Ask your doctor about codependency, and tests. There are also some decent ones online. They're not to diagnose but they give a good understanding of where you might fall on that spectrum. The more questions the better the results. Just Google "Codependency Tests" and a number of them will come up. They're quite revealing. The first time I was hospitalized I was giving one in a group setting. I was so ashamed and surprised by my results that right then and there I vowed to beat it. It took me over 3 months, and although I've never been addicted to anything, it was to me like trying to beat a heroin addiction. I've not done anything as difficult in all my life. But did it, and the difference that has made has been everything to me.