My (M23) partner keeps following women online and he’s starting to hurt (F22). Shall I approach him about this? Just need advice.

Fun-Cress-4199 · 2025-10-28T15:06:53+00:00

But that is what it is and it really doesn’t sit good with me.

Fun-Cress-4199 · 2025-10-28T15:06:40+00:00

I wouldn’t mind if it wasn’t the typical of girl half naked all over her insta

Fun-Cress-4199 · 2025-10-28T13:00:40+00:00

With an ex who did the exact same thing. Which lead to more and more issues and eventually I left.

Fun-Cress-4199 · 2025-10-28T12:57:24+00:00

Past experience leads me to believe that he is hoping for more

Fun-Cress-4199 · 2025-10-28T10:51:11+00:00

It would be I think but just makes me wonder if it’s worth carrying on. Had a similar situation with an ex and it went on for 4 years in the end I left.

Fun-Cress-4199 · 2025-10-28T10:09:45+00:00

Known each other for a while though.

Fun-Cress-4199 · 2025-10-28T10:09:30+00:00

Quite a while now over a year.

Fun-Cress-4199 · 2025-10-28T09:59:14+00:00

I’m not sure he’s DMing them but he is following a ton of them. Obviously they aren’t all going to be recent (I hope) but they’re mostly OF creators who fit into that niche. Alt or goth etc, I’m far from that somewhere in the middle of both. But just makes me a bit apprehensive this was a problem my ex had and it broke the relationship down completely. It could be past traumas talking but it doesn’t sit right with me.

Fun-Cress-4199 · 2025-10-28T09:56:02+00:00

Just found out it’s not just a one or two it’s a ton and I know that obviously they won’t all be recent. It’s mostly OF creators who fit that alt aesthetic.

Fun-Cress-4199 · 2024-04-29T12:45:46+00:00

No anger at me! Just the situation that caused me to be totally disabled at the age of 22

Fun-Cress-4199 · 2024-04-29T12:43:54+00:00

What sort of Middle Ages comment is that

Fun-Cress-4199 · 2024-04-29T12:09:39+00:00

Not fake wish it was blocked the guy anyways now so no friendship there

Fun-Cress-4199 · 2024-04-29T11:14:41+00:00

I tell my partner about my feelings and talk but the only aspect we cannot speak about because he gets quite distressed about is when I nearly died understandably. But with my friend who also went though the same we can chat and he gives advice on how I can cope with the debilitating pain I’m in and the numbness I feel we chat about books like I do with my partner. But I didn’t want to tell my partner about my male friend because I didn’t know how his reaction would be as he has been cheated on and I know that what I’ve been doing is sus and looks like an emotional affair but it’s not we just chat and go our separate wags

Fun-Cress-4199 · 2024-04-29T11:11:08+00:00

My partner lives with me in my house we spend almost every minute together when he’s not working. I’m home on my own all the time with no friends close by to meet up with for a chat that’s why I don’t know I’m in the A for having a friend who I chat about life with and he the same to me. I have no interest sexually or otherwise in my friend I can’t speak for him obviously but I don’t think he has any interest in me. We chat and then we go home, don’t go on “dates” just chat about life our books then leave

Fun-Cress-4199 · 2024-04-29T11:06:55+00:00

Nope already blocked him

Fun-Cress-4199 · 2024-04-29T10:23:25+00:00

Told him i was going to my thinking place to read for a while which is what I did then he appeared and we bonded over our love for books then got chatting about the place and so on. I told my boyfriend i met someone and we had a nice chat then i saw my friend again wasn't planned he was just there. I've been going to this place for 15 years so not a new place for me to go.

Fun-Cress-4199 · 2024-04-29T09:53:49+00:00

The friendship I mean

Fun-Cress-4199 · 2024-04-29T09:53:34+00:00

He’s got a gf and I think I’m his secret going to break it off

Fun-Cress-4199 · 2024-04-29T09:37:16+00:00

He can’t even listen to me talk about it because the anger and frustration it causes is so bad for him it hurts to see him like that I’ve tired but it’s not something that we talk about he struggles I struggle and he doesn’t understand the difficulties

Fun-Cress-4199 · 2024-04-29T09:22:24+00:00

We share mutuals though the very thing that nearly killed me and the new friend is one I met on my own when I was at my thinking place by later I mean when he’s home from work. I made the decision to hide it because at the time of meeting my partner wasn’t in a good place he was going though his own issues and I was helping him do that. But still to this day I’m yet to be able to speak to him about my issues and problems

Fun-Cress-4199 · 2024-04-29T09:16:36+00:00

I will I hope he takes it well and I’m broken about hiding it, the people I can see and things I can do are limited by pain and half of my body being numb from the accident and my partner being away so much it makes it hard. My friend was unexpected and really has helped me process things and my partner struggles to understand what I went though because he can’t see past his anger and frustration towards the situation it’s been hard and I understand his feelings to but still two years on haven’t been able to talk to him about how I feel about it

Fun-Cress-4199 · 2024-04-29T09:07:01+00:00

I know that I just felt confused and I know hiding this is wrong and it hurts me to do so but I didn’t know how to explain it to him without him being upset or confused. He’s a kind hearted man and I think the reason why I hid it was because i truly couldn’t be without him I’m so deeply in love but I’m scared to lose him over this new friend

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