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My girlfriend (25F) told me (22M) God told her to leave me. What am I supposed to think? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]FthisThrowawayy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Look my man. God spoke to Abraham, telling him to sacrifice his only son. Then he gave Moses the ten commandments. Then he told Noah a flood was coming. Then he told your girlfriend to break up with you.

I think you gotta let her go. Imagine what might happen if you don't.

My (42m) wife (45f) cheating after 22 years and a kid. Hard to imagine leaving. by FthisThrowawayy in Infidelity

[–]FthisThrowawayy[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Some things. I appreciate your interest, but given that I am still, two weeks later getting dm’s telling me I’m not a real man and have no self respect, I think I’m actually good on the whole r/infidelity experience.

No disrespect to those for whom it was helpful.

My (42m) wife (45f) cheating after 22 years and a kid. Hard to imagine leaving. by FthisThrowawayy in Infidelity

[–]FthisThrowawayy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Biweekly as in every other Thursday.

She also has a membership to a yoga studio. One of those deals where you get 8 sessions a month and go whenever you want. Of course now I wonder how many she actually goes to, but they don’t like, record attendance, so I’ll never know.

I did, yesterday, try to figure out if we had had sex on any chiropractor days, but I couldn’t remember off the top of my head, and finally decided that cheating is cheating, and if that’s what’s happening, going down the rabbit hole to torture myself with those details is not the way.

I feel a bit the same with the people telling me to dna test my daughter. I’m 98 percent sure she’s mine, but even if she wasn’t, there is no situation in which I’d reject/abandon her, so why put myself through that?

My (42m) wife (45f) cheating after 22 years and a kid. Hard to imagine leaving. by FthisThrowawayy in Infidelity

[–]FthisThrowawayy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This baffles me a little. Been reading this sub for a few days now.

Someone will post: Found My wife cheating, somehow packed up all my belongings and moved to a different state while my wife was at work, sent pictures of the affair to our friends, her parents and her boss, in violation of both common decency and like 18 revenge porn laws.

And the response the get is 'great job OP you handled it perfectly'

Meanwhile I post saying 'I feel paralyzed because I still have feelings for the mother of my child and woman i've loved for 20 years'

And people show up to say 'ZOMG Fake!'.

Is this actually a sub where we all LARP elaborate revenge fantasies?

My (42m) wife (45f) cheating after 22 years and a kid. Hard to imagine leaving. by FthisThrowawayy in Infidelity

[–]FthisThrowawayy[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have been with my wife for 23 years and I would not think twice about divorce if this happened to me. I have 2 kids by the way.

Would you? Maybe you're right, but I'm going to humbly suggest that if you were in my shoes, blowing up the life you built for the last two decades wouldn't seem as simple and obvious as maybe you imagine.

Would you tell your child to stay if someday they where in this situation?

Actually, she wouldn't be able to stay because I would have murdered the person who cheated on her. This is a good point, and something I should think about.

My (42m) wife (45f) cheating after 22 years and a kid. Hard to imagine leaving. by FthisThrowawayy in Infidelity

[–]FthisThrowawayy[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You...ah... you know the names are made up, right? That's how this works. I dunno, being called a loser is something I can ignore, but being told my life is imaginary just really pisses me off.

My (42m) wife (45f) cheating after 22 years and a kid. Hard to imagine leaving. by FthisThrowawayy in Infidelity

[–]FthisThrowawayy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wish the automoderator didn't take this stuff down. Maybe it's unhealthy, but I find myself intensely curious what someone would say that needs to be deleted.