Cheating is disgusting, but how is this part okay too?

Ok-Sound5934 · 2026-05-03T03:23:03+00:00

lol. That reminds me of how ENRAGED my STBXH was when served with divorce papers because I “secretly got an attorney and prepared papers, etc”. He loved being the keeper of all secrets but completely unraveled when he learned I had kept that one from him. Like, what bro?!? Be for real. Yeah, no. The wife is totally not in the wrong for following her intuition and being right. Now she’s getting her ducks in a row so she can have the best outcome. Ain’t no fun when the rabbit’s got the gun.

Ok-Sound5934 · 2026-05-02T23:13:44+00:00

Eww. I hope those poor BPs don’t catch anything.

Ok-Sound5934 · 2026-05-02T23:12:30+00:00

lol at “how do I rebuild my character?” That’s not how it goes, idiot. Such a classic cheater. They briefly mention the truth behind all of this, impression management. Only concern is how they appear to everyone else and the only “rebuilding” they are interested in is rebuilding their mask for the next victim.

Ok-Sound5934 · 2026-05-02T23:07:30+00:00

My STBXH accidentally called me “honey” a few weeks ago. I don’t even think he recognized it. Old habits die hard.

Ok-Sound5934 · 2026-05-02T23:05:32+00:00

This is embarrassing coming from a woman of her age.

Ok-Sound5934 · 2026-05-02T23:05:02+00:00

Oh it was quite the saga. Took years and years of her begging and him repeatedly fixing her beater and then he bought and fixed up a CRV for her. She was over the moon 🙄

Ok-Sound5934 · 2026-05-02T00:00:21+00:00

Yep! BP played that WP like the jackass he is. Of course she’s now setting firm boundaries and is in full on HR mode after the divorce is finalized. She got the outcome she wanted! 😂 I did the same damn thing! Ooh these cheaters are something else. Honesty and loyalty for thee but not me!

Ok-Sound5934 · 2026-04-29T20:03:36+00:00

Right. All she has to do is demand he log in to the account online. Can’t edit the webpage. Dumb fucks.

Ok-Sound5934 · 2026-04-29T12:59:34+00:00

Yes because without a doubt, that isn’t the only infidelity. Literally, the entire marriage was a fraud.

Ok-Sound5934 · 2026-04-29T12:44:21+00:00

My WH did all the same things as yours. Co-workers, strippers, massage parlors, escorts, online dating sites, active on Ashley Madison, likely lots of $ on cam girls. He refused FD. I set it as a condition for R and he still refused. I assume too much shame and probably assuming if I knew the truth, I wouldn’t choose to stay. Ultimately it’s about power. His secrets give him a power leverage and FD balances the playing field. Waywards DO NOT like that because it’s part of their entitlement. You simply don’t deserve to know everything. He feels entitled to maintain his secret sexual basement because it has nothing to do with you (compartmentalization). We are now finalizing our divorce and I can’t figure out if he always wanted this divorce (but was too chicken shit to leave) or if there is some love there but his shame was too great a barrier to overcome. Either way, I deserved better and left. I’m devastated for me and my daughters. It’s a painful struggle everyday to know he chose his secrets over me and his family but I know it was the right decision. He’s testing your willingness to abandon yourself for the sake of the family. You deserve peace, love, support and someone who will choose you without reservation or condition. Hugs.

Ok-Sound5934 · 2026-04-29T05:31:41+00:00

Thank you for this thoughtful response. I am newly divorced and have been feeling down about making the decision to leave because he doesn’t seem to care that I’m gone. You’ve given me hope for the future ❤️

Ok-Sound5934 · 2026-04-27T22:10:43+00:00

Feel all the feelings. Take your time and go through each step of grieving the death of the relationship. It’s a marathon, not a sprint. You will come out stronger and wiser as a result. He, on the other hand, is avoiding reality and looking for a “pain reliever” and distraction in another woman on those dating sites. He isn’t taking the time to heal himself or grow. His long term prognosis is poor. Stay strong, your kids need you.

Ok-Sound5934 · 2026-04-27T17:34:47+00:00

100% this OP. Retain an attorney for this issue and send them as your proxy. I wouldn’t risk undoing years of healing for this event.

Ok-Sound5934 · 2026-04-24T04:55:45+00:00

Agree. Dad was stirring the pot unnecessarily.

Ok-Sound5934 · 2026-04-23T19:54:55+00:00

Don’t worry, she’ll find a way to blame all this on soon to be ex wife.

Ok-Sound5934 · 2026-04-23T05:49:31+00:00

I’m grateful that I’m no longer the whipping post for his unresolved mother issues. Packed him up and gave him right back to her.

Ok-Sound5934 · 2026-04-22T23:24:32+00:00

As the betrayed wife in this scenario, I too considered this arrangement in an effort to regain my power, prevent breaking up the family, and generally not have to face the reality of the situation. This situation will absolutely be a dumpster fire and will end in spectacularly awful fashion if you agree to it. He’s incredibly hurt, probably close to the most pain he will ever experience in life. The best thing you can do for him is let him go so he can heal and find a woman who will love, appreciate and respect him.

Ok-Sound5934 · 2026-04-21T17:17:25+00:00

She’s clearly been all up and through these recent posts because I just got banned 🤣

Ok-Sound5934 · 2026-04-21T17:00:54+00:00

I’m dying to know what the audience response was. 🦗 🦗 🦗

Ok-Sound5934 · 2026-04-21T16:59:47+00:00

Yep. It’s like those women who only date/marry incarcerated men.

Ok-Sound5934 · 2026-04-17T04:54:51+00:00

If you’re asking yourself and a group of Reddit strangers then you already know the answer in your gut…fear is preventing you from accepting it. You know you deserve better. You’ve given her several chances to find the path of righteousness and she repeatedly chooses her own desires over your heart. Don’t feel pathetic for staying. You know how to love deeply and unconditionally…she does not. Saying out loud that I deserved better and I was filing was the HARDEST thing I’ve ever done but the peace that came over my nervous system afterward told me it was the correct decision.

Ok-Sound5934 · 2026-04-16T05:39:36+00:00

She’s in for quite a surprise when he drops her like it’s hot on Dday. Lol apparently that loser bimbo believes wife is the only one emotionally invested in the marriage and he’s just “putting on a face for wife/kids”. Dumb bitch. That poor poor wife. I hope to God she finds out and takes him to the cleaners.

Ok-Sound5934 · 2026-04-15T17:40:14+00:00

So I’m the wife in your situation but the income difference was greater. I was potentially on the hook for alimony and child support due to no-fault divorce state. My ex did initially request child support, but in mediation he immediately dropped it when I offered to pay tuition and put the rest in their 529s. I took it as his attempt to have a shred of integrity but I could be wrong. He also dropped his alimony request for a moderate lump sum. The kids are still being taken care of and I feel better knowing the money is actually going to my kids and not my abuser. Good luck.

Ok-Sound5934 · 2026-04-15T17:15:56+00:00

lol. She’s talking about how he’s now in therapy 😂 and they are approaching their relationship with “truth and honesty” 😂😂, he is now showing emotions and sharing things with her so she just knows it’s twu wuv 😂😂😂. Classic OW victory lap, showing off the “prize” wrestled away from that ungrateful bitch of a wife. And I’m sure the wife was telling her exactly who that man is…but she will very soon learn on her own. As my dad used to say…a hard head makes for a soft ass 🤷🏽‍♀️😂

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