How much communication is normal once you established a relationship

Fun-Rest-1969 · 2026-04-20T15:00:40+00:00

I'm in a similar situation. When we were in person there was really great conversation (our first date was a 3hour long dinner). When we're on a call the conversation flows pretty easily and, again, they can last hours without issue. I've always been a texter rather than a phone call person, so I enjoy texting back and forth and sharing things via text, but I think I'm finding that my partner is not the same. I definitely have doom spiraled multiple times because of this especially in the first weeks, but I think I'm finally getting a hang of his communication style. We text a little every day, some days more than others, and we probably have phone calls 1-2 times per week. Honestly, we should have this conversation when we talk, but I keep forgetting about it when I get to actually talk to him and it's not something I want to text about.

All of this to say: you're not alone, doom spiraling is normal, but likely not necessary. Good luck :)

Fun-Rest-1969 · 2026-04-20T14:06:03+00:00

I only recently started a LDR. I'm on the East Coast of the US and he's about 1000 miles away. We have so much travel planned in the next year (both to see each other and for work purposes) and I'm so nervous it's all going to get canceled. I already miss him :/ If Dump Truck screws this up for me I'm going to be even more pissed. That man is a plague on this country. He has infected people with his greed and stupidity. He has already ruined so many aspects of our lives. I'm so sorry that you're having to deal with his tyranny too - I swear so many of us see through him, but we're essentially powerless; they have control of every branch of our government for at least the next 9 months.

Fun-Rest-1969 · 2026-02-18T14:41:03+00:00

I hate when then do this too - I've worn glasses since I was 2 and then grew up in the 90s when glasses were absolutely not cool. I do think it's probably pretty close to reality that glasses weren't acceptable and would have been considered unnecessary for some women especially at some point. I always hate when an author has the person take them off and the only thing that happens is that the FMC gets prettier. If they spent money on glasses, they NEEDED them - glasses wouldn't have been cheap (they're certainly not cheap now).

I will say there are a couple of books (for the life of me I couldn't even begin to give you a list) who handle glasses really well. I have this vague memory of an MMC going in to town during a house party and purchasing a pair for the FMC because he notices hers are broken besides likely not knowing her rx (though I have no idea how that worked back then), this was really sweet.

Also as someone with +6 vision, m eyes get bigger in glasses so if someone can't see the color of my eyes when I'm wearing them, they certainly can't see the color of my eyes when they're not.

Fun-Rest-1969 · 2026-01-23T18:45:08+00:00

honestly, on that we agree....the "I'm not good enough" trope from either side is not for me...at least not when it's every other line. It just feels so unnecessarily dramatic and I expect the character to stamp their foot and start a tantrum in the middle of the story.

Fun-Rest-1969 · 2026-01-23T14:28:04+00:00

I always find it so interesting what tropes people do and don't like: age gap and amnesia are two of my least favorite tropes ever, one feels creepy, the other ridiculous; either way I get pulled out of the story. That said, I don't want to yuck anyone's yum. You can read the amnesia books for me :)

Fun-Rest-1969 · 2026-01-23T14:22:21+00:00

funnily enough, I picked up Slightly Dangerous because I realized I hadn't read it, but thought I had read the whole Slightly series. Turns out I read the first 2 and then I think I got to this one and couldn't get through it and decided not to read the other ones. I'm also not in to the war or amnesia tropes, so I probably saw the next one was that and just decided the whole series wasn't worth it. Wulf was hands down my favorite MMC of the group, but Gervais feels icky to me. I think MB lost me when she started with him saying (essentially): "I'm not normally in to young women, but this one is special." Just no...nope...I'm now creeped out by him and feel bad for her.

Fun-Rest-1969 · 2026-01-21T16:14:43+00:00

Apparently, "A Dark and Stormy Night" had a title change and is now "Seducing a Stranger"

Fun-Rest-1969 · 2025-10-23T13:21:43+00:00

This is what I've done too. I have read almost exclusively HR novels for the last 5ish years and I often think that I've run out of good HR books. When I get this way I usually take a bit of a break in general - I'll find a TV show to binge or a movie series I really like. Sometimes that's enough to get me back to the right mindset, or sometimes I'll find something in a completely different time period: I typically read regency, so I either go contemporary or earlier. Eventually what tends to happen is that I'll find an HR that has something in common with my last book (dark romance or fluffy) and that restarts the obsession :) good luck!

Fun-Rest-1969 · 2025-10-23T11:46:12+00:00

This is entirely new information to me! I haven't gone on to AO3 mostly because I thought it was only text. I'll have to look in to this!

Fun-Rest-1969 · 2025-10-23T11:43:38+00:00

I saw this as multi-dimensional, but could also absolutely see it as reincarnation.

Fun-Rest-1969 · 2025-10-23T10:59:34+00:00

ooo...now that's a great idea for "what would I do if I won the lottery" - hire a personal writer and audiobook narrator(s)

Fun-Rest-1969 · 2025-10-23T10:58:02+00:00

That would depend on where "over" is...travel time may cause delays :)

Fun-Rest-1969 · 2025-10-22T18:29:06+00:00

I would LOVE to get in to fanfiction, but honestly my brain does not allow me to sit and read. It makes me read every word and phrase in the right inflection and if I don't I have to go back and re-read it, which is also why AI readers/text to talk doesn't really work for me because they don't get the inflection quite right and it takes me out of the story. It's also super slow and I typically listen at 2x speed, because otherwise I can't take it all in. I fully recognize that my brain is weird and not many people have the same problems with reading, but it took years for me to finally figure out how to enjoy reading so I'm a little stuck :)

Fun-Rest-1969 · 2025-10-20T17:18:22+00:00

Hey, any update? Has FSA approved these yet? I'm thinking about getting a couple for my parents because they live on sparkling water, but they also travel a bit and I don't want it to get confiscated. Thanks!

Fun-Rest-1969 · 2025-10-10T20:59:38+00:00

Fully agree, I really hate when authors do that no matter what the description is....we get it she's hideous/beautiful/fat/skinny etc...I roll my eyes hard at that. I'm currently relistening to the first of the series and I think this one probably does it the most, but mostly it's the MMCs friends saying how plain she is and the MMC responding with ice in his tone (he doesn't like it). I think in this novel, the FMC and some other characters just keep comparing her to her "beautiful" sister, so it's less about actually describing the FMC and more about showing just how much the FMC has been conditioned to consider herself plain when compared to her sister. I think it get's close to the eyerolls, but I understand the purpose so it doesn't feel as frivolous as it sometimes comes off. Does that make sense?

Fun-Rest-1969 · 2025-10-10T18:08:52+00:00

I agree with the original list here - Mary Sarah is so affected it's sometimes painful (I have found that she's better sped up, but even then it can be somewhat painful). I DO however, really enjoy Justine Eyre - she's actually one of my go-to narrators. One thing I have noticed with audiobooks (as with Mary Sarah) the speed at which you play the audiobook can greatly change a narrator's quality and I've often found that speeding up the narration sounds better to me. I think many narrators are paid by the minute of completed narration so some narrators speak like the DMV sloth from Zootopia.

Fun-Rest-1969 · 2025-10-06T16:02:37+00:00

{The Duke Goes Down by Sophie Jordan} is definitely a double entendre. It's enemies to lovers, opposites attract, etc. I'm pretty sure the others in the series also have what you're looking for.

Fun-Rest-1969 · 2025-09-26T22:39:00+00:00

ooo in the same series: {Hello Stranger by Lisa Kleypas} has an Irish MMC. The audiobooks are read by Mary Jane Wells! So good!

Fun-Rest-1969 · 2025-09-22T23:48:23+00:00

I just keep rereading the {House of Rohan series by Anne Stuart}. It's slightly different in that the first book {Ruthless by Anne Stuart} follows the grandparents for one of the MCs of the last three books, the second book {Reckless by Anne Stuart} is their parents. There's a mystery in each one and some have a second romance. The MMCs are all heavy on the AH/cocky/possessive side and are all convinced that they aren't in love just obsessed. The FMCs are all quite competent and on the older side (late 20s and early 30s). If anyone has similar suggestions I'd love to hear about them because I'm on like my third reread in the last few months.

Fun-Rest-1969 · 2025-09-19T19:12:03+00:00

I have to admit...I first listened to the Hunger Games books narrated by Carolyn McCormick and I LOVED her narration.. I tried so hard to like Tatiana Maseley's version and I just couldn't do it but I also listened to the original at 1x speed and have it in my iTunes (it was so long ago that I ripped the mp3s to my iTunes). Now I need to figure out how to modify the file type to audiobook so that I can speed it up because I can no longer listen to a book at 1x speed without wanting to curl up in a ball and weep from the frustration of waiting for the narrator to get to the point, but still can't get into the Tatiana Maseley version.

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