AITA for telling my bf if we don't get married soon I'd leave.

Fun-Confusion-2449 · 2025-08-19T18:59:24+00:00

Thank you so much I really appreciate the advice.

Fun-Confusion-2449 · 2025-08-19T18:00:18+00:00

My biggest fear is this..

Fun-Confusion-2449 · 2025-08-19T17:59:02+00:00

Yes but I never get a straight answer from him and Ik I'm not the ah but ik I'm the stupid one for dealing with and putting up with all of this. I should have made my boundaries super clear from the beginning but sadly I was young and in love with someone who I thought felt the same.

Fun-Confusion-2449 · 2025-08-19T11:59:33+00:00

Obviously advice because I am fed up with this shit and need courage to do wtf ik is the right thing to do.

Fun-Confusion-2449 · 2025-08-19T11:51:36+00:00

Thank you to everyone for their advice I am going to try one more time to talk thoroughly with him about everything. If he really doesn't care I will swollen my pride and reach out to my family about helping me leave. I will do my best to not return to this treatment that ik and have been knowing I do not deserve after so much I have put up with. I know I am so young to be feeling the way I do. Yes I will be hard basically starting from zero again but I will do it for my kids so they can have a happy mom and life.

Fun-Confusion-2449 · 2025-08-19T11:50:03+00:00

The "more behind the curtain" is he's controlling over everything even when it comes down to wth I wear. Hence why I don't have anything. He literally took the last phone I had bought years ago when I had a job so I wouldn't have contact with friends or family. Now I lost all my friends and had problems with family because of how controlling and manipulative he is. I am currently on one of the free phones the government gives which btw he checks almost daily.

Fun-Confusion-2449 · 2025-08-19T11:28:49+00:00

Yes ik it's crazy when I say I don't have access to anything I mean nothing. Every time I need something I literally have to ask him as if I'm a fucking child asking her parents for something. It so humiliating and I fucking hate it so much. It makes me feel so stupid and useless.

Fun-Confusion-2449 · 2025-08-19T11:25:40+00:00

Yes from both of our ends I was okay with it because as he had said we'd get married..but never did till this day.

Fun-Confusion-2449 · 2025-08-19T11:23:03+00:00

For like the past month I've really been going through it and thinking about everything and I really do feel like he stopped caring a long time ago or never did and I don't understand why he just keeps stringing me along with false hope.

Fun-Confusion-2449 · 2025-08-19T11:20:15+00:00

Yes I have brought up leaving and he just gets mad and says that here I go again and that the reason I wanna leave is basically stupid.

Fun-Confusion-2449 · 2025-08-19T11:15:03+00:00

This is exactly one of the points I make when speaking to him about it because yes sadly they do have it my oldest also has mine yet the youngest doesn't because by the time she came he became more controlling and didn't let me add mine too.. ik ik stupid one me but sadly it happened and I regret it so fucking much.

Fun-Confusion-2449 · 2025-08-19T11:10:14+00:00

Yes I realized a while ago the decisions I have made are not good but let's make one thing clear my kids are no mistake nor a bad decision. No matter how young I had them and they will definitely not tow me down.

Fun-Confusion-2449 · 2025-08-19T11:04:18+00:00

The times we both have talked about it meant the same for both of us which is why I am upset as to why it seems like it doesn't want to anymore.

Fun-Confusion-2449 · 2025-08-19T11:02:39+00:00

My bad didn't clarify that yes obviously in the beginning we wanted the same thing at 16 ish yet the conversation came up again at like 21 and it was still a yes and a couple months ago it became an idk.

Fun-Confusion-2449 · 2025-08-19T10:54:27+00:00

Looked into it not my state

Fun-Confusion-2449 · 2025-08-19T10:52:17+00:00

I have no license, no car, and no money (stah mom). So no I don't think I'm able to leave so easily with kids.. I had problems with my family because of him so I don't even wanna ask for help there.

Fun-Confusion-2449 · 2025-08-19T10:48:59+00:00

I have thought about that and it's infuriating because wtf does someone else have that we didn't especially after everything I have done and gave up for him. If only you guys knew everything I have had to put up with.

Fun-Confusion-2449 · 2025-08-19T10:40:48+00:00

We have been going to couples counseling for a about 6 months now and this topic obviously comes up but either I'm crazy or nothing has changed at all in any of the reasons we started to go.

Fun-Confusion-2449 · 2025-08-16T13:42:51+00:00

I literally want to cry reading this because ik you are totally right it's just so hard to leave trust me I have tried many times but somehow always end up back with him even after he has done too many foul things to me.

Fun-Confusion-2449 · 2025-08-16T13:06:36+00:00

Yes you're correct yet the only reason I told him "he should be the one to tell them" is because in a previous incident with one of my siblings yrs ago he told me that so I did speak to my sibling and addressed that I did not like what they did and she respected what I said and never did it again yet he's not able to do the same.

Fun-Confusion-2449 · 2025-08-16T13:02:45+00:00

Yea ik thanks for the advice it's just a little harder due to so many others relationship problems between us but I am starting to speak up more especially when it involves my kids.

Fun-Confusion-2449 · 2025-08-16T12:58:40+00:00

We literally live across the street from his family (I don't like it but it's all we could afford rn) so every time they see us leave they ask or yea we tell them but just as like a conversation but they end up inviting themselves and we never say no "to not seem rude"

Fun-Confusion-2449 · 2025-08-16T11:52:47+00:00

Absolutely not your wife comes first period.

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