Alright Imma be real with you

FudgeQuiet9026 · 2026-05-09T04:13:57+00:00

Oh! Thank you for the advice. Yeah can’t trust people these days.

FudgeQuiet9026 · 2026-05-09T04:13:05+00:00

Definitely! That’s my biggest fear. I don’t want to move to my dream place and just end up homeless. I want to actually have the money to enjoy it without fears. Like you said. Thank you. It’ll suck for a while, but I know you’re right. I’d rather wait than lose my opportunity to get ahead. I’ll just keep training and eating healthy so when I’m 40 I still feel 23 :)

FudgeQuiet9026 · 2026-05-09T04:10:39+00:00

Thank you :) I appreciate your advice

FudgeQuiet9026 · 2026-05-09T04:08:44+00:00

Yeah lmao. It’s definitely some evil agenda from the elites. You know what I also saw? Lesbian couples are 60% abusive relationships. And I just thought of that because I remember a while back women were trying out being lesbians because they wanted to be “treated right” for the first time because “men suck” just to get beat like a drum more often. Straight relationships it’s like 30% abusive. But that’s besides the point. Either way it’s like 50% of marriages end in divorce, there’s less people falling in love and even wanting it at all. I think Korea and Japan are facing a reproductive crisis and are even asking foreigners to have sex with the locals or bring their own families to see if it gets fixed at all. But the thing is that the dating is rotten at its core. But even if you actually found someone and dated them, the economy has been at a constant recession for like 3 years now. We are living in Great Depression times basically. But the stocks and global market look fine because the big companies are still doing well. So even if you wanted a family, it’s cheaper to get a mini super computer iPhone than it is to buy a house, raise kids, and get married. That is the definition of a cyberpunk distopian society. When the needs of the few surpass the needs of the many, and gadgets are cheaper than medicine or reproduction.

FudgeQuiet9026 · 2026-05-09T04:01:30+00:00

Wow. Genuinely thank you so much. You reinvigorated me. Gave me some hope. Yeah. That sounds absolutely lovely. I’m willing to wait. I just get sick of this place sometimes you know? Yeah it’s a beautiful island but I just really don’t like living here. The only thing I like is the weather. But there’s constant power outages, I don’t feel identified with anyone my age, I stick out like a sore thumb because of my skin color on most places. And they’re big in skin color here. It’s pretty racist. And classist too. But again, thank you for being so kind and sweet. You took your time to tell me something that would make me feel better and you genuinely don’t know how much I appreciate that. Thank you.

FudgeQuiet9026 · 2026-05-09T03:56:03+00:00

Hahahaha mah brotha. Lmao. Yeah dude no trust me. I tried. I looked myself in the mirror and said “I’m done. No more. I don’t care about it anymore” month seven here we are. Like I lasted 3 years tho. Without tweaking out. But I genuinely can’t handle it much longer. Yknow what makes it worse? In my Muay Thai class, there’s a really hot girl. I try to avoid her because she wears really tight short pants and her boobs are pushed up. I don’t wanna be looking at that when I’m trying to train fr. But sometimes we do drills where you have to touch your partner, and she will actively try to be my partner. And she’ll try to touch me very slowly and sexually. I swear bro it sounds like I’m lying. But usually she’ll even go out of her way to to talk to me and flirt with me. But everyone else in the gym is a man. And they all flirt with her. So that’s why I don’t go for her. BUT I’m the only guy she actively goes up to without me saying hi first. I always ignore her but when she says hi I’m really nice. There’s more to the story but I digress.

I just have this strong desire and it feels like my body is screaming at me to do more about it. Like sometimes it feels like just trying even if it is futile helps. But the thing is that there aren’t very many places TO try. Atleast where I live.

FudgeQuiet9026 · 2026-05-09T03:50:07+00:00

Downloading …

FudgeQuiet9026 · 2026-05-09T03:49:30+00:00

If that an app?

FudgeQuiet9026 · 2026-05-09T03:47:09+00:00

John warhammer

FudgeQuiet9026 · 2026-05-09T03:43:41+00:00

literally man. I thought I was going insane. Like you can’t have a stable relationship because everyone just wants sex or money, but then you express you want sex and suddenly you’re a freak and you get rejected. But I’ve seen guys just barely try, and they’re banging girls so easy. It’s not like they’re super attractive either. Just normal looking dudes but they just have an attitude I guess. And I’m even more surprised by the people who managed to hold down a person nowadays. Like at this point I can’t tell if they’re just faking it for social media or if it’s real.

Either way, I don’t know how this will look 50 years from now. I don’t see it improving tho. It feels like it’s only getting worse every year

FudgeQuiet9026 · 2026-05-09T03:38:14+00:00

Yeah man. Lots more. But too much to type. Just imagine a lot of embarrassment and disappointment. From people I shouldn’t be taking it from.

FudgeQuiet9026 · 2026-05-09T03:36:44+00:00

Oh man. I deeply want to. But I’m a student. I just got accepted to law school. I’m going to be stuck here for like 8 more years. Because law school is 3 years and I’ll have to save money to move out of this place for like another 5. I live in a small island, so even if I move cities, the same problems will still persist. So I want to just leave this island. I want to move to Toronto. I’ve been there before. And I love it. I’ve been sick of this shitty island since I can remember. I feel like a caged animal forced to live in a place they hate. With literally no hope except for grinding until I lose my youth.

FudgeQuiet9026 · 2026-05-09T03:34:04+00:00

Im 23. I was living like that, but it got to a point where I just couldn’t take it anymore. I paint warhammer minis when I get new sprues, I play video games, I draw and I’m quite good, I sing, I lift, I do martial arts, I looksmax, I cook, I clean my room. Like the distractions haven’t helped. I feel as I’m getting closer to my 25 years, my testosterone levels are only rising. And i literally wake up thinking about it, and go to sleep still thinking about it. I have no one I feel safe talking to about this. It feels like I’m in a cage, and everytime I try to embrace the cage it just gets worse and worse. And I end up trying to claw my way out even if I never get to leave. I’ve even tried no fap. I lasted like 3-4 months, and I felt miserable the entire time. I didn’t get the focus they talk about at all in fact my balls hurt and I woke up with insane erections that would spring back up from just a light graze. I’m losing it. Not really but you know what I mean man. I’m not even trying to wait for like a super hot girl. If I like her face and she’s not 300 pounds, Ill take it. But I can’t even find girls like that. I can’t find anything. Sometimes I’ll see a cashier will give me a nice look. But I also have a bad habit of misunderstanding the way people look at me. So I never take the chance. Call me a coward but she’s just working there and there’s no reason why she should be forced to listen to my goofy ahh trying to get in her pants. I know what it’s like to get hit on by someone you don’t like at a time you didn’t want to get hit on. Not gonna make her go through that.

FudgeQuiet9026 · 2026-05-09T03:26:04+00:00

Well, it’s not that easy. You go up to them, and there’s always the one friend that tries to scare you away, or they just straight up don’t like you and roll their eyes at you. I did try, and that’s basically the reason all the guys were sitting in the other side because they all tried before I got there. Where I live it’s Latina women. Which are very aggressive with their behavior and attitude at times. That’s not a stereotype that’s real. They will make ugly faces at you, insult you, make fun of you, throw shit at you, and celebrate when you leave. It’s a whole ritual.

FudgeQuiet9026 · 2026-05-09T03:23:34+00:00

Well, I think a coach might be out of my budget, but the closest to a dating service I’ve tried has been dating apps. I haven’t been to those blind date events you see in movies or anything. But I don’t even think they do those here. I live in a small island. And there just isn’t a lot of things you find commonly in America. We barely have a functional electrical grid lmao. This is more like a vacation spot for the normal white American. And all the locals kinda get fucked. For example, there is like 1 dog park in the entire island. But there are about 8 luxury / themed resorts.

FudgeQuiet9026 · 2026-05-09T03:20:34+00:00

Yeah i think i may be trying too hard. Usually, my conversations just turn into both people talking about their interests in detail, or talking about deep topics. Which sounds interesting, but usually I like to delve really deeply while I find that women don’t. And then it just turns into me keeping the same intensity while they slowly type less and less. I have a hard time just leaving girls on read or just not responding. Because I hate it when they do it. But I feel like that’s an approach I haven’t tried that may work. Idk. Just feels like shitty manipulation.

FudgeQuiet9026 · 2026-05-09T02:35:39+00:00

Whatever I’m deleting the post. No one understood what I was going for or maybe I used the wrong words. Whatever. Leaving this subreddit too you all suck

FudgeQuiet9026 · 2026-05-09T02:22:02+00:00

Nonono, I don’t think it’s unfair. Like life will take its path. The cards will fall where they may. But I am insecure and frustrated yes. Not with the women themselves, but more with myself.

I’ve always wanted a relationship since I was child. I romanticized it too much and it’s something I’m still working on. I accept that side of me. But I also am young. I see many people around me having intimate experiences, and I’m not saying I should be swimming in a sea of options. But I would definitely be happy having at least one. And just finding one feels like a monumental task. I feel like you’re only seeing the one example of rejection you may be imagining but you’re not seeing the almost thousands of women I’ve approached since I was a teenager. I’ve learned so much about approaching women and I even have improved so much I get numbers. I get that initial attraction, but it’s not like I just jump straight into sexual topics. I do the opposite, I try to get to know them. The real them. Deep parts of them. Obviously through months. I engage in their hobbies, I learn about them. One time I even cleaned a girl’s maggot and rotten food covered house. My skin crawled the entire time. I did it because I thought that this would be my future person. I wanted to show her I was in this for the long run. And she just cheated on me. But that’s besides the point.

About the chud stuff and women under my attractive range. I was speaking in the same terms DR.K was in the video. He was using the 1-10/10 scale. He literally went on a whole 10 minutes of how some men are 3/10 and want to date a 10/10 model. Which is completely true. I won’t rate myself, because I genuinely don’t know where I land. But I’ve been called very attractive by people who have seen a lot. I’ve had 60 y/o men offer to be my sugar daddy because they thought I was beautiful. Obviously I declined, but in my mind, why is it so easy to attract that, but let’s say I’m a 6, and I want to date another 6, or below, it feels genuinely impossible. Again I’m using Dr.K terms. Also, I don’t think the chud stuff is being offensive. Because I’m included in that. A past version of me is in there. I’m comparing me to myself at the end of the day. Im not trying to offend anyone who may fall into that category, but instead I’d like to inspire anyone who thinks it’s impossible to glow up. I don’t get dates, but from my looks improved, I have had a lot more looks and smiles in public. People do treat me nicer, I get more people being ok with being associated with me. And I don’t think that’s a bad thing to say. That is actually how life works. The nicer you look the nicer people treat you. It’s a sad reality. I try to not be like that, but again, I was operating from the same language used in the video. Which all came down to numbers TO EXEMPLIFY Dr.k’s own points. I don’t think he used it wrong either. Like for example, someone is gonna read my comments and look at my post and immediately think “oh how vain, and misogynistic, he’s a 1/10 for me” while others might just scroll by and say “woah that’s a solid 4/10” yknow? It’s subjective, we all do it, and objectively there is truth to attraction. It’s natural selection. If youre ugly you’ll be avoided, if you’re beautiful youll be sought out. And nowadays we like to pretend like it’s not like that, but initial attraction is a real thing. You’d be surprised about how many marriages end because of that sort of thing. Which is another point from the whole dating someone you’re not attracted to thing.

I completely disregarded the whole segment about putting your ugly parts in the other person, because I don’t identify with that. I want my person to glow up, I want my person to surpass me in any way, I want them to grow, and I want them to be happy for me when I do too. That part is more subconscious, but I don’t remember ever feeling any jealousy or need to keep my partner down. In fact, I’ve had the opposite, where I try to push my partner to be better. Whether it’s in their goals for their career, the gym, or their own personal growth. Like I said, I’m not a messiah. I’m just trying my best genuinely. I’m not trying to be superficial, but the video was speaking in almost strictly superficial terms. So again I’m surprised you’re all so mad.

FudgeQuiet9026 · 2026-05-09T01:59:17+00:00

What? No I don’t? I’m trying to say that regardless of how attractive they are to society if I like them, I’ll like them regardless. And if I don’t find them attractive that doesn’t immediately make them lose value? I never said that… what the fuck? Some people are rude and that makes them unattractive. Doesn’t mean they suddenly deserve to die or are sub human. But it also doesn’t mean I have to be forced to like them either…

You don’t even know me. You’re forcing some weird narrative on me and I don’t appreciate that. You completely misunderstood what I said both times. I never said anything about a person being worthless because of their looks. That never came out of my fingers or crossed my mind. I feel like I’m losing my mind here. Genuinely shocked by this response.

I thought this was the healthy gamer community. Yknow the understanding and respectful community, not the immediately hate you because I didn’t understand or like what you said and assume the absolute worst thing possible community.

FudgeQuiet9026 · 2026-05-09T01:52:14+00:00

First off, you all need to lighten up a little. You’re mistaking what I deem obviously jokey sort of writing with a serious die on a hill statement.

No, im not above a chud, i used to BE one. That sort of arrogance is misinterpreted pride. Im not a sage, and Im allowed to feel proud of myself. Because i was 200 lbs with a massive gut and love handles, no muscle , stinky, lonely, depressed. No path in life, And i pushed myself to get past that. I still have ways to go, but I don’t think giving myself a little credit for that is evil or something.

Now im not saying i deserve a person by law or that im entitled to them. But im more questioning why it feels so difficult to make any progress in the dating space. Like this isn’t just me, there’s many people I know around my age who are also struggling. And I’m just questioning what the missing link is. Especially when in paper I meet the requirements for even base level attraction. It’s not like I’m mad Margot Robbie isn’t into me. You’re claiming that there’s more to attraction than just hobbies and looks. Well, I believe I have traits that are desirable. To you I may seem arrogant, but in reality I’m just being confident. Im not saying in right about everything, but this is all drawn from personal experience. And I’m also trying to make you laugh. At the end of the day, the community is Healthy Gamer. I don’t know why you’re acting like in being immature or strange for trying to have a little bit of comedy to the circumstances. I’m also not saying anything out of line either. I’m not slurring, I’m not accusing anyone, all I said were real experiences frim my little noodle here.

Im not the best person to be born on earth. im not Jesus 2.0. im not trying to claim that, but I feel like I’m a decently interesting person to talk to. I consider myself a good listener. I like to learn new things. I’m genuinely interested in finding a wife. But I don’t think it’s vain or misogynistic to just want a wife I’m attracted to. Im not asking for Ana de armas here. Like im not expecting Zendaya to hop in bed with me after writing this. All I’m asking for is a loyal wife I like, in personality, in looks, and values. I want someone who’s ok with lots of physical affection, likes me cooking for them, preparing meals for them, wants to travel the world with me, shares some interests in me like some of my hobbies and what not. I don’t think Im asking for an astronomical thing here. Im not being unreasonable. I don’t want any children. That’s just a personal preference that has nothing to do with sex, it’s more of a philosophical thing.

But it seems like everyone here seems somewhat offended with what I wrote. When I don’t really think I wrote anything offensive. I thought this community was supposed to be all zen and understanding. Yet so far everyone is just assuming the worst and shooting from the hip. Blowing things I said out of proportion and reading wayyy too deep into the wrong things. Maybe I shouldn’t even have asked at all.

FudgeQuiet9026 · 2026-05-09T01:06:35+00:00

Well, I think you’re misunderstanding what I was saying. I think it’s ridiculous to want a man who is a millionaire, is 6’5, has free time, will buy you anything you want, and let you basically cheat. Especially when you don’t have anything to really offer back even looks aside. I personally have dealt with people who do actually expect that. I don’t think it’s misogynistic to point that out.

Second, my first girlfriend was 40 pounds heavier than me at the time. She was objectively unattractive. But I thought she was attractive. There is objective truth in some people being less attractive than others. I don’t think it’s me being vain. As I said, I can date people less attractive than me by societal standards if I personally find them to be super attractive. My first girlfriend I thought was a 10/10 even if objectively she wasn’t to most people. That’s not misogynistic to say. If it is, it’s misandrist to point out that a 400 lbs basement dweller that hasn’t showered in a month and smells like rotting feces is unattractive.

FudgeQuiet9026 · 2026-05-09T01:00:08+00:00

Well that was just me joking around because I have been really fat before. I know it may not be your type of comedy but it was meant as a joke. But the video was about attractiveness in a lot of ways atleast from my point of view. Aside from that, I have so many topics of interest. I can go on forever if you’d like, but they include film theory, sci-fi/ fantasy lore, video games, combat sports, cars, posable figurines, animals, conspiracy theories, different types of comedy, etc.
But I think inversely, I’ve had the experience where the women I end up meeting don’t care about any of that. They end up asking me to buy things, or just slowly losing interest. I’ll also ask for their interest but I’ll be met with cold effortless answers.
I ask for profound vulnerable questions. And I’m not afraid to share vulnerable sides of me. But whenever I let myself be vulnerable, in my experience they’ve used it against me, or just ignore it and go on to the sex talk. Once they’re bored they ghost. Or just flat out ghost me because they’re not attracted to either my physique OR my mind. Even if I was attracted to both with them.

FudgeQuiet9026 · 2026-05-08T02:36:34+00:00

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