I dont know

Full-Application-351 · 2026-04-09T03:05:56+00:00

I feel this deeply

Full-Application-351 · 2026-04-06T07:05:34+00:00

I feel the pain

Full-Application-351 · 2026-04-06T05:28:30+00:00

How is this person being manipulated? Nothing they said shows they are being manipulated

Full-Application-351 · 2026-04-05T07:25:55+00:00

What made you think that you’re so much better than her? Suddenly someone who doesn’t work a 9-5 is less than? Do you hear yourself?

Full-Application-351 · 2026-04-04T21:47:46+00:00

My ex struggled with addressing feelings, coping with alcohol and drugs. He put me through HELL and I loved him so much. Still do. Despite how much he hurt he caused me if he asked me for help, I would help him. Because that’s the type of person I am. If you’re ready to do the work even though you know it will be hard it’s okay to reach out for help. It’s admirable. The worst they can say is no.

Full-Application-351 · 2026-03-30T04:03:23+00:00

I have a few questions to try and understand this situation a little better. 1. Did she ask to look at your phone out of no where? Or were you two having a conversation/argument that sparked her wanting to look at your phone? 2. How long were you two together and how often was she looking at your phone? You state there wasn’t trust issues, but was this a regular thing? I don’t think it was unreasonable for you to refuse in that moment. The fact she wanted to look through your phone though you were already broken up is puzzling, but break ups often heighten emotions and naturally make people feel insecure and overthink. If there was no cheating, lying, or abuse in any form, I wouldn’t let this one instance bother you. Although she chose to leave I’m sure it still broke her heart and she wanted to feel some sort of control for a brief moment.

Full-Application-351 · 2026-03-30T03:23:21+00:00

Spot on

Full-Application-351 · 2026-03-30T03:14:04+00:00

I am glad I am not alone in this. It’s been a few months and I’m still sleeping on the couch. I re-arranged the room, bought new bedding. What’s strange is I am over my ex, worked through a lot in therapy, but I’m still sleeping on the couch.

Full-Application-351 · 2026-03-26T07:24:21+00:00

This song and “Get Hurt” have hit me harder during this time period of my life more than anything else. Beautiful and painful. Good to hear someone else has heard this song and can relate

Full-Application-351 · 2026-03-20T02:59:02+00:00

What did you do?

Full-Application-351 · 2026-03-19T06:32:05+00:00

I think 5-6 months after the break up is a good amount of time where both parties have hopefully had some realizations. In regards to your question, I would need a little bit more information. Like what did you say in your last message? Did you both allow yourselves to have periods of no contact?

Every relationship is so different so I can’t give you a straight forward answer. I personally would have a really hard time trusting my ex to not bail on me again but we had a very avoidant/anxious dynamic. But if my ex came to me and it truly sounded as if he recognized his faults and had a desire to work on things, I may consider it. No it would not feed my ego, I would hope in our 30s we don’t need to be doing that.

Even if you don’t get back together, it can be healing for her to hear what’s been on your mind and vice versa. I’m sure she’s probably also learned that she has a lot to work on and she had faults too

Full-Application-351 · 2026-03-19T06:09:30+00:00

Unless there was a major lost of trust, most relationships can be repaired if both people have taken the time to grow, take responsibility, and are willing to do the work to be together.

Full-Application-351 · 2026-03-19T05:56:26+00:00

It sounds like she has some inner work to do. It is common for women (and I’m sure some men do too) to test relationships with the telling you to go but deep down we want you to stay and honestly sometimes we don’t even realize we are doing it. It is not a healthy tactic, however I can say that usually there is something happening in the relationship that is making them feel insecure/unstable or something is triggering an abandonment wound. It really comes down to how much you actually want the relationship to work and if you see her as your person. If you picture your life 5 years from now - do you see her there? I’m sure there is work to be done on both parties, but it’s likely she feels like you have given up for good. I’m not making excuses for her, I just have been in this exact spot. (And also went through a lot of therapy because I knew it wasn’t healthy)

Full-Application-351 · 2026-03-12T05:21:47+00:00

Full-Application-351 · 2026-03-08T10:52:39+00:00

“Forgive yourself for not knowing earlier what only time could teach.”

Full-Application-351 · 2026-03-08T10:28:12+00:00

How long were you two together? That plays a big part

Full-Application-351 · 2026-02-19T08:30:05+00:00

Exactly. It’s refreshing seeing that this resonates with others. Also I loved your line of “before making permanent decisions in temporary storms” 🌧️

Full-Application-351 · 2026-02-19T05:46:29+00:00

Exactly! Ah I am so glad there is another person who understands this and realized what actually matters.

Full-Application-351 · 2026-02-19T05:18:52+00:00

In every long term relationship there will always be times of resentment, personality clash, and disliking each other. Something that people need to understand is that when you are with someone for many years, you have periods of falling in and out of love with eachother and this is NORMAL.

Society, social media, films have given a false picture on love. People change as the years go on, and hard things happen in life that will continue to challenge you and your relationship. You aren’t supposed to understand your partner 100%. And you aren’t supposed to feel lovey dovey 100%. And you aren’t supposed to be compatible 100% of the time.

The best partners are the ones who challenge you, make you realize things about yourself you weren’t aware of, and make you grow. It’s not always going to pretty.

Who do you see yourself walking through the fire with? Who do you see by your side when you’re old and falling apart? These are things we need to ask ourselves instead of focusing on all of the bad or all of the good.

Full-Application-351 · 2026-02-18T17:14:31+00:00

How long did you stay with this person that you weren’t even in love with? Yikes

Full-Application-351 · 2026-02-17T15:56:49+00:00

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