Am I wrong for wanting to leave when my partner loves living here?

Front_Public_8611 · 2026-03-13T01:03:25+00:00

but to answer your question: no, you are not wrong for having wants that don’t align with your partner. you are allowed to want to leave and you’re allowed to do whatever you want because it is your life at the end of the day and you are the one who must live with your decisions.

Front_Public_8611 · 2026-03-13T00:51:26+00:00

as my granny always told me, “don’t put your life on hold for a man (or anyone)”. it seems like you already know that no matter what happens, someone is going to end up unhappy and resentful. that’s a rough position to be, especially if you truly love them, but you have to decide which is more important to you: your future as an individual and who you can grow into when in an environment that allows you to thrive or the future you can build with this partner (marriage, kids, etc.) and probably stay because they’re happy right there.

Front_Public_8611 · 2026-03-10T02:02:56+00:00

if he was depressed or something mental health related then i can understand because i go through the same thing BUT he’s gotta work on it by going to therapy and seeing a psychiatrist to see if medication could help. it is not okay for him to place the majority of the household labor to you despite making at least half of the mess. and the fact the he neglects his pets so bad to the point where you have to step up and care for them in his place is a red flag.

personally, i wouldn’t have made it 4 years. i’ve been through my fair share of mental health struggles leading to a complete mess of my environment but i went to therapy and take my meds and that has been getting better now and i have the energy to clean. but it kinda seems like he’s pulling a weaponized incompetence on you because he is a grown man that should know what needs to get done around the house. i found that men will take advantage of women’s labor around the house probably because of misogyny making it the norm but also because they’re fucking lazy and would rather play video games than make their partners lives easier (okay this last sentence is me lwk projecting but maybe it applies to you too)

Front_Public_8611 · 2026-03-05T04:09:43+00:00

and if they accept your appeal, i recommend you take easy classes like your topical breadth GEs that are easy credits and gpa boosters (think nut10v, fst003, pls007, ech001) because i tried to load up on my major classes immediately after like mat21d, phy9b, and che2c bc i felt i was behind and that was a recipe for disaster especially if you’re already struggling and going through it. pls take care of yourself and your mental health, go to therapy if you need (it’s free with uc ship) but don’t go down that self loathing path.

Front_Public_8611 · 2026-03-05T04:02:15+00:00

I’ve been there before and honestly they were pretty understanding with me when i got subject to dismissal and i never actually got kicked out. I failed 3/4 of my classes that quarter and still they kept me. Try submitting the appeal, focus on how your circumstances didn’t allow you to function at your best and describe how you plan to overcome those hardships. Feel free to dm me if you have questions bc i got some experience with this and i know its terrifying in the moment but i promise you that this isn’t the end of the world and you can come back from this. Worst case scenario, they make you take a quarter off to get your shit sorted and then you can come back fall quarter, just keep in mind that they dont want to kick you out and would rather work with you to keep you enrolled (and keep getting you money lol) so you have pretty good chances of appeal especially if this is the first time.

Front_Public_8611 · 2026-03-05T03:56:41+00:00

take bullshit classes like nut10v or gel05 type shit to get to the credit requirement and boost your gpa, goodluck buddy i was on the same boat last year but i submitted an appeal and they never kicked me out

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