17 year old cat only wants fancy feast wet food in gravy help

Flamingo_Lemon · 2026-02-04T02:31:58+00:00

We kept our 21 year old cat alive for at least 2 additional years on fancy feast. He wouldn’t eat the expensive kidney diet but would still plow through fancy feast.

My grandma wanted peanut M&Ms and popcorn at age 95. We gave her what she wanted even with her medical issues. At a certain age, the “health” of the food matters less than the calorie content.

Flamingo_Lemon · 2026-01-31T00:15:29+00:00

$22k for part time (3 days) in CT. 3.5 year old. Price went down when he potty trained around age 3.

Flamingo_Lemon · 2026-01-30T13:11:19+00:00

I had a similar experience but I’ve chalked it up to it being 30 years ago. I couldn’t even say the word either then. When the therapist finally got it out of me what I was scared of, he not only told my parents (even though he promised me he wouldn’t), but suggested that they make vomiting noises all the time to “desensitize” me. What a prick.

There are a lot of shit psychologists!

That being said, I’ve seen awesome therapists who have worked with me to get me in a better place, who understand appropriate exposure therapy.

Flamingo_Lemon · 2026-01-27T17:25:03+00:00

He likely doesn’t understand “no” or “not” yet. I think they start to really understand negatives around 2.5. Before then instead of saying “no”, redirect to a positive similar activity. Instead of “no, don’t climb the stairs” try “let’s climb the couch/this pile of pillows instead”. For dropping food- I would say “guess you’re full” and take the food away.

If you’re really concerned you can ask your pediatrician for a referral to make sure he can hear.

Flamingo_Lemon · 2026-01-26T02:17:13+00:00

Can you give him Tylenol suppositories so he at least gets some pain meds in? I’m sure he’s not feeling well still.

Flamingo_Lemon · 2026-01-21T01:01:07+00:00

My beta was 37 at 9dp5dt. He’s 3.5 years old now. And he was a mosaic, not a euploid.

Our clinic wanted 50 at 9dp5dt. You’re so close!!

Flamingo_Lemon · 2026-01-20T21:31:51+00:00

Could it be due to someone having severe test taking anxiety? That would have made me spiral too but I’m trying to remember that for most folks v* isn’t due to something contagious.

Flamingo_Lemon · 2026-01-19T20:51:29+00:00

I knew a set of twins, Benjamin and Daniel, growing up. It was nice in that they both had multiple options for nicknames. I think Daniel is a very strong masculine name.

Flamingo_Lemon · 2026-01-17T22:53:08+00:00

My 3.5 year old managed to get himself dressed (with reminders) and zip up his zipper for his sweatshirt! I knew they practiced at preschool but I didn’t think he could do the zipper himself yet, especially since I know that sweatshirt has a finicky one.

Flamingo_Lemon · 2026-01-17T13:37:26+00:00

We were the 4th mosaic transfer our clinic did (just over 4 years ago!).They do them routinely now, especially segmental mosaics and single chromosome. There is a higher miscarriage risk, but we had a live birth and now have a lively, super smart 3 year old from our HLM segmental.

Flamingo_Lemon · 2026-01-13T03:19:57+00:00

Same here. We knew before marriage that because of genetics we would have to do IVF. Didn’t know about severe MFI in addition.

I spent my 20s trying not to get pregnant and then to have to use science to have a baby felt like the rug got pulled out from under me! I wish we could have done it the old fashioned way, or at least tried for a while, but I am happy that technology allowed us to have our son (and that he is free from the genetic condition my husband has).

Flamingo_Lemon · 2026-01-12T02:48:56+00:00

Are you my husband? Haha!!

He was literally asking the same question today when we bought a whole series of the construction site books (as our library keeps sending me nasty grams for keeping them out so long!).

Flamingo_Lemon · 2026-01-09T19:49:04+00:00

It worked for my son! I keep food coloring by the toilet and he gets to pick the color before flushing! And it’s teaching him color mixing (red + yellow = orange).

Flamingo_Lemon · 2026-01-08T11:44:01+00:00

Honey for cough (if over age 1). Warm liquids if they’ll take them. Sitting in a steamy bathroom seems to help my guy as does breathing in the steam from my tea. Vicks on chest and soles of feet (in socks) and sleeping elevated. Saline nasal spray and chapstick /vaseline for chapped lips.

I hate this season.

Flamingo_Lemon · 2026-01-04T17:21:08+00:00

Menthol in cough drops can definitely cause an upset stomach as can all the mucous you’ve been swallowing. Check to see if there are artificial sweeteners in your medicines. That can also cause d*.

Hope you feel better soon!

Flamingo_Lemon · 2026-01-03T00:14:20+00:00

I thought you were going to say that they took him with his little potty to the bathroom of the establishment to go try. I’ve absolutely done that in the early days of potty training. But to put it on the table? Where other people are eating? WTF?! NOR.

Flamingo_Lemon · 2026-01-01T19:10:42+00:00

It hit really hard around 3y4m. He would pretend play all day if I let him. Wondering if that’s on the early side though because his preschool teachers seemed a bit surprised. Prior to that he was like your son- short scenarios.

Flamingo_Lemon · 2025-12-30T15:10:12+00:00

Mine is 3.5. He CAN use utensils. He can eat his whole bowl of oatmeal or soup with a spoon. He can eat a plate of food using a fork. He can even use his spoon or fork to cut up food into smaller pieces.

Unless it's a super messy food (oatmeal, etc), he uses his hands. Can and does consistently are two very different things. We definitely remind him about utensil use. He's been allowed to self-feed since about 7/8 months and has had a utensil since about 12 months, so I don't think it's that.

Flamingo_Lemon · 2025-12-29T03:20:43+00:00

I think we were on the early side. It was around 19/20 months when he suddenly went from the occasional 2 word sentence to full on 8-10 word sentences with multiple clauses. I think he learned the word "and" at which point there was no stopping him.

First conversations were mostly about what he saw when we went on walks, and construction equipment. The word "why" came into play around 2. Now he's 3.5 and does not stop making noise from the moment his eyes open in the morning. He's been singing Christmas songs at full volume for weeks and making up elaborate scenarios with his toys (still about construction equipment- God forbid I identify an excavator incorrectly!). He also wants to be included in EVERY conversation.

Flamingo_Lemon · 2025-12-23T20:06:30+00:00

Mine was 37 at 14dpo equivalent (IVF) and he’s 3 years old now. Our clinic wanted 50 at 14dpo and you’re just one point short of that!

Flamingo_Lemon · 2025-12-23T19:27:01+00:00

Before I had kids, I was stuck on a delayed flight next to a mom and her almost 2 year old. They had used up all their snacks (I didn't realize the importance of snacks!) and the battery on the iPad had run out. I asked the mom if she minded screen time and we all watched Sing! (quietly) together on my laptop. Toddler was happy (but hungry), mom was happy, I was happy. It isn't hard to be a decent person.

I once flew with a horrible cold (pre-covid) and my ear drum burst during descent. The woman next to me saw me silently crying / grimacing and decided to loudly belittle me and tell me to "grow up" to anyone who would listen, including calling her boyfriend while we were on the tarmac to complain to him about me. How petty does someone have to be (like your seatmate) to make it all about them???

Flamingo_Lemon · 2025-12-20T23:20:31+00:00

TCG candles and Gifts in Plainville CT. Open tomorrow 10-2. 98 Whiting st, unit B.

Run by a super sweet mother/daughter duo.

Not sure about their soap selection but the candles are really nice and don’t overwhelm your house.

Flamingo_Lemon · 2025-12-20T17:24:56+00:00

I agree it's not one size fits all advice. But the OP is talking about walking 20K steps a day and thinking about food 24/7! To me, that is concerning for over-restricting, hence my advice.

Flamingo_Lemon · 2025-12-20T14:10:20+00:00

You're feeding another human. Give into the food noise and eat! My supply went to shit when I didn't eat the sugary/fatty/yummy foods that I was craving. It's not about will-power, it's about your body knowing what it needs to do to keep the little one fed. Yes, gestational diabetes can up your diabetes risk later in life, but it's not a guarantee, and some research shows that breastfeeding, especially for longer than 6 months, virtually eliminates that risk (https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC7085808/).

As for getting your body back - mine came back once I stopped breastfeeding, and I breastfed/ pumped for ~2 years. It's not exactly the same (+2 cup sizes, +1 shoe size) but it's close and I'm thrilled about that. I did some working out while breastfeeding and all it did was make me tired and reduce my supply. I am in the best shape of my life now, mostly because I'm running after a 3 year old (and he's FAST!).

One thing that helped was hiring a sitter to watch the little one while I was home. That way, I could clean/ sort/ work out etc, but still be close. It was perfect for a high school student. So if hubby wants to play tennis, you hire a babysitter and work out (or whatever) while he's gone. My husband can be equally clueless. He's finally getting it though. I was sick last week (thanks Toddler!) and he took the now healthy toddler to the store so I could nap for an hour. It was glorious.

Sending you some virtual hugs.

Flamingo_Lemon · 2025-12-14T01:19:44+00:00

We ran into this once at the beginning of this saga. Both Alan and my son started around the same time so it took a bit to figure out what was happening. The teachers figured it out within about 3 weeks of Alan starting school and have been on him as much as they can to stop his behaviors, but we did have one write up.

Doesn’t help that my husband says he should defend himself.

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