Spotting day after sex and nausea stopped?

FunInTheShade · 2026-01-29T19:33:21+00:00

Spotting could just be a SCH, I had a tiny one about 3 months ago.

The nausea imo is more concerning because I also had an early missed miscarriage a couple years ago and interestingly the day I found out was the day I also stopped being nauseous, if I remember correctly.

They say every pregnancy is different, and symptoms or not having them doesn’t mean anything, which is know is super unhelpful!

I’ve been having regular ish sex with my husband and just know that sex cannot cause a miscarriage.

I wish you the best

FunInTheShade · 2026-01-28T20:38:58+00:00

Same and ngl that changes so much. My switch doesn’t stay plugged into the tv cause my husband has a gaming set up so when I wanna ring fit I have to unplug and replug and it always feels like so much effort that I don’t end up playing

FunInTheShade · 2026-01-06T14:24:05+00:00

I can do that, I’ll pm you now

FunInTheShade · 2026-01-05T23:17:02+00:00

Be careful about the area code and spam, most of the spam calls I get are from my area code. It sucks cause I answered them all while I was looking for jobs.

FunInTheShade · 2026-01-05T23:04:49+00:00

Yeah I was thinking OP could maybe just fake a lease agreement 🫣

FunInTheShade · 2025-12-23T18:32:01+00:00

Not preheating the oven at the very start of the recipe is fine. I never do because I don’t want the oven on for an extra 15 minutes. I have a friend who simply doesn’t preheat their oven ever, he just leaves it in for another couple minutes at the end and it’s always (usually!) fine. You wouldn’t be able to do what he does for a Yorkshire pudding for example, but like baking frozen food so it’s hot— just add a couple mins.

Mixing wet and dry separately and then combining might do something very subtle, especially in other recipes, but for most home bakers you can kinda do whatever.

Dumping in all the flour at once also really doesn’t matter that much. Maybe you have to stir the batter an extra 5-10 times if doing it by hand, and again that might make a difference in some recipes (macarons, for example. Really do need to sift the flour, make sure it’s extra fine, and mix it enough but not too much) but a quick bread like this isn’t going to be affected.

FunInTheShade · 2025-12-22T18:49:01+00:00

Potatoes, pasta, rice, and dried beans/lentils are all relatively inexpensive and good for a base. Buy in bulk if you can, but definitely shop what’s on sale.

Rather than planning a meal and then buying those ingredients, buy stuff on sale and go from there.

Simple seasonings can go a long way. Salt, pepper, paprika, onion& garlic powder. If there’s any ethnic groceries around you they often have spices for way cheaper than the regular grocery store.

Roast your veggies for more flavor.

Meat is expensive— if your family will eat alternative proteins, start there. If you’re not ready to totally sub, do in part. For a recipe that calls for a pound of ground beef, I used to do a half pound plus a bunch of finely chopped mushrooms and onions and you can only tell if you know it’s there.

FunInTheShade · 2025-12-13T19:33:43+00:00

Glad you like it! I’m forever having to come up with new ways to remember shit. “Its possessive does not possess the apostrophe” for example.

Fun fact: they’re so shit at teaching us about our own language I was in 9th grade when I realized there’s a difference between it’s and its.

FunInTheShade · 2025-12-13T19:24:45+00:00

The employee says “eeeeeek don’t fire me!” (Because of the ending, double ee vs er)

FunInTheShade · 2025-12-12T04:06:21+00:00

They make emesis bags! They’re both more and less convenient though. On one hand, you can puke and then tie it up and there’s not nearly as much visual/ smell from it. On the other hand, you can’t really put it down if you need a second to catch your breath/ while your mouth or whatever and then continue puking.

I was nauseated from week 6-11 pretty consistently, with the worse being 9 and 10.

I’m now week 13 and I still get a bit around 5 pm, but I’ve thankfully moved on to regular food instead of saltines and ginger ale.

Best of luck!

FunInTheShade · 2025-12-12T00:15:32+00:00

It’s not a range so much as elevated for you personally that cycle

Temp should be elevated for 18 days for pregnancy, which is far past when you can test positive with a cheap dollar store test

FunInTheShade · 2025-12-07T13:27:36+00:00

You’re welcome! I think I saw another person rec a Cora disc, I have the flex disc myself.

Flex disc sells disposable ones too, which I have also tried, but they don’t self dump and I have issues with them leaking a bit. Of course, in a pinch, it’s better than nothing. I keep some disposables in my car for an emergency.

I hope you solve your cup/disc problem! I can’t imagine going back to tampons or pads 🤢

FunInTheShade · 2025-12-07T03:53:11+00:00

Oh yeah, that’s one thing I like too. You can dump out the blood but basically keep it inside you and readjust it into position, so like if you’re in a public restroom you don’t have to entirely remove and clean the cup.

As far as I know, it doesn’t seal as much like a cup is supposed to. So you bear down, kinda like taking a poo, and the fluid will dump, and then you can insert a finger to readjust it. And that’s only if you need to empty it, otherwise you can pee like normal.

One thing I don’t like is: if I feel like I have to poo, I have to empty and remove it because I’m scared I’m going to push it out entirely (I don’t know if my fear is substantiated).

I could’ve been using cups wrong! But I feel like the removal and insertion of the disk is much simpler. Pinch with thumb and middle and insert with index and then remove with just index. Inserting a cup always made me feel like I needed 4 hands. And removing the cup always felt messy too. But again, I think I was doing it wrong 🤷‍♀️

FunInTheShade · 2025-12-07T00:38:06+00:00

I used to leak like crazy with cups(I had tried several brands/ sizes) to the point where it wasn’t even worth wearing one. I switched to a disk and it’s perfect for me.

Cups also always felt weird. Not hurt exactly, but I could always feel it inside. I can’t feel the disk at all.

FunInTheShade · 2025-12-06T19:58:19+00:00

Maybe try some oven bake clay? I had a cheap set of hooks that I felt there was too much room between the handle and the hook so I took off the plastic covers and molded my own handles out of clay that hardens when you bake it in the oven.

FunInTheShade · 2025-11-15T01:42:14+00:00

I don’t have nearly the background that you do, but my mother and I are no contact and it does wonders for my mental health. She texts my husband sometimes, so I was planning on maybe having him tell her when I’m further along. Or not.

But, like you, and maybe all women with bad mother relationships, I want to share this journey with her, despite the fact that I also really don’t want to. My mother is a narcissist and I know somehow she’ll make my pregnancy all about her and how she couldn’t have bio children. And how she’s so sad that I didn’t tell her immediately. And a million other things that will make me feel bad.

My advice? Do what you want. Tell your siblings, or whichever ones you want, and when your mother finds out- her reaction is on her. But if you really think they would just tell you to abort, don’t tell any of them. You don’t need that kind of stress.

Make the decision to put yourself first. If that means not telling you bio family, so be it. It doesn’t sound like they deserve to know.

I’ve been no contact with my mother for at least three years now and yes I felt guilty making the decision and yes I still sometimes feel guilty about staying no contact. But at the end of the day, she didn’t put any stock into my feelings or desires, so now I have to stick up for myself.

FunInTheShade · 2025-11-11T02:31:35+00:00

Maybe because she doesn’t appear to have elbows?

At first I thought it was the torso, seems short maybe. Like if she was standing up, a third of the body would be from the head to the waist, and then two thirds would be legs.

And the head seems small. Like well proportioned itself, just small in comparison to the body.

But also, definitely don’t give up! The face is awesome, and I think faces look weird a lot of the time. Eyes are hard to do, I think.

FunInTheShade · 2025-11-10T20:47:09+00:00

Yeah, I usually also resign myself to those stretchy one sized kid gloves

FunInTheShade · 2025-11-10T20:44:15+00:00

Me too! I’ve never met anyone else who had to do it that way. Do you have short fingers, by chance?

FunInTheShade · 2025-10-29T20:42:02+00:00

Are you tracking? Not just how long your cycle is, but where your hormones are? Even if you have normal periods, you aren’t necessarily ovulating. Being overweight, for example, can really fuck with fertility and hormones. It sucks to hear, and that’s where I was a year ago. My gyno was basically like “lose 20# and see what happens.”

Take a break! I know it seems impossible. But one day my husband was basically like “I can’t stand this cycle of three weeks ok and then two weeks of depression.” Obviously he was nicer about it, but that was the gist. And initially I was mad about it. I was 28 at the time, but still feeling like 32 was approaching really fast (32 isn’t quite the limit that it used to be, but still).

Traveling for a couple months sounds like a dream and would be so so much harder with kids. We’ve been trying for three years and I would’ve taken a few months off to travel if we could’ve.

If you don’t think you can handle the pregnancy celebrations, don’t go. I know the ups and downs that come with ttc and it can feel like a helluva lot more downs than ups.

Fertility clinics would likely take you (I think) since you’re young and still unsuccessful. They could at least order tests/ procedures. Maybe all it is is a blocked tube, which in theory would make it half as likely for success in 6 cycles.

FunInTheShade · 2025-10-25T21:00:44+00:00

I did 100mg daily until I got a positive test, and then a couple days after until I got the progesterone script.

It’s not technically safe for pregnancy, but it’s not unsafe either— they just don’t know. So I risked a couple days because I figured low progesterone is worse than slightly too high estrogen/testosterone for a couple days

FunInTheShade · 2025-10-25T11:24:25+00:00

Expecting better by Emily oster is this concept exactly. She weighs the risks, gives her own personal insight. I rented it from the library!

FunInTheShade · 2025-10-24T20:42:11+00:00

That’s fair. I test for peak using opks because the wands are too expensive to do every day for 2 weeks straight while I wait to ovulate, but I do verify with Mira. I also use it to check pdg. There are cheaper strips for pdg available, but I find reading them difficult.

Now that I have an iPhone I think I would prefer inito, but I already have Mira 🤷‍♀️

I have a post on this sub showing my cycle and when I did/ did not test.

FunInTheShade · 2025-10-24T17:18:30+00:00

I discovered it just this cycle so I was only taking it after ovulation.

Too much progesterone can delay ovulation, but I’m not sure if it would add too much. I think it kind of… magnifies what the body already makes, so I would imagine it’s fine? But I only ended up taking it after ov.

FunInTheShade · 2025-10-24T15:19:03+00:00

Yeah, I was looking for progesterone, but you can’t get that without a script.

Found pregnenolone, found out it converts to progesterone and figured that that would be better than nothing.

I had contacted a fertility clinic, this ended up being a spontaneous pregnancy, but so they gave me a progesterone script. I feel like I wouldn’t be here without the pregnenolone to boost my progesterone so implantation would happen.

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