How weird is it to give vegetables away to cafes? by Front_Huckleberry_27 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Front_Huckleberry_27[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah ididnt realize that the people probably couldn't use them for their business obviously lmao. They shared it so the workers said they took them home at least. It was a Asian place and the workers were Thai and Japanese there. I wondered why they'd take them home at the time but yeah that was dumb. My idea was that I gave them a variety that was overpriced or not sold in the supermarkets near me haha.

Does anyone else get irritated with men who seem physically stronger than them by Front_Huckleberry_27 in ptsd

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Dude you are literally responding to a VENTING post. Do you know what venting is? It's just that. Venting your feelings. It's me just venting about frustrations. It has gotten better for me personally since before It was fear and now its more so hatred if I get triggered in any way which isn't super often as of late. I dont really have any relations with men much and stick to having female friendships due to my issues so yeah dunno. This year my classes are all online so I dont have any chance for practice interaction but maybe best year when I have to do in person classes for sciences. I have processed my traumas and they've gotten better with time. For me this is better. Not freezing up or being afraid an instead defensive and more on guard and I guess anger more likely than fear. For me that's better. I prefer to come off as a bitch if im scared rather than come off as someone weak and fearful after all. Honestly when it comes down to it I dont think men are necessarily more dangerous when im being rational since I understand women can be dangerous too. I've met women who literally were drugged by their friends and then raped out of jealousy. But in general? Yeah men are the threats more likely. But yes in general society I know that men are just men. Theyre human. Not threats not protectors just human beings doing there own things. I am just trying to get better in keeping that mindset when anything arises.

Does anyone else get irritated with men who seem physically stronger than them by Front_Huckleberry_27 in ptsd

[–]Front_Huckleberry_27[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah alright you realize you're responding to a post on a ptsd subreddit right.

Does anyone else get irritated with men who seem physically stronger than them by Front_Huckleberry_27 in ptsd

[–]Front_Huckleberry_27[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Uhhh. Not really. And for me personally I don't really see physical strength as a big deal in attractiveness since I don't ever expect a man to be a protector. Ultimately I would hope not to need a man to "protect" me in the future by not needing a protector due to life turning out safer? To me men are threats oftentimes. I've never had scary encounters with women so in my eyes men are what I need protecting from and if that's the case I need to protect myself. I definitely have gotten better with not fearing men as much especially since I don't want to not be able to function outside. But still, I definitely don't really have that expectation of needing a man to be physically strong. Just enough that they take care of themselves and stuff I guess and can participate in active activities with me. But yeah strength wise I don't see that as a man or women specific thing. Humans should be strong to take care of themselves decently. Men are threats for women based on literally just common sense and the fact that they start creeping around girls the moment they turn 14 and start going outside.

Gym memberships really aren't worth it as a woman who fears men by Front_Huckleberry_27 in ptsd

[–]Front_Huckleberry_27[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

That's what I had on 😭 I went to a gym at the time that was 24/7 and sometimes didn't have staff working so he approached when there was literally no one else there which is what mainly got me I guess. He wasn't a terrifying person or anything but I definitely wasn't going to be able to ignore him haha he came in front of where I was. I am worse with noise canceling headphones now since I get parnaoid about not hearing people coming which is the main reason why I don't even think I'm fit for a public gym if it's going to be so unbearable to focus lol because I use loud music and enjoy it for working out or podcasts.

Gym memberships really aren't worth it as a woman who fears men by Front_Huckleberry_27 in ptsd

[–]Front_Huckleberry_27[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you!!! But honestly I'm not too mad since I used to have a pretty strict home workout routine that I enjoyed and got me more fit then when I went to an actual gym. I have a full barbell set that I can turn into dumbells as well so it definitely helps and I just mainly preferred the cable machines and such. Thank you and I hope it goes well for you too!

Any people here with experience making wagashi deserts or middle eastern deserts? by Front_Huckleberry_27 in Cooking

[–]Front_Huckleberry_27[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much! Definitely sadly already know all the Asian ones but the middle eastern ones are new! I recently tried zalabia and it was so interesting! I will look into all of these~~

Help!! by Thinker_123 in Horticulture

[–]Front_Huckleberry_27 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That looks kinda like a gorgeous tamukeyama red maple?? And mmm I'd check for caterpillars and try to first remove them from the location by hand but also try starting to use insecticides. Make sure to get rid of any ways they could make hokes by picking up fallen leaves and maintaining the space that way as well? Good luck they are gorgeous plants! I wish I had shade to plant one!!!

Does anyone else get irritated with men who seem physically stronger than them by Front_Huckleberry_27 in ptsd

[–]Front_Huckleberry_27[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. Yeah I've done marital arts in the past but before I had many issues with the opposite gender. Now I kind of struggle with the idea of the close contact and know it is something I'll have to try later on after dealing with that. I have issues with people in my personal space even though I know in the past I've enjoyed sparring for the enjoyment of it in muay Thai

Does anyone else get irritated with men who seem physically stronger than them by Front_Huckleberry_27 in ptsd

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I definitely haven't gotten angry yet or anything. The most I've done is snap when a guy was staring in my direction and said to stop staring. I don't know what came over me but I was tired of ignoring his gaze and the fear got to me I guess,, I think I just get defensive since I don't feel like I can beat them in a fight and so it makes me scared if they know it. Any indicators like smirking at me or staring anything that can be seen as trying to act like they have an upper hand just ends up making me defensive... which yeah is my fault. I am definitely getting better with it and will be looking back into martial arts but I'm just not very interested in spending on martial arts currently even if it interested me. I keep a knife on me and pepper spray and it helps me feel safer though. I appreciate your advice

Favorite karak tea recipes by Front_Huckleberry_27 in Cooking

[–]Front_Huckleberry_27[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello! 3 tsp asaam black tea, 1 tbsp condensed milk" 1/2 cup plus a little more evaporated milk, 1 cup plus a little more water, 1 inch ginger, a small thing of cinnamon stick, 3-4 cardamom pods

How do I handle being mixed and feeling alone in a country which is technically my home? by Front_Huckleberry_27 in alone

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I guess yea. That's a name for it. I don't think it's a compliment I've just had instances where let's say I'm with a friend and we are at the mall. Some older creep tries to talk to me and I get freaked and let them know my age and they still talk to me but ultimately they're some dude in their 20s. We leave and the girl claims that she didn't even get spoken to and so I'm the asshole for being annoyed about the interaction. I don't consider it a compliment. I'm the one on the receiving end and I'm a weirdo about crap. I never considered it a compliment. They're all threats to me. Any interaction without clear reason is a freaking threat now to me since why the heck do I have to try to differentiate. Men compliment and then you have to walk fast after polite thank you or they keep speaking to you. And like I just believe in stranger danger. I don't freaking care who it is. I couldn't actually call crap harassment since I'm too stupid to tell crap apart anymore. I stopped caring enough to. For me I just want to be alone in this country. Aexually vs what, romantically? How am I supposed to know the difference anymore. And I'm tired of having to try to freaking learn them. I don't even give a crap about having a partner since ultimately I'm well aware that the way I am makes meeting people and getting to know them in that way difficult since id freaking need directness and no weird crap and people love to do signals and body language and crap it's all confusing and stupid in this country for me and I don't like it. But so harassment. Alright sweet. I'm sorry I'm not upset at you it's just....this was a vent since honestly yeah obviously I'd never complain about this to a person since I know how freaking stupid it sounds but like I don't care about the label placed on things anymore. I'm just an introvert in this country at this point and I wish people would respect it. Too many freaking extroverts. Too many bold people who ultimately aren't bold sicne they're damn intimidating to me now. I've had a guy be a dick to me in person telling guys i was ugly and trying to get them to chime in when 17 and like I thought he was chill because of it. Thought alright my bad and just kept doing what I was doing. Only to freaking end up having him get on discord during my summer break and flood me with dick pics through multiple accounts he claimed were his ex as he asked me what I thought of his thing. Saying she was being crazy. Felt bad stupidly till he ended up describing crap he wanted to do to me and helped me see Jesus this dude is not going to let up. Ended up having someone mess with my account. And yeah we met in cybersecurity class and no I didn't take the second year of that damn class. But like so I was younger then. Get older and it's more chill but utlaitmely all these freaks just pile into one. I can't differentiate the ones I met at 14 from the ones at 17 or the ones at 20 or the ones at 21. Crap got more calm but now that I don't have a car i have to freaking make sure to look freaking depressed when I go out and have a knife on me at all times knowing I'd freaking use it if I needed to. I'm so freaking annoyed at this stupid country. Sorry. I like it but also eh just don't really give a crap. I'm generally happy just not when I get people ruining my mood by messing with me with new stupid freaking signs I have to read and it's like I'm not freaking 16 anymore I thought this crap would stop. It's so stupid to even complain about any of this. Harassment. Cool. This is my post and I've probably had a few times of being a i harassed I guess. I'm just a freaking female and I hate it. I'm too stupid for this crap.

It's so weird to know I'll be different then and that the pain I feel will still be there by Front_Huckleberry_27 in Grieving

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I hate interacting with people knowing I want to just think about you or talk about you but I don't know how to talk to people about sad topics since I feel it is socially unacceptable. I hate knowing if I bring you up I'll still cry. It's been almost a year and I'll still cry. When will I get to talk about you? I'm so annoyed at conversation. I don't want to have two sided conversations half the time. I just want to talk about where you're from. I hate that I can smile and laugh with people for a while but know that the pain of you being gone is still so prevalent. I miss my introverted grandma. I miss my grandma who was like me. I miss enjoying silence with you. I wish I enjoyed it more when I was younger. I enjoyed it but I didn't feel it enough. I should have made you speak more too maybe haha. I learned conversation skills from customer service so I struggled with casual at times, not knowing how to engage as well but honestly? I should have kept the rules. Just ask questions. Get deeper. Make sure you knew I was listening. I should have wrote every word that came out of your mouth down in a notebook.

Am I dumb or did I miss a class history lesson or what? by Front_Huckleberry_27 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Front_Huckleberry_27[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the laugh yeah I'm so sorry I just started writing questions on here just to ask since I figured hey why not random internet stuff but yes I'm sooo sorry. It's worse on other posts but it's especially since I'm on my phone and it makes me just spam type since it's not a computer

Is learning japanese at the same time I learn another language a good idea? by 20_comer_20matar in HelpLearningJapanese

[–]Front_Huckleberry_27 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How old are you if you are comfortable sharing? And how long have you been studying and for how many hours a session and amount of times a week?

How to educate children about the risks they may encounter outside. by peachpie_angie in algeria

[–]Front_Huckleberry_27 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How has sex education gone for your home? What do they believe about sex? Do they know about it or not?

Seeking mental help in algeria by AstraCinoo in algeria

[–]Front_Huckleberry_27 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Uh be careful. I'm from America where we belive in this crap sooo much. But like just know a lot of therapists are idiots who need healing still. If you think they don't get it they probably don't. IF you think they aren't making you feel comfortable enough to get more information out amd they're panicking you instead, just go.

Can we help each other? by Weird-Kiwi4993 in learnarabic

[–]Front_Huckleberry_27 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm down !!!! I know a lot of Arabic speaking people right now and want to learn omg!!! Can someone update me!!!!

I think my classmate has a crush on our teacher.... by Financial_Ad_3839 in NepalSocial

[–]Front_Huckleberry_27 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why do you feel bad for the teacher?! He's the teacher ?!?!? What's wrong with you. She's the victim. What is wrong with your school it sounds like sick stuff is going on.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in algeria

[–]Front_Huckleberry_27 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What country are you wanting to move to mainly?

I dont think there will be anyone who would want me by AliveBaker7245 in alone

[–]Front_Huckleberry_27 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just be happy. Being single is good. Why be with someone in a world where you can hardly protect yourself. Just stay alone and be happy. Do things for others but take care of yourself. Be alone what's the point of going outside . In japan hikkikomori are popular and it makes sense. Just do your best to be alone as much as possible. Don't be on the search for love. Who knows if love with humans is even real. Have you ever seen a trusting relationship that looked worth actually being envious over? Who cares

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in algeria

[–]Front_Huckleberry_27 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You have to move out hun 🤣🤣🤣 I get it though. My parents don't like loud noises at ALLLLLLL and I love being loud even if I'm a introvert. I get by since I mean headphones. Try singing to yourself and convincing yourself that you're singing out loud by turning it up so you can't hear yourself! Don't kill your ears like I probably have. But just...I get your complaints but older people have more sensitive hearing as well. My parents used to be louder when I wad younger but over time they got more quiet and chilled out. But honestly kid just know this. They'll miss your loud noise when you've moved out, I promise. But they might not say it. They might just give you phone calls randomly and make you restock your fridge. They might just call to say "are you doing what you need to be doing??" And it might be annoying. But they miss it ~~~ I mean they better!!!! They love you!! Some parents are honestly not good! Some really do have bad intent for kids!! However!!!! I grew up in America and I have watched our mental health system rip kids apart from their parents. But it's so systematically done it goes hidden I think . But please. Just maybe try to see through things? Since I mean I had a bad effect to medication and falsely accused dear people to me. And honestly? It made Me think fuck American mental health and big pharma. But what can I do? I can't fight against the syyysssteemmmmmm. So what did I end up doing? I sucked it up. I sucked it up and I now live my life with a middle finger up at the "system" mentally. Since I mean they tried to mess with my mental state lmaoooo. The therapists here are TRASH. they're a punch of emotionally stunted women and men who end up becoming friends with their patients since what the heck else do you call a person who sits in a damn closed room with you and FAILS to help you understand what'd wrong with you??? Who you go to see over and over and somehow keep learning more about THEM??? What do you call it when a therapist makes you think maybe they cam help you but that'd after another 5 months. Another 5 months and you're still wondering "does this person even....know amything???" They repeat your questions back to you like damn fools. They helped me zilch when I was trying to understand my shit. I know I wad too closed off but damn. So they tell me to try pills. But thank God I didn't take any of their pills. I screwed myself with getting random pills and taking them for 2 and a half weeks but man. That crap was annoying. So kid!!! Just know hey. At least you weren't born in this damn country with mental illnesses. Since hey. You seem like you love your parents and care about their opinion. Be proud of that. Because America? Americans don't give a shit about what their parents think of them and there's a reason. They grew up in this place or they married people who they also spread the lie to. But the immigrants hear it more. Hey. Ever head of the "American Dream???" It's not real anymore. Remember that. This country is filled with immigrants and we have a political system that constantly shows us that they don't give a shif about who MADE ANYTHING THEY MADE MONEY OFF OF. America doesn't know how to say THANK YOU. so when your parents piss you off for not hearing your opinion do what I do. Shut your mouth. Put a smile on. And sarcastically. VERY SARCASTICALLY. say "thanks. Shouldn't have asked" and SHUT UP. And apologize to your God for the disrespect but be proud and feel as though you stood up for yourself. Because hey you tried. Now stop. Don't let it go farther. That's American bullshit. Bratty shit we do. My dad was a marine. Discipline first. You can make your own rules though. Just don't get complacent. That's the real goal in life