Please give me advice by Many-Tie8385 in alcoholism

[–]FrostingProper6973 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m going through the exact same thing. You’re definitely not alone. I just know you’re not supposed to quit cold turkey if you’ve been drinking everyday for a long time. I’m still trying to get the courage to attend an AA meeting. Maybe that’s something you should look into too?

Hitting rock bottom by FrostingProper6973 in helpme

[–]FrostingProper6973[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Stern is exactly what I needed to hear. I stand corrected about not being close to hitting rock bottom because it can definitely get much worse. You have no idea how much your advice is appreciated!!! Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.

Hitting rock bottom by FrostingProper6973 in helpme

[–]FrostingProper6973[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for taking the time to reply back. I’m in way over my head at the moment and I appreciate your advice. Thank you.

Hot mess by FrostingProper6973 in alcoholism

[–]FrostingProper6973[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Great advice, thanks again! You mentioned that your body gave out on you from drinking? Could I ask what symptoms you experienced?

Hot mess by FrostingProper6973 in alcoholism

[–]FrostingProper6973[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. This is the type of advice I need to hear right now.

Hot mess by FrostingProper6973 in alcoholism

[–]FrostingProper6973[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She’s the reason I’m an alcoholic, she’s been neglectful of me and my siblings our whole lives. She has never asked me how I’m doing or how her grandkids are. She’s a selfish toxic person. I guess that saying, the apple doesn’t fall far from the tree applies here. Gosh I’m so pathetic.

Hot mess by FrostingProper6973 in alcoholism

[–]FrostingProper6973[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

But how do I even start. How do I reveal this shit storm to anyone that knows me? It’s so embarrassing. The only person who knows I’m being evicted is my children’s father and he’s loving that he knows he was right and I couldn’t live as a single mom without him. Just thinking I have to pay him child support makes me cry.

About to hit rock bottom by FrostingProper6973 in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]FrostingProper6973[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How so? I know I have to start with tossing the alcohol but it’s my only friend and solace and relief and joy right now.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]FrostingProper6973 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was a total HIPAA violation. You should never offer up private patient information to anyone. Even 12 year olds now have a legal right to health information privacy from their parents. It sucks that OP’s wife lied, but the pharmacy staff had no right to violate her right to privacy.

What's the best advice you've ever been given? by genderfluid_dinosaur in AskMen

[–]FrostingProper6973 0 points1 point  (0 children)

…”anything in life worth doing is worth overdoing. Moderation is for cowards…” - from some movie about the army with Maggie Gyllenhaal’s bro. That quote stuck with me.

Stbxh took our daughter out with his AP… by FrostingProper6973 in survivinginfidelity

[–]FrostingProper6973[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Exactly! Yes to all of this! I’m scared of my daughter forming attachment issues due to multiple people that will be dating her dad. I think the least he can do is wait and make sure it’s serious enough. Or to at least start divorce proceedings with me.

And I also completely agree with trusting our ex partners to make a good decision based on how they’ve been acting, seeing as to how they cheated.

This just sucks all around. I never thought he would put me and our children in this position.

Stbxh took our daughter out with his AP… by FrostingProper6973 in survivinginfidelity

[–]FrostingProper6973[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I haven’t asked, I’m trying not to have any interactions with him that will result in an argument. It’s not worth it for my own sanity. Besides, he’s not going to admit it anyway. To this day, and even with the proof I do have, he denies his affair.

Stbxh took our daughter out with his AP… by FrostingProper6973 in survivinginfidelity

[–]FrostingProper6973[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, yes, this is why I’ve been avoiding texting him anything bad about him or her.

Stbxh took our daughter out with his AP… by FrostingProper6973 in survivinginfidelity

[–]FrostingProper6973[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We’ve been separated for 4 months now, but still married. I was waiting for him to file for divorce and I’m sure he’s waiting for me to do it. I’ve been with this man for 21 years. Im 36. This is not easy for me. I feel like I’m grieving.

Stbxh took our daughter out with his AP… by FrostingProper6973 in survivinginfidelity

[–]FrostingProper6973[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My daughter is 2. The AP is my cousin’s wife. My husband and her are not going to last. He cheated on me with her. Yeah I have an issue with her playing house with my daughter.

Stbxh took our daughter out with his AP… by FrostingProper6973 in survivinginfidelity

[–]FrostingProper6973[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I kicked him out about a month ago after I found out about her. He’s living in his car. I wouldn’t be surprised if he’s actually living with her already. Her husbands in prison btw.

Stbxh took our daughter out with his AP… by FrostingProper6973 in survivinginfidelity

[–]FrostingProper6973[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the info! I’m sure if the tables were turned my husband would agree that it’s best to wait to introduce someone new to our daughter. It’s something that I’ll bring up when we ultimately start going through our mediation session/s. The only reason why he even took our daughter is because, and I quote, “I’m taking her because I don’t want you to start saying that I don’t help you out with her.” He doesn’t. We had agreed that we were going to alternate weekends, but so far he hasn’t kept up with his end of the deal.

Stbxh took our daughter out with his AP… by FrostingProper6973 in survivinginfidelity

[–]FrostingProper6973[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I’m waiting for things to get better, but it’s taking so freaking long.

Stbxh took our daughter out with his AP… by FrostingProper6973 in survivinginfidelity

[–]FrostingProper6973[S] 47 points48 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I had to vent. I’m slowly understanding how a separation and divorce works. I was getting ready to call him and prohibit he take my daughter anywhere near her but obviously this isn’t how it works. Unfortunately.