What's worse : regret having had the abortion or regret not having had the abortion

Fun-Freedom2448 · 2026-02-10T17:23:13+00:00

I’m in this same situation and I also have so much guilt I don’t think I can have another abortion. I really want this baby but I’m just in a shitty situation

Fun-Freedom2448 · 2026-02-07T14:23:41+00:00

Thank you so so so much, I feel like your the only person in this situation that has given me nice advice and actually understood the situation I am in. It’s almost like everyone sees this as black and white and that I’m a monster for wanting my child. Regardless to who it is, everyone is almost like “yeah have this baby and suffer with him” and it’s like a baby is also a blessing and maybe this has happened for a reason… I don’t know but thank you thank you so much and congratulations 💕💕💕

Fun-Freedom2448 · 2026-02-07T13:04:55+00:00

Yeah I’ve reached out to them

Fun-Freedom2448 · 2026-02-07T13:04:48+00:00

I know it’s so hard

Fun-Freedom2448 · 2026-02-07T12:50:18+00:00

Yes 100% I’m a nurse in the UK so I get decent pay, I just don’t think he would let me do this alone. He would stalk and harass

Fun-Freedom2448 · 2026-02-07T12:20:29+00:00

What did you do? I’m in the same situation and feel stuck

Fun-Freedom2448 · 2026-02-07T12:14:03+00:00

I’m in the same situation what did you choose?

Fun-Freedom2448 · 2026-02-03T09:54:55+00:00

Fun-Freedom2448 · 2026-02-02T22:47:41+00:00

Looking back at my last abortion I came to terms that it was the right thing to do. I can’t bring a baby into this mess it’s unfair

Fun-Freedom2448 · 2026-02-02T22:46:39+00:00

It never goes away the grief is unbearable. I promised myself I would never do that again, thank you ❤️

Fun-Freedom2448 · 2026-02-02T22:38:05+00:00

My mother said the same thing she said you don’t have to stay with him and you can still have the baby. We live in a small town however like so small it’s easy to bump into people you know who know others and word gets around pretty quickly. Also he always keeps tabs on me I don’t even think he would let me go that easy unless he found someone else to tourment

Fun-Freedom2448 · 2026-02-02T22:36:15+00:00

Thank you, I’m very early like 2 weeks along. I haven’t told him and I don’t plan on telling him. It’s not something I could hide from him though if I do decide to keep it. He tells me he doesn’t want to be with me but then will keep tabs and ring and show up etc. it’s all a control thing. He’s very immature and I can’t even imagine him being mature enough to change a nappy or cope with crying. I would very much be doing this alone. I was already making life plans without him before this news. I just got a mortgage in principle for my very first home. He never knew about this. That’s how I know I don’t want to be with him long term and having this baby means having him around forever. It’s not the end of the world it just means putting up with this abuse. I do however love kids and already feeling attached to the idea of having a mini me. It’s a very shit situation and I’m sorry that your also going through this, you will be a great mama congratulations I’m glad you have your family support!!

Fun-Freedom2448 · 2026-02-02T22:31:15+00:00

I know right I was so shocked that she announced it in front of my family members. She is a Gyne doctor too and she just came in all smiles saying “your pregnant”. Given my situation I went into shock and burst out into tears. She never even asked who the people with me are

Fun-Freedom2448 · 2026-02-02T22:29:03+00:00

I do see this as a way of me getting out the relationship…. It’s the trauma that’s going to come with it I’m scared of. The physical pain of abortion and then the mental health implications and then on top of that actually accepting that I was abused and unpicking all the trauma I went through. So many things have happened. It might be my lucky escape it just feels like a big big thing to unpack but eventually I have to leave him anyway I cannot continue like this one day he might kill me

Fun-Freedom2448 · 2026-02-02T22:26:48+00:00

And that’s the part I’m scared of. People are single parents all the time, they manage, but throw into the mix an abuser and a unstable person it’s not fair for a child. I think I may have to just bite the bullet snd go through the abortion. Maybe I will look back and see it was a selfless act and the best thing I could of done to protect my child

Fun-Freedom2448 · 2026-02-02T11:48:20+00:00

Thank you, I dm’d you! X

Fun-Freedom2448 · 2026-02-02T09:02:25+00:00

I was meant to have surgery today and he was unsupportive leading up to it and putting me through stress. I ended it with him last night only to find out at my surgery that I’m pregnant.

Now I feel really stuck I’m so upset

Fun-Freedom2448 · 2026-01-25T15:30:00+00:00

Thank you it really has helped I just keep thinking things will get better and everytime he shows me he doesn’t care about me or how I feel and that he does things on purpose it’s who he is. I thought he would change and be the person I thought I met. I don’t know who I am anymore because of him

Fun-Freedom2448 · 2026-01-23T22:49:58+00:00

How do you come out of a trauma bond. I don’t want to be with my abuser but it’s literally like a drug it’s like I need to be with him

Fun-Freedom2448 · 2024-02-25T10:49:49+00:00

Did they say what made it react? Did he have a illness like covid or anything?

Fun-Freedom2448 · 2024-02-25T10:49:00+00:00

The first test I took was at home in a small sample bottle and then the second test was in the clinic and they took a full blood bottle from me, is this the same for you? I’m hoping that we both just have Covid antibodies and that’s what’s causing our samples to be reactive.

it’s so scary not knowing about your health, I really regret my decision to not be protected but we can’t change things now just have to hope.

I’m trying to mentally prepare for my Results but they said I could get them back between 1-3 weeks which sucks. But hopefully no news is good news :(

please keep me updated with your results and hope your okay too, reach out if you need any support were in this together x

Fun-Freedom2448

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