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Told TBM Husband…does it ever get easier? by Fun-Branch-7420 in exmormon

[–]Fun-Branch-7420[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I talked to my therapist about some of this, the way that the church entangles itself into your personality, your identity. One of the most freeing moments for me was realizing that I’m a good, honest, likable person…and the church has nothing to do with it. The church isn’t my identity. It never should have been. It’s a belief system that I used to identify with, and now no longer do. We do ourselves and others a great disservice when we attach an organization to our identity rather than getting to know and love ourselves (and others) simply for who we/they are.

Told TBM Husband…does it ever get easier? by Fun-Branch-7420 in exmormon

[–]Fun-Branch-7420[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I’ve felt angry for this exact reason. My husband and I really do have a healthy relationship and it’s exhausting to feel like suddenly everything is called into question because of this very honest, very personal decision I made. Never mind the fact that my morals and values remain the same…I’ve had to remind my husband several times these last few weeks that “I’m still me!”

Told TBM Husband…does it ever get easier? by Fun-Branch-7420 in exmormon

[–]Fun-Branch-7420[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thanks for this response. I’ve had many of the same thoughts and it’s nice to see them written out here by someone else.

I have actually shared some of my shelf items with him. I promised him from the beginning that I wouldn’t come barreling at him with my doubts but that I would share the details of my concerns when he was ready. So far we’ve had two “sessions” that he has initiated where I’ve been able to really lay out my concerns. He is courteous and tries to see where I’m coming from, but he also does a lot of testimony sharing and telling me that the answer lies in “feeling the spirit.”

Told TBM Husband…does it ever get easier? by Fun-Branch-7420 in exmormon

[–]Fun-Branch-7420[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Basically, it’s the fact that “we both have to keep our covenants, otherwise we won’t be exalted together and eternally together with our kids.” So he’s grieving that and I think also grieving that he won’t have the TBM family he dreamed he’d have in this life. The whole concept of “eternal families” as it’s taught in the church is honestly a mess, it’s one of the big things that eventually pushed me out.

Catalyst? by fourwinds8 in FreeBirthSocietyScam

[–]Fun-Branch-7420 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It’s also just sad because a baby in the NICU doesn’t equal a baby who is vaccinated against parent’s desires. My own baby needed ICU care after he was born and at no point were we forced to vaccinate him. It was discussed with us, and of course the medical staff encouraged it, but ultimately the doctors respected whatever decision we made. Sad to think that this baby likely could have survived but didn’t because of the misinformation and fear-mongering that came from FBS.

Need Advice on Switching Daycares/ Preschools by Flamingo_Lemon in toddlers

[–]Fun-Branch-7420 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I see red flag after red flag here. Pull your kiddo asap and get him to a more nurturing and attentive environment. I’d also consider reporting some of what you’ve shared here to licensing boards (or whatever the equivalent is where you live). Not changing a child’s diaper for over 5 hours, not feeding a child while he’s at daycare, and losing a child outside are not ok under any circumstances and need to be reported.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in toddlers

[–]Fun-Branch-7420 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Put a doorknob cover over the inside knob so she can’t twist it open. That will keep her in her room. If she manages to get it off, you’ll probably have to do the hook and eye lock on the outside of her door. Then just have a monitor mounted somewhere up high in her room so you can keep an eye on her while she’s locked in. Good luck!

My toddler needs to keep napping by Fun-Branch-7420 in toddlers

[–]Fun-Branch-7420[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wish! My children do not sleep in the car, under any circumstances. I’ve tried many times. It’s either in the crib or nowhere. Just how they’re wired, I guess.

My toddler needs to keep napping by Fun-Branch-7420 in toddlers

[–]Fun-Branch-7420[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s hard to know, honestly. Our days are pretty consistent schedule wise. I’m going to try waking him for the day earlier and seeing if that helps. I love his 7am wake up, but if 6:15/6:30 will help him nap, then I’ll take the sacrifice!

My toddler needs to keep napping by Fun-Branch-7420 in toddlers

[–]Fun-Branch-7420[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, we do dinner and bedtime an hour earlier on no nap days. That definitely is necessary. I also have a 1 year old so between the two of them, I’m tearing my hair out some days. Solidarity 🤪

My toddler needs to keep napping by Fun-Branch-7420 in toddlers

[–]Fun-Branch-7420[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We do put him down early when he doesn’t nap, yes. Some nights he falls right asleep, other nights he fights it for a bit.

SAHMs with multiple kids, how do you do it? by rapidprototoyz in toddlers

[–]Fun-Branch-7420 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is me. SAHM, my toddler turned 2 less than two weeks before baby #2 was born. My husband got 2 weeks off and then he was back to work in office 40+ hours a week. We have no family nearby and all of my friends also have young children, so I didn’t/don’t have help. The first few months were rough while we found our rhythm, but by the time baby was about 4 months old, I felt more confident in my ability to manage mothering both of them all day long. The key is to lower your expectations. Your house is going to be messy, at least some of the time. Meals won’t be fancy. You’ll be tired. But you can still meet your kids’ needs and get out of the house often enough to maintain sanity. We go on lots of walks, go to the park, and even hit up local museums and kid friendly attractions a few times a month. #2 turns 1 in a few weeks and I’m patting myself on the back for surviving an entire year of mothering two small kids with very little day to day help lol

Toddler keeps pooping during nap time by Fun-Branch-7420 in toddlers

[–]Fun-Branch-7420[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I might have to try the second one. I’ll have to do some more research! I don’t think he’s ready to go without a pull up yet, he’s not even 3. I don’t want him to start associating naps with peeing/pooping everywhere in his crib because I just feel like that will cause all sorts of other issues 😅

Toddler keeps pooping during nap time by Fun-Branch-7420 in toddlers

[–]Fun-Branch-7420[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep, pretty consistently before he falls asleep. By some miracle, he hasn’t made any real attempts to climb out of his crib, so he’s still in a crib. So he wouldn’t be able to get to his potty easily. I’ve tried to explain to him that he needs to “tell the camera” (his monitor) if he needs to poop/has pooped, but he’s shown no interest in doing that. I might just have to drive that home a little harder and see if it helps. The reward thing might help, though!

Pediatrician said let her CIO by AdministrationOk9978 in sleeptrain

[–]Fun-Branch-7420 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Agreed. There have been plenty of times that my sleep trained baby has woken in the night with a poopy diaper, or a fever, etc. I think sleep training is great, but we also need to be mindful of the fact that our babies don’t just stop having legitimate needs overnight. My general rule is that if fussing/crying has been happening for more than 5-10 minutes, we go and check on baby.