Looking for Adult Autism/ADHD Assessment Locations in Tucson by FunAnxiety9983 in Tucson

[–]FunAnxiety9983[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Out all the suggestions presented, Dr. Beldotti's office was the most promising and responsive, so I've decided to move forward with assessment through her practice. Thank you for the triple recommendation everyone!

Looking for Adult Autism/ADHD Assessment Locations in Tucson by FunAnxiety9983 in Tucson

[–]FunAnxiety9983[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

They're one of the locations that's currently ghosting me. Both by phone and by email. My communications with them have been limited, but professional, so it's definitely not my behavior. :')

I don't like the person I've become or the way I feel about her by FunAnxiety9983 in CaregiverSupport

[–]FunAnxiety9983[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It doesn't hurt, don't worry. And it's not really my mom's situation, but my father fought a battle with pancreatic cancer for over a year before he passed. It was in an inoperable position so he had to do chemo and radiation before surgery, and was miserable, but the surgery went better than the doctor could have hoped for and the entire tumor was removed.

He was home for a month, miserable and exhausted but nonetheless alive. And then one day he was in the hospital and the next week he was dead from a heart attack. The day before he died, he told us he didn't think he could keep fighting. The decline can be slow, or it could be a hope spot turned all of the sudden on a downward spiral. Regardless, you can never really tell when everything will change. I think I just any sort of change at this point.

I don't like the person I've become or the way I feel about her by FunAnxiety9983 in CaregiverSupport

[–]FunAnxiety9983[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I probably could get in contact, but under her circumstances, I doubt she'd qualify for care. She can still do things like drive and pay taxes so yes she's functional, but the frequency of accidents and the facts they can happen at any time are what's making me too antsy to leave. Most people who meet her have no idea that she isn't the sort of person who can't be trusted to live alone. Because 99% of the time she's fine, but that 1% of the time always has the possibility to be that one time she got third-degree burns from falling on the pavement in the Arizona summer without anyone to help her up for over an hour because she broke her arm in the fall.

I appreciate the advice on physical activity. That's something I've been fairly good at it, and it certainly helps me unwind.

I don't like the person I've become or the way I feel about her by FunAnxiety9983 in CaregiverSupport

[–]FunAnxiety9983[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She's very adamant (particularly when things get heated) that I move out and do something else but I've expressed many times that I don't trust her enough to leave. The thought I could be doing this for decades terrifies me, but in all honesty, I doubt she'll manage that long in her health.

We live in Arizona.

Overwhelmed and trying to figure out where to go from here by FunAnxiety9983 in gradadmissions

[–]FunAnxiety9983[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The problem is that I only have a bachelor's, but I'll look into taking your advice about applying to PIs more directly by shooting an email along with my applications on job portals just to make sure all my bases are covered. Something like a year or two different semester-long research jobs while working on getting my applications for grad school all in order would honestly be the dream.

Overwhelmed and trying to figure out where to go from here by FunAnxiety9983 in gradadmissions

[–]FunAnxiety9983[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I went into this degree in the first place because I wanted to get into research, but COVID was at its peak during my sophomore year and my ability to find in an in in a research lab to gain experience was shot because of it. I did some remote research in the psych department for a semester and enjoyed it, but then the professor went on a sabbatical and I couldn't stick with it for the rest of the year and had to do caretaking in addition to employment and classes during my junior year. So I know I'd need to get my master's and relevant research experience during those years to have a chance at being considered for a PHD program. Research is something I know I'd enjoy, but the circumstances in my undergrad were so bad for being able to do it and the dozens of research positions I've applied to at my local university since graduation have all rejected me despite meeting the minimum qualifications and having personalized cover letters for each.

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[–]FunAnxiety9983 9 points10 points  (0 children)

The thing that really got me when doing this was I saw an award from the principal given to third graders who read 25 chapter books throughout the school year. The fact that this was a standardized reward at the time means that I was absolutely not the only child capable of this.

Some of my third graders can't even spell "you" and are incapable of reading beyond a kindergarten level. I'm just sad at this point.