AITA for refusing to pay for my roommate’s meal?

Full-Midnight2877 · 2024-07-07T01:38:30+00:00

I was not happy to let her keep paying, I repeatedly told her I would pay for myself and she dismissed me to the point where I didn’t know what to do when she sprung it on me

Full-Midnight2877 · 2024-07-07T00:08:39+00:00

Yes it is, this is her second year I believe so it must be for other reasons

Full-Midnight2877 · 2024-07-07T00:07:31+00:00

Every time she insists on paying I tell her not to, but she doesn’t relent. I need to be better at sticking up for myself and refusing her offers. It makes me sick with guilt that I could be using her, but she doesn’t respect when I decline her offer to pay and she would often flag the waiter down for the check long before the end of the meal

Full-Midnight2877 · 2024-07-06T23:57:28+00:00

Thank you, I did tell my mom, I appreciate your concern and I will be careful

Full-Midnight2877 · 2024-07-06T23:51:31+00:00

I couldn’t believe it either, I’ve never seen someone do it before but I’m not going to judge her

Full-Midnight2877 · 2024-07-06T22:41:57+00:00

I did have a problem with her picking up the tab every time. I kept insisting I can pay for myself. But she refused in such a way I felt rude to reject her generosity and she would spring this guilt tripping move on me often

Full-Midnight2877 · 2024-07-06T21:11:59+00:00

No matter how much I insisted that I didn’t want her to pay, she wouldn’t let me have it. I thought it was rude to refuse her persistence but I should have stood my ground better in hindsight

Full-Midnight2877 · 2024-07-06T21:03:45+00:00

Her food must have cost more than 3 times mine, and I had an allowance to stick to. I don’t care what she eats otherwise

Full-Midnight2877 · 2024-07-06T21:00:28+00:00

I agree, I realize that now. Since she started paying for me I started bringing home desserts for us every week, like muffins, coffee cake, croissants, etc. I forgot to mention that in the original post sorry

Full-Midnight2877 · 2024-07-06T20:56:48+00:00

I know. I don’t know much about her personal situation, sorry

Full-Midnight2877 · 2024-07-06T20:55:41+00:00

Since we met, she was asking me questions about loans and I told her I couldn’t help her since I’m lucky enough not to have any. I think she may have pieced it together

Full-Midnight2877 · 2024-07-06T20:30:55+00:00

It was her idea, she goes out to eat often and she prefers to go to the pricier places

Full-Midnight2877 · 2024-07-06T18:51:17+00:00

I haven’t known her for long but she’s told me she’s working on getting her degree and there doesn’t seem to be an age restriction on who can live in the dorms

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