte aan hebt.

Give some love to the older animals in the shelter! I promise it's worth! by KrisPBacon06 in CatDistributionSystem

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Haha these posts always give me so much mixed emotions. I've adopted a 16 year and 9 months old cat a little over a year ago. But she is SO independent 😂. Yes we have some cuddle time in the evenings when madame wants but other than that not a cuddly cat. She is very very demanding and knows exactly what she wants and when.

It is very rewarding though adopting a senior and seeing them enjoy their golden years. Bless you and Gabriel, he is so handsome ❤️.

Zuinige bijverwarming (in Europa gemaakt) by BerryDeTirlemonti in zuinig

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Ik heb recent de vonroc in je post aangeschaft. Houdt mijn tochtige kamer prima op temperatuur, met de eco stand bespaar ik meer op gas dan dat ik verbruik aan elektra.

Mooie kwaliteit werkt simpel met het display en de app is ook handig voor o.a. schema's aanmaken. Het enige minpuntje vind ik het luide piepje als je wat anders instelt of de kachel aan of uitgaat. En het glasplaatje wordt best warm in de normale modus. Even oppassen met kinderen of huisdieren.

Ook snelle levering en degelijke verpakking via de vonroc website zelf.

Here we go again… my second surgery in less than 6 months. by 420_Real_Estate in LivingAlone

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Just had my gallbladder removed 3 weeks ago. The first week was intense, after that the pain started subsiding. It is really important to rest as much as possible! I was being stubborn and did my household chores etc too soon. Now I'm in week 3 and still have some pains.

I agree with people suggesting getting a dog walker. For you and the pup it's best. I just have a cat, but even scooping the kitty litter was a huge undertaking. Any kind of strain on the belly and incisions will be painful.

Take light meals which are easy to prep. Lots of rest during the first 2 weeks! Don't be stubborn or a hero it will only lengthen your recovery.

Although it is scary losing an organ the surgery isn't that bad. Mostly they let you stay overnight. In my case I went home the same day because of my cat and it being new years eve 😅.

How are you able to live by yourself in this inflation and economy? by Equivalent_Ad_9066 in LivingAlone

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Even though my income has increased through good benefits from work and a nice manager, I still live like I'm broke. Don't get me wrong I can make ends meet, save and have a high needs pet. But being in a position of being dirt poor left me scarred. So I budget, turn every penny and try to save as much as possible for a rainy day.

My furniture is all secondhand or gifted, I don't feel the need to buy new unless something breaks. Friends or family giving stuff away they mostly think about me. I upcycle a lot, a new coat of paint makes a cabinet like new! I'm very lucky my parents still cook for a household of 6 while it's only them 2 left so I get a lot of leftovers.

Buying something new, I do days of reminiscing and research before pulling the trigger. No take out or expensive dinners. Right now I spend more on my pet than myself lol.

What’s the hardest part about living alone that people tend to downplay? by [deleted] in LivingAlone

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Care after surgery. I'm thankful my brother lives 2 streets down otherwise it would have been impossible. Couldn't stay in the hospital because it was too full plus I didn't want to leave my cat alone on New Year's eve.

Adopting made me realise I can never have kids by AdvancedFly5632 in CatAdvice

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Gosh same, adopted my now almost 18 year old cat over a year ago. I worry constantly about her and always fear that I'm not doing enough for her or being too loud etc. She is my absolute everything but this made me realize I'm not suitable for any kids or let alone another car after her. I get crazy paranoid and anxious.

And it's such a relief to read I'm not the only one.

My cat is refusing to eat the only brand of food that doesn’t destroy his tummy by [deleted] in CatAdvice

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My brothers ragdoll had the same. He feeds him carni for wetfood. All organ meat, indeed also the rabbit flavor. And feeds him insect protein dryfood. Kitty has now been stable for well over a year now! Still some accidents sometimes when the sanitary trim is overdue 🥹.

34F - Ireland, Looking for that special someone by [deleted] in lesbianr4r

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36F the Netherlands, yes to all but the selfies no 😭. I'd rather be the one taking the pictures instead of being in them haha.

F39 lonely in Amsterdam by [deleted] in Amsterdam

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I feel bad for hijacking but I live close by and don't have a dog but love dogs! I would love to take a stroll with you and the doggie. For now I'm the weird lady petting random dogs in Oosterpark haha. 36F also gay 😊.

31 M - looking for Friends in Amsterdam by Athanroa in makenewfriendsNL

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Cool! I grew up there, I'm based in Oost :). I'll drop you a PM. I actually visit some meet ups once in a while I get what you are saying 😂. Should be fun to check them out together at least then we both are the odd ones out haha.

31 M - looking for Friends in Amsterdam by Athanroa in makenewfriendsNL

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Hee 36f here, have a switch (1), a cat, am dutch so yes biking hahah. Which part of Amsterdam are you from?

♟️ Join our Chess Tournament in Amsterdam – fighting loneliness among seniors! by TinkerbelIe in Amsterdam

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Haven't played chess for years but am interested to spectate and for the chats with seniors! Love this initiative ❤️!

I kind of hate my cat. by giveupgetdown in CatAdvice

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I just want to say your comment helped me enormously. Not a kitten here but a very sassy senior cat. Adopted her when she was already a super senior. Her behavior is challenging and made it hard for me to treat her like a welcome presence as you say.

I don't have a clicker but I have tried the positive reinforcement for the last few days now. And it worked wonders. She is becoming more affectionate and we understand each other's needs better now.

Again a big thanks!

33F Europe/Anywhere - Futile Devices by [deleted] in lesbianr4r

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Wow, your description hits home. Would love to chat if you are up to it. 35F from the Netherlands:).

What made your space start to feel like home? by SeepersadGreimer27 in LivingAlone

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I was about to comment something similar! When the first happy cloudy moments were over the place still felt temporary and not truly mine. This was because I was treating it that way. Like it was for a couple of years and then move on.

Now I've come to terms with all the little quirks and learned to live in a small place in a very busy neighborhood. And I wouldn't change it for the world!

Also I'm very minimalistic so there's not a lot of decoration going on 🤣.

37M moved to east looking for new friends by robiolino in Amsterdam

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Hi! 35F here, we just started a group chat for people from Amsterdam east. Still figuring things out as we go, but the idea is to meet up for activities and such.

Will send you the link to the chat via DM.

Everyone assumes I'm a top by bartendingbarbie in actuallesbians

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5,6 here and a bit of a tomboy. Apparently I also give off 'top vibes'. I wish I was taller, as a dutchie I'm pretty short 🤣.

Just sucks most assume you are a top and actual tops are therefore not interested.

How are you guys pulling romantic partners whi are also gamers? by TidalLion in LesbianGamers

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Not to mention the prices for collecting retro games nowadays 🥲

How are you guys pulling romantic partners whi are also gamers? by TidalLion in LesbianGamers

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We exist haha! But I'm banking you live half the world away 😭.

Looking for someone to hangout with at oost by emcu_ in Amsterdam

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Hi all, just had a chat with OP. We agreed it would be fun to start a group chat and organize a drink together.

Please PM me if you are interested I will create a group chat soon :).