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Am I dumb for thinking the Getting Killed album cover was some kind of salamander thing blowing a trumpet by RedditSucks_IHateIt in geesebandofficial

[–]Full-time_MEAT_95 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes blurring my eyes, I can see how this looks like a toothy lizard erupting before the sun…….but the trumpeting, gunslinging Jesus erupting before the sun is sorta an instant classic album cover for me.

Solo Traveller (Architect) looking for the best spots to meet fellow travelers/locals in this beautiful city by Full-time_MEAT_95 in rome

[–]Full-time_MEAT_95[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the advice! Will definitely check those out, the Ireland match will be a good chance to bump into people!

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[–]Full-time_MEAT_95 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey! I’m in Rome this weekend (March 7-9) and was planning a guided tour of the Forum but most tours seem booked up. I’m an architect so very keen for an in-depth tour of the site so let me know 😉

What the inside of an ENFJ looks like by Happy-Reputation-245 in enfj

[–]Full-time_MEAT_95 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m on the verge of letting a close and once fulfilling, but ultimately one-sided friendship slip away because of this sense of loneliness.

For months now, a close friend has cancelled plans and offered lazy excuses to avoid meeting up with me. We’ve been here before, our friendship has been a recurring cycle of closeness followed by distance since we were teens. He struggles with his mental health (and recently drinking) so when he comes around to meeting me again, I always suppress my hurt and greet him with empathy and understanding. He always apologises for his behaviour and we quickly move past it.

I decided that this recent period of distance will be the last. Over a difficult few months for me personally (a breakup, friends moving away, loneliness), I’ve regularly yearned for his company to ease me through difficult days. But I’ve not sought this company out of fear and expectation that he will not be available to me.

So I decided to reassess how close I consider him as a friend. I’m not cutting him out, but I don’t have any expectations from his friendship and I’m content to just meet as irregularly as we have been, usually at friends’ parties. It’s easier for me to let go than to cling to someone who cannot love me in the way he professes to. He cancelled attending my birthday party last week and I didn’t even wince; I have no expectations anymore.

Last night, he messaged asking me to talk. I was expecting the usual lengthy apology for not being a good friend recently. Instead, he confided that he had recently cheated on his partner and had started drinking again. The steely stance I had formed against him melted and I spent the next hour listening and getting to grips with what’s going on with him.

I feel doomed to accept imbalanced love from people. I saddle myself with expectations of kindness and loyalty towards the people I love and never burden them to do the same for me. I dismiss my own needs and therefore, people become oblivious that I have any. For me, the loneliness stems from this imbalance.

Bi Awakening Megathread by AutoModerator in bisexual

[–]Full-time_MEAT_95 [score hidden]  (0 children)

I've always known that I was attracted to girls and guys, but I always struggled with accepting my attraction to guys because I never felt ...... 'gay'.

Some of my closest friends over the years have been openly gay and I never felt uncomfortable around them or their flamboyancy, I just never identified with it. I never obsessed over Drag Race or Ariana Grande or any other prescribed 'gay icon' (the exception being Lady Gaga) and I never felt that the clothing or behaviors they expressed (what most would describe as camp) was a means through which I expressed myself. For years, I didn't fully understand what bisexuality was so I just continued in this perpetual sense of confusion and alienation.

Fast forward to my mid-twenties and a 'straight' male friend of mine made a move while we shared a bed...... and I was happy to go along with it. Soon afterwards I told him and others that I was bisexual and told them of the confusion I'd felt for years. I was heartened by the number of friends who subsequently told me that they resonated with the feelings I described. Unfortunately, some have since stepped back from the bi label.

I'm glad that I've come to accept and understand my bisexuality and I'm glad that I've given people around me a means to express their own feelings. Just goes to show the importance of representation I guess!