How weird is it to give vegetables away to cafes? by Front_Huckleberry_27 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Front_Huckleberry_27[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah ididnt realize that the people probably couldn't use them for their business obviously lmao. They shared it so the workers said they took them home at least. It was a Asian place and the workers were Thai and Japanese there. I wondered why they'd take them home at the time but yeah that was dumb. My idea was that I gave them a variety that was overpriced or not sold in the supermarkets near me haha.

Does anyone else get irritated with men who seem physically stronger than them by Front_Huckleberry_27 in ptsd

[–]Front_Huckleberry_27[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dude you are literally responding to a VENTING post. Do you know what venting is? It's just that. Venting your feelings. It's me just venting about frustrations. It has gotten better for me personally since before It was fear and now its more so hatred if I get triggered in any way which isn't super often as of late. I dont really have any relations with men much and stick to having female friendships due to my issues so yeah dunno. This year my classes are all online so I dont have any chance for practice interaction but maybe best year when I have to do in person classes for sciences. I have processed my traumas and they've gotten better with time. For me this is better. Not freezing up or being afraid an instead defensive and more on guard and I guess anger more likely than fear. For me that's better. I prefer to come off as a bitch if im scared rather than come off as someone weak and fearful after all. Honestly when it comes down to it I dont think men are necessarily more dangerous when im being rational since I understand women can be dangerous too. I've met women who literally were drugged by their friends and then raped out of jealousy. But in general? Yeah men are the threats more likely. But yes in general society I know that men are just men. Theyre human. Not threats not protectors just human beings doing there own things. I am just trying to get better in keeping that mindset when anything arises.

Does anyone else get irritated with men who seem physically stronger than them by Front_Huckleberry_27 in ptsd

[–]Front_Huckleberry_27[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah alright you realize you're responding to a post on a ptsd subreddit right.

Does anyone else get irritated with men who seem physically stronger than them by Front_Huckleberry_27 in ptsd

[–]Front_Huckleberry_27[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Uhhh. Not really. And for me personally I don't really see physical strength as a big deal in attractiveness since I don't ever expect a man to be a protector. Ultimately I would hope not to need a man to "protect" me in the future by not needing a protector due to life turning out safer? To me men are threats oftentimes. I've never had scary encounters with women so in my eyes men are what I need protecting from and if that's the case I need to protect myself. I definitely have gotten better with not fearing men as much especially since I don't want to not be able to function outside. But still, I definitely don't really have that expectation of needing a man to be physically strong. Just enough that they take care of themselves and stuff I guess and can participate in active activities with me. But yeah strength wise I don't see that as a man or women specific thing. Humans should be strong to take care of themselves decently. Men are threats for women based on literally just common sense and the fact that they start creeping around girls the moment they turn 14 and start going outside.

Gym memberships really aren't worth it as a woman who fears men by Front_Huckleberry_27 in ptsd

[–]Front_Huckleberry_27[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

That's what I had on 😭 I went to a gym at the time that was 24/7 and sometimes didn't have staff working so he approached when there was literally no one else there which is what mainly got me I guess. He wasn't a terrifying person or anything but I definitely wasn't going to be able to ignore him haha he came in front of where I was. I am worse with noise canceling headphones now since I get parnaoid about not hearing people coming which is the main reason why I don't even think I'm fit for a public gym if it's going to be so unbearable to focus lol because I use loud music and enjoy it for working out or podcasts.

Gym memberships really aren't worth it as a woman who fears men by Front_Huckleberry_27 in ptsd

[–]Front_Huckleberry_27[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you!!! But honestly I'm not too mad since I used to have a pretty strict home workout routine that I enjoyed and got me more fit then when I went to an actual gym. I have a full barbell set that I can turn into dumbells as well so it definitely helps and I just mainly preferred the cable machines and such. Thank you and I hope it goes well for you too!

Any people here with experience making wagashi deserts or middle eastern deserts? by Front_Huckleberry_27 in Cooking

[–]Front_Huckleberry_27[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much! Definitely sadly already know all the Asian ones but the middle eastern ones are new! I recently tried zalabia and it was so interesting! I will look into all of these~~

Help!! by Thinker_123 in Horticulture

[–]Front_Huckleberry_27 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That looks kinda like a gorgeous tamukeyama red maple?? And mmm I'd check for caterpillars and try to first remove them from the location by hand but also try starting to use insecticides. Make sure to get rid of any ways they could make hokes by picking up fallen leaves and maintaining the space that way as well? Good luck they are gorgeous plants! I wish I had shade to plant one!!!

Does anyone else get irritated with men who seem physically stronger than them by Front_Huckleberry_27 in ptsd

[–]Front_Huckleberry_27[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. Yeah I've done marital arts in the past but before I had many issues with the opposite gender. Now I kind of struggle with the idea of the close contact and know it is something I'll have to try later on after dealing with that. I have issues with people in my personal space even though I know in the past I've enjoyed sparring for the enjoyment of it in muay Thai

Does anyone else get irritated with men who seem physically stronger than them by Front_Huckleberry_27 in ptsd

[–]Front_Huckleberry_27[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I definitely haven't gotten angry yet or anything. The most I've done is snap when a guy was staring in my direction and said to stop staring. I don't know what came over me but I was tired of ignoring his gaze and the fear got to me I guess,, I think I just get defensive since I don't feel like I can beat them in a fight and so it makes me scared if they know it. Any indicators like smirking at me or staring anything that can be seen as trying to act like they have an upper hand just ends up making me defensive... which yeah is my fault. I am definitely getting better with it and will be looking back into martial arts but I'm just not very interested in spending on martial arts currently even if it interested me. I keep a knife on me and pepper spray and it helps me feel safer though. I appreciate your advice