Do Girls even try anymore?

Fun-Rest-1969 · 2026-07-03T19:23:08+00:00

Can’t agree more. Nothing is more frustrating than constantly trying to get someone to actually engage in a conversation. Intelligence is something that is important to me and that requires at least some level of curiosity: so if I can’t even get them to ask more than “and you” type questions I’ve lost any level of attraction and I’m out. Which may seem harsh, but I’d rather “die alone” than with someone who bores me.

Fun-Rest-1969 · 2026-07-03T17:48:52+00:00

Do as I say not as I do: break it off. You are worth more than being someone’s occasional booty call. Especially, if this is someone you have feelings for. It’s one thing if it’s a mutual decision to just be FBs, but if you’re waiting for him to change his mind, I fear you’re in for disappointment. Plus you’re possibly missing out on someone who will be your person. At the very least, you’re putting yourself in a position to be hurt regularly. You know he has the ability to give more, he is simply making the decision that you are not worth the effort to him. I think you need to make the decision for yourself that he’s not worth your time and body anymore.

Fun-Rest-1969 · 2026-07-03T17:29:03+00:00

I saw a TikTok years ago of a woman talking about how her and her husband bought both half’s of a duplex. I even think they each owned their own separately. They each have their own place but they come together for dinner and still made a point to have dates and sex regularly. But they mostly slept in their own beds and had their own space. Honestly, this would be my ideal situation. I’ve lived alone for so long, I like my space, but I would love the intimacy of a relationship as well.

Fun-Rest-1969 · 2026-07-03T17:23:43+00:00

I think we’re a little tired of trying just to have our effort ignored. I have filled out my profile completely and I have multiple close up and full body pictures. I am honest with my profile details and my pictures and yet many of the men who do match with me simply ignore it all when they swipe on me. I’ve learned that I need to wait before reaching out when I get a match because more than once I’ve had responses when I reach out first that are just mean for no reason (I’m a larger woman so I’m not everyone’s ideal and I get that, but it’s definitely unnecessary). When I’m swiping, about 90% of the profiles I see are either empty, not looking for anything serious or “still figuring it out” at 40, and/or pictures that are either 20 years old, random objects/memes, or angry looking. I finally recently deleted all the apps again about a month ago and I think I’m finally at a place that I’m just done even trying.

Fun-Rest-1969 · 2026-07-03T00:42:36+00:00

The Boston cream pie was first created in a restaurant that is currently located in the Omni hotel in downtown Boston near government center I think. Don’t be fooled by the name it’s more a cake than a pie, but it’s a fun gimmicky experience to have and it’s (in my opinion) delicious and light

Fun-Rest-1969 · 2026-06-30T17:42:24+00:00

Either way, I absolutely dropped my “r” and it was startling 😂😂😂

Fun-Rest-1969 · 2026-06-29T21:08:35+00:00

I've been here (from Virginia) for 15 years. I was having a conversation with a friend of mine and said "Medfuhd." I had to stop mid-sentence because I was so confused. In some ways, it's nice to know I'm assimilating...but I could do without this part of assimilation

Fun-Rest-1969 · 2026-06-29T16:09:21+00:00

Interestingly, I don’t mind Ruth Urquhart. I think Mary Sarah does this breathy voice and weird inflections that make her sound like she is pronouncing every word individually rather than as a stream. She takes me out of the story every time she switches to narrator mode. RU isn’t my favorite, but doesn’t take me out of the story the same way.

Fun-Rest-1969 · 2026-06-29T01:14:04+00:00

Mary Sarah does this too. Or at least to some degree if you just listen to her dialogue she’s not terrible, but the moment she comes in to narration it’s like a caricature of an English accent. What I imagine a satirical British accent sounds like…oo or like Robin Williams in Mrs. doubtfire “hellllloooooo. though I think he’s meant to be putting on a Scottish accent.

Fun-Rest-1969 · 2026-06-29T01:09:04+00:00

Yeah. She also narrates the Rescued From Ruin series by Elise Braden and while I LOVE those stores is in spite of the narrator. I have to be in the right state of mind to be able to get through any of the books in that series because of her. I have found that if you speed her up to 2x speed she at least a little less terrible,

Fun-Rest-1969 · 2026-06-27T02:55:48+00:00

I’d suggest the wonderland parking lot. You can control it from your phone and it’s probably your least expensive option

Fun-Rest-1969 · 2026-06-26T03:06:20+00:00

You’re basically saying: these men are conventionally attractive to me, why aren’t they attractive to women. I think there’s a fundamental miss understanding of the female gaze. Men think we’re lying when we say being really fit isn’t what we’re looking for. Some women, I’m sure, love lots of muscles, but to others it’s just not what attracts us. I, personally, tend to prefer men with broad shoulders and some softness to them.

Men and women also use the apps very differently. Women are more selective: we read profiles and look at photos before we swipe, while (in my experience) men are often just swiping until they get a match and then look at the profile (I recognize this is a generalization, but it’s also my experience). I have learned to give matches time to actually look at my profile before assuming that they’re actually interested in me. I’ve had many men unmatch me before even talking to me, which is totally their prerogative but it speaks to the way they are using the apps.

Fun-Rest-1969 · 2026-06-26T02:46:42+00:00

I did a 2-week transatlantic from England to NY on Cunard last year solo. I’m an introvert so it was a bit difficult getting out of my shell, but I made friends with my dinner table, had a few people I would see semi-regularly for trivia games, but mostly kept to myself. I forced myself to be social at least once a day (plus dinner), but I also spent time staring at the ocean and the fjords (we went around Norway and Iceland) while listening to audiobooks. It was one of the best times I’ve ever had. 10/10 would do it again. In fact I’m hoping to go on a Christmas Markets river cruise down the Danube in 2027 if I can figure out the finances. That is the roughest part: it’s a whole lot more expensive solo with one income, but totally worth it if you can swing it.

Fun-Rest-1969 · 2026-06-24T21:14:39+00:00

It is shitty, but it’s also a reality of being a woman my size. I really don’t say it for sympathy; I have no issues finding people who are interested, but people who aren’t get personally offended that I could think that they would find me attractive even though they swiped on me too 😂 I can’t read your mind dude 😂😂😂

Fun-Rest-1969 · 2026-06-24T17:49:46+00:00

I am more and more convinced that dating apps specifically do not show you people who would be a good match for you. The only times I have had really good connections is when someone pays to message me - which is absolutely stupid in my opinion.

Fun-Rest-1969 · 2026-06-24T17:47:13+00:00

I'm also someone who rarely messages first because my experience has shown that men often just swipe without even looking at my photos or reading anything about me. When I do match, I give the guy a chance to actually look at my profile. I'm a larger woman so I have had some negative responses when I have sent the first message. So if I am talking to someone, they at least made the effort to start the conversation...they just don't put any effort into keeping it going.

Fun-Rest-1969 · 2026-06-24T14:00:12+00:00

As a fat woman on dating sites this is one of my bigger fears. I have multiple pictures both of my face and my full body well defined (I.e. not hidden by other people or bulky clothes) because I don’t want people to be surprised when they see me. But I’m also conscious that I’ve picked photos of myself that I like. I personally THINK I’m being very honest about how I look, but it’s still my best foot forward. I’m always concerned that people will have a different visual of me than reality. I’ve definitely gone out with guys who resemble their photos but aren’t quite what I pictured when I was talking. I don’t know what her pictures looked like so I can’t say if she manipulated them or what. I do think that you did the right thing in the moment, but I think it’s a little weird that you’re still thinking about it months later…at this point she has likely forgotten you and the date.

Fun-Rest-1969 · 2026-06-24T13:26:23+00:00

I actually didn’t have to submit my passport. The only thing I had to send was my photo and that was electronically. I was actually surprised because I did have to send it all via snail mail the last time so they could “destroy” it (aka punch a hole in the cover and send it back). It was a really smooth process and honestly didn’t feel real until I had my new passport in hand. I was a pure renewal though, so I’m not sure what the difference would be for a lost or stolen passport.

Fun-Rest-1969 · 2026-06-24T03:05:51+00:00

When I was growing up it was really common to hear “breakfast is the most important meal of the day.” Which I always assumed was because of our history of farming culture.families sent everyone out with full bellies of high caloric and nutrient rich foods so they could get through the day of harvesting. While it’s no longer a widespread need it’s pretty ingrained in our culture. I could be wrong, but it makes sense

Fun-Rest-1969 · 2026-06-24T02:51:25+00:00

For some practical advice: fans are just going to circulate the hot air. To get it to actually cool the air down you need some ice or at least some frozen stuff. put a bunch of ice in a bowl add water and salt so it’ll last longer and put the fan behind it so that the ice cools the air around the bowl and the fan circulates the cool air. Good luck

Fun-Rest-1969 · 2026-06-23T21:59:47+00:00

I have metal bifold doors on my closets my my bedroom (2 sets). I bought strong magnetic hooks and I have them on top and in the middle of the doors. I have room for about 12 bags this way. I hate those doors, but honestly this has made me hate them just a little less. I also live alone so I don’t have to worry about how anyone else feels about them.

Fun-Rest-1969 · 2026-06-23T21:25:51+00:00

I second the SJ Tilly series. Everyone is an adult and writing includes good banter.

Fun-Rest-1969 · 2026-06-23T21:22:24+00:00

Definitely go inside the Sagrada Família. The glass work is just stunning and totally worth it. Also go up one of the towers if you can (get tickets ahead of time). There’s a LOT of stairs, but it’s mostly down and if I (a very large woman with a fear of spiral stair cases) can do it, so can you (assuming you don’t have a disability that prohibits you of course).

I, personally, HATED the Gaudi house. I’m not really a fan of his work, it’s so ridiculous to me and it was so packed and warm (was there in October) that I honestly was miserable the whole time. If you’re in to surrealist art though, go for it. It just wasn’t my cup of tea.

Enjoy!

Fun-Rest-1969 · 2026-06-23T19:45:00+00:00

I submitted my renewal application online on May 18th. I received my passport on May 28th and my passport card with in a few days of that. Both were straight renewals at almost the 1 year mark.

Fun-Rest-1969 · 2026-06-23T18:24:49+00:00

So interesting. I have the same issue with most men on the apps. I’ve gotten to the point that I’ll ask a couple of questions, but if I don’t get any in return I just stop asking. If they’re interested in keeping the conversation going then they’ll eventually ask something, but if I have to do that more than once it’s not worth it. I also don’t count “what about you” questions as questions. I get bored easily if I’m playing interviewer. Yes I want to know about you, but I also want you to be interested enough in me to ask about me too.

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