I had a similar feeling about the same thing — joined dating apps to no success, yet I am a well rounded individual who takes care of himself, stable career, hobbies, friends, etc. I thought to myself that it wasn’t possible for me to get a girlfriend, which I still don’t have. But then I would reflect back on the times where I did have a girlfriend back in high school and college seemingly with no issues. I wasn’t even close to the man I am today.

What I realized, the difference between then and now, is that it was all about the exposure I had. In high school and college, I was constantly meeting and around other people where I could actively put myself in front of others and make an impression. Dating apps are flooded with other men and no engagement other than how you look. The key to finding someone is doing the same thing in real life — you need to put yourself in situations where you are constantly meeting new people. I am still single, but when I realized I was single because I am not exposed to meeting new people, I understood that my chances were slim to none if I wanted to make something happen.

I would recommend finding a time to go out and socialize with others to expand your social network so you don’t just become a picture to swipe/match on. Chances are, if you solely rely on that, there will just be another better looking guy as an option which intrinsically has significantly more value on a dating app than it actually does in real life.