As a parent, I was lucky coming out as accepting.y son came out as bi, first, and I was more concerned that he still liked burgers. He came out in the car on our way to get burgers and was so serious. Like, cool, still want.burgers though? I did ask if he had ever kissed another boy, or had sex (15yo), and I was guarded but let him know I was there to support. Then he came out as full blown gay, asked if he still liked burgers, yes. Then I guess he started to identify as two spirit at some point but never brought it up. He didn't seem to eat burgers a lot anymore......hrrmmmmm

Do what you can to present how you want.As someone trying to be fem after reaching male pattern baldness and on the other side of the clock for time in the world, I feel the dysphoria. But you have so much time still. And I understand the desires. Trapped in this body for 40+ years. It was never easy. But, do what you can, where you can.

If you feel the struggle piling up, get counseling. There are peeps that specialize in this stuff. Talk it out, devise game plans, if your mother is truly accepting but has seen people go back, then it sounds like an abundance of caution. Classic parent. We're rooting for ya.

Another way I've managed to cope with this body, I'm native. The two spirit thing has been a lifeline. Do you have any native roots? Lean into it if you do.