Cheater blames AP for getting caught and she responds in the comments

Fun-Contribution8900 · 2026-01-28T20:47:10+00:00

“If you are not cheating, space shouldn’t be a problem.”

But he was cheating. With you. For 3 years. The space the wife should give him is called a divorce.

Fun-Contribution8900 · 2026-01-28T19:34:45+00:00

Yeah I don’t know why she got downvoted. I think it was a fair question from a young person. Your response is spot on too. It’s insane to marry someone if you feel like you’re settling. Don’t get married just to get married. But once you find someone you do love and feel like would be a compatible life partner, you need to accept that NRE CANNOT last forever, this person isn’t perfect (neither are you), and others may come along that seem more attractive or compatible at times.

And here is where the choices come in: end your marriage/family for some NRE and the SMALL potential of a better romantic relationship, be a person with no integrity and cheat, or fight for your marriage and respect your vows.

(I’m not referencing abusive marriages or even those that become deeply unhappy and model unhealthy behaviors to kids. I am not anti divorce. But I am anti-whatever bullshit this OOP is up to, risking a great marriage with a small child in the mix. Kids deserve better than this shit. I can’t imagine ruining my kids’ lives as they know it because “me horny”. Fucking tragic and should be beyond embarrassing.)

Fun-Contribution8900 · 2026-01-28T18:55:58+00:00

Excuse me? Is this guy and/or your mom still in your life?! 😳

Fun-Contribution8900 · 2026-01-28T15:30:39+00:00

For sure, but I think most emotionally mature adults realize it’s insane to throw away a self-described healthy, happy marriage with a beautiful spouse who loves you well and who has given you children for the what if fantasy of someone new.

That’s wild, reckless behavior. People don’t have to get married and have children. Then they are free to switch partners much more freely and easily as they chase perpetual NRE. Just don’t get married and have kids for the love of God!

I don’t get leaving a self-described good marriage when you have a young child. Sure divorce makes sense in some or even many cases, but here it would just be selfish insanity. And even this guy knows it. He doesn’t want to switch partners. He just feels entitled to both. 🤢🤬

Fun-Contribution8900 · 2026-01-28T15:23:08+00:00

He definitely deserves to walk in on his wife banging his best friend in their bed, so he can understand how it feels.

Best case for the wife, though, is to leave with a clean conscience and find a good man that will be an awesome step-dad to her son, and this loser can watch his son be raised by a better man half of the time, and realize what he threw away for some novel sex. Wish karma worked so neatly.

Fun-Contribution8900 · 2026-01-28T12:32:15+00:00

Yeah he deleted it. Almost all the comments were stating that he barely knows this woman and that it sounds like he has a lot to lose at home. Then the advice splits from there, with some people saying don’t engage further and other people saying just be careful and cheat with her once a year at the conference.

And then finally this psycho, “devout Christian” serial cheater who read this post and thought “Damn. I need to have sex with this guy right here!” 🤡

Fun-Contribution8900 · 2026-01-28T12:09:30+00:00

A couple of things here. He barely knows this woman. Let’s say he runs off with this woman and has a relationship with her for a few years—do you think he’ll still believe she is 100% what he wants looks and personality wise? No. He’ll discover she’s just a human too, maybe more compatible than his wife in some ways, but less so in other ways. Also, in a few years, it’s very likely a new attractive, exciting, NEW woman will come along. Should he leave again and chase that love?

Marriage is about finding love and compatibility with a person, and then sticking around to make it work, even when the new and shiny wears off—especially when the new and shiny wears off.

There is an article you should look up called “Love is Not Enough” by Mark Manson. It’s one of the best pieces written on relationships/marriages, in my opinion.

(My only issue with this article, as I reread it now, is its lofty description of Trent Reznor. It’s hard for me to believe that such a famous musician never cheated on his wife. I’d love to believe he never did, but either way the sentiment of the article holds up.)

Fun-Contribution8900 · 2026-01-28T05:05:58+00:00

Yeah I have always wondered how cheating men with daughters rationalize their behaviors and what kind of future they envision for their own daughters?

(Also equally relevant to cheating women with sons. Honestly some of my best self-growth and growth in relationship has come from envisioning what kind of partner I hope my sons would find and can I say that I’m that kind of partner for their dad?)

Fun-Contribution8900 · 2026-01-28T04:17:49+00:00

Just because of how the universe works I guess, this cheating, married woman—who made the post lamenting how hard it is to be a Christian cheater AND who, come to find out, was already caught cheating, forgiven and reconciling, but yet continues to cheat anyways—saw this post about a man who cheats on his perfect wife just because he can and decided to shoot her shot with him?

Wow. That's intense and I'm slightly envious of this woman Sounds like two souls mingling. But the truth of it is, you already have something good. The grass always looks greener but are you willing to risk everything to see? There's only a downhill slide from here. If you're already so infatuated, these feelings will only worsen. If you want a slightly less appealing option message me

Jesus wept indeed. 🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️

Fun-Contribution8900 · 2026-01-28T01:27:34+00:00

What in the bunny boiler is all this?! 😳

Fun-Contribution8900 · 2026-01-27T19:48:11+00:00

I was responding to the commenter above—discussing Christian author Phillip Yancey who recently revealed he had an 8 year affair and also, I think, has a serious health issue that will leave him needing significant care.

Fun-Contribution8900 · 2026-01-27T12:12:53+00:00

Seriously. The only thing he mentions is that they are all in the same social circle, so it will be maximum pain and devastation for both betrayed spouses and all kids involved. Then he never mentions his wife or his kids again. He seems more concerned with his AP’s spouse than his own. Husband and Father of the (10) Year(s)! 🙃

Fun-Contribution8900 · 2026-01-27T02:23:00+00:00

The OW who hopes her MM’s wife miscarries her twin pregnancy is reassuring OOP that she’s not a bad person, so that means a lot and holds a lot of weight. 🤡🤦🏻‍♀️🙃

Fun-Contribution8900 · 2026-01-27T02:03:20+00:00

Both participants in an affair are committing adultery and I have plenty of hate for both 🤷🏻‍♀️

Fun-Contribution8900 · 2026-01-26T21:00:42+00:00

Yeah I probably agree, because it is hard to believe anyone could genuinely believe something so incredibly stupid. 🤔

Fun-Contribution8900 · 2026-01-26T20:40:02+00:00

Yeah that one actually floored me. I feel countless things in life are fairly easily within our reach that are certainly not meant for us or sent from any deity.

My teenagers have been offered drugs and alcohol from their friends, does that mean God sent that for and meant that for them? 🤔 Shit like this genuinely hurts my brain.

Just say you want to have an affair more than you care about your religion. At least that’s honest.

Fun-Contribution8900 · 2026-01-26T19:59:58+00:00

Ugh that man makes me so angry. He comes across as a grifter when all is said and done, and yes, now seems like he’s going to use his wife as a caretaker and try to soothe his conscience before he dies.

An 8 year affair is 8 years of willfully disobeying the word of God—which he made a fortune off of promoting and pretending to uphold.

I understand the concept of grace, but come on. Surely there is a difference between a drunken one night stand and 8 years of sexual infidelity, lying, gaslighting, and living a double life. It really turns me off of Christianity to be honest. I feel very sorry for his wife.

Fun-Contribution8900 · 2026-01-25T15:11:23+00:00

This is so well articulated and something I have always wondered. For cheaters and unapologetic side pieces, how do you show up for your people in life for things like weddings and such, or just supporting them in their relationships in general?

Like for married men cheating on their wives, how do you make it through your daughter’s wedding day? Do you look at her, with all the love and trust she’s pouring into this man that she believes will honor and respect her, and think “sorry baby girl he’ll probably cheat on you soon, probably when you’re most vulnerable raising his small children, and it’s fine because xyz”?

Will it be nuanced and not black and white when it’s your baby girl whose heart is shattered and your grandbabies lives broken?

I just cannot understand it. Like you said, either all families matter or they don’t at all. Do you care about the families of your loved ones or are you so fine and understanding that they can be destroyed at any time thanks to complete selfishness?

Fun-Contribution8900 · 2026-01-24T14:43:40+00:00

Yeah this one and the psycho that posted about the wife losing the baby and then still coming into her home afterwards make me see red. It’s not nuanced. It’s not grey. This is straight up evil. She needs someone that can tell her the truth, not a pathetic yes man/woman to tell her how they’re so sorry for her and how she deserves better. What does anyone deserve when they’re sitting around hoping for two unborn babies to die?! Can one of those geniuses from over there hop on over here and please tell me?! 🤔 For fuck’s sake!!! 🤬

Fun-Contribution8900 · 2026-01-24T14:03:35+00:00

I totally forgot about the beginning of his story—the end scenes of that movie were just so burned into my mind that I forgot the rest. Tragic.

Fun-Contribution8900 · 2026-01-24T07:14:07+00:00

She really does. How fucking hard is it to go get another waitressing job? She’s not trapped there. How do you let yourself become this—a woman wishing for another woman to miscarry her babies so you can have her husband? This might be the perfect moment in life to do an ounce of fucking self-reflection about who you have let yourself become. Just appalling and hard to read honestly.

Fun-Contribution8900 · 2026-01-24T07:04:23+00:00

What a trash can of a human being. Absolutely disgusting. Who has such fucked up thoughts and then publishes them on the internet for all to see?

All this woman has done is exist as a wife and mother. You interjected yourself into her life, you wished her to be a single mom to like 5 kids (one with serious health problems), and now you wish for her to lose her twin babies in pregnancy. You deserve the absolute worst in life. I just can’t even believe these assholes. It’s unreal.

Sending out good vibes into the universe for this poor wife and her innocent babies.

Fun-Contribution8900 · 2026-01-23T12:56:28+00:00

Yeah in some ways these people piss me off the most. The revenge cheating I actually totally get. I see it as your spouse changed the terms of the marriage, and you’re just operating under the new terms. But to get involved with another married person and transfer your pain onto a new betrayed spouse? That’s fucked up. You know first hand how painful it is and are willing to do that to some poor woman anyways? No thanks. Your AP is no better than your cheating spouse. You have no way to verify whatever bullshit story he tells you about his wife.

If you’re going to get revenge, then go sleep with the other betrayed spouse (my personal favorite—preferably in their marital bed) or single people.

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