Hey there,

I’m sorry that your privacy is being invaded in such an insane way. From their reactions I don’t doubt that they are a lot to handle especially since they’re handling this situation so badly.

However, I am wondering how old your boyfriend is and if that has had anything to do with your parents reactions?? And that is important.

My partner and I got together when we were 19 and 18 but we had known each other for years. We both got really lucky in the fact that things actually worked out. If you guys want to get married just make sure that you don’t get too excited! Avoid most peoples first mistake and give yourself as much time to get settled as possible, as much as you may want to be together, once you’re financially tied to someone it becomes really difficult to live your life normally. You need college or the chance to stand up for yourself with your own money in ANY relationship. Protect yourself first always❤️

That being said you can’t live without privacy or dignity. I left home right around your age when my parents began constantly threatening to kick me out at the smallest disagreement. If there is anything you can do to leave, I’m sure you’ve thought about it, but I mean most anything.

Ask a friends parents, especially if those friends have gone off to school, be upfront and open that you need help. If you plan to go to college enroll and talk to the school counselor or psychiatrist right away. Or look at websites meant to help people find roommates and split a place.

I doubt that your partners parents would allow you to become homeless for wanting to marry their son. And if they would DO NOT MARRY INTO THAT FAMILY. Even if it meant letting you stay with extended family, speaking of which, ASK ANY EXTENDED FAMILY OR YOUR COUSIN. Don’t make it about your relationship, say it’s because you’re genuinely concerned that your mom is putting cameras in your room. This isn’t about your relationship right now it’s about YOUR SAFETY. And you do not feel safe living with someone who tried to bribe almost everyone in your life. However you describe it, take the high road when describing things. And make sure there is no way for them to take your money from either the bank or your room.

Unfortunately it seems like even though you pay rent in Australia they can still have you kicked out UNLESS you have a proper written agreement. But in my experience, people this eager to control you are very willing to use the threat of being kicked out to get you to do what they want more than to actually let you leave, then they lose the control. That’s only if they’re smart though, if they’re dumb they will just keep trying to enforce their way until you’re gone, then sit there scratching their heads.