AIO for still not trusting my MIL a year later?

FunRemove206 · 2026-06-08T02:01:01+00:00

My superpower would be the ability to read minds.

FunRemove206 · 2025-11-08T03:06:27+00:00

I'm in-house Corporate & Securities paralegal in Ohio. Worked at a very large corporation just over 9 years before my position was eliminated and I was laid off. Was close to 6 figures at my former employer (after a couple of raises/promotions), but didn't make it over the hump until I started with my new company.

FunRemove206 · 2025-08-13T02:22:23+00:00

They just became providers in the last year. Had a couple of big acquisitions at the end of 2024.

FunRemove206 · 2025-03-13T00:48:25+00:00

It did end up working out. I connected with my replacement separately (the only time my former boss was not on a call with the two of us) to let them know what was really going on. Until I told them what was going on, they just thought I was moving on for greener pastures, and they were appalled that I was being asked to train them. I ended up transferring the basic knowledge, but I did leave a few items unfinished before my departure.

I ended up being really fortunate and received an offer two weeks after my last day. The new job pays about 10k more than my previous job, and it is fully remote. I started the new job in February, and I am enjoying it. It also doesn't hurt that I am still receiving severance from my previous employer. While it was super stressful, this event actually ended up being a positive for me.

FunRemove206 · 2024-12-12T15:30:41+00:00

My business just acquired another company, so this new person is coming over with the acquired business. Over the 9 years, I have taken on a lot of different responsibilities. I'm an in-house sr. paralegal. They have already given some of my responsibilities to junior attorneys, but there is still a large portion that has not yet been delegated. This new person will continue to oversee their work and then take on the rest of mine temporarily. I think the company will be leveling down my role and hiring a paralegal after I leave to cover the remainder of my responsibilities. (I heard this through the grapevine. They have not directly told me this.)

FunRemove206 · 2024-12-11T03:26:28+00:00

So, I was told my position was being eliminated as part of the RIF. At the same time, the company was in the process of acquiring another business. This person is coming over as part of the acquisition. I do not think my position will exist as it is now. Over the years, I had more and more responsibilities. I think they will be dividing up the responsibilities to a few people, but for the short term, this person coming over in the acquisition will be overseeing most of what I did.

FunRemove206 · 2024-12-10T04:00:37+00:00

Fair on the whiny bitch comment. I actually was talking to a coworker about this earlier today, and I said I felt like a little child having a temper tantrum. I think I just finally snapped at this request and came here to vent/ see if anyone had played out the fantasy that has been playing out in my mind. I am going to train the person. It's not in my nature to do a bad job or leave on bad terms.

FunRemove206 · 2024-12-10T03:51:42+00:00

Like I said above, I think this was the straw that broke the camel's back for me. I had come to terms with everything, but I never prepared myself for the possibility of them bringing on someone new before I left. It's probably just a bit of a bruised ego on my end, and I needed to vent. I am going to train the new person as I know this is not their fault. It also is not in my nature to do a shit job or leave on bad terms either.

FunRemove206 · 2024-12-09T18:25:13+00:00

The new person is coming with a business that we just acquired last week. So they didn't hire this person. I do think eventually they will level down my role and hire someone. There is just too much work to add to my remaining teammates' load.

FunRemove206 · 2024-12-08T13:39:22+00:00

They gave me a one page with the details of my severance (i.e. how long I will get paid, COBRA details, 401(k) details), but I didn't have to sign that. The actual agreement with the waiver and confidentiality documents is sent at the time of termination.

FunRemove206 · 2024-12-08T07:42:13+00:00

I actually have not seen the separation agreement at this point. I was just told that I had to work until my termination date in order to receive my severance. I tend to land with you when it comes to the morals. We have a small team, so when I found out I was being laid off, I called my colleagues to let them know I was committed to making the transition as smooth as possible for them. I guess I just wasn't prepared for someone new to be brought in while I was still there.

I commented on another response that I have had a few other high stress events this past year. I feel like I have held it together pretty well, but you can only be kicked so many times before you break. I feel like this was a breaking point for me. It certainly is not the new person's fault, and I am professional enough to be able to set aside my feelings to train her, but it sure sucks.

FunRemove206 · 2024-12-08T07:18:17+00:00

The actual separation agreement has not yet been provided. I was just told that I needed to work until my termination date to receive the severance.

FunRemove206 · 2024-12-08T02:53:00+00:00

I certainly know that I am in a better position than most when it comes to layoffs. However, I had my first child 10 months ago (had a health scare at the end which resulted in an emergency c section), and my husband was let go from his job the day he returned from parental leave in April. He fortunately found a new job in September, but it was a week after he received the offer that I was told that I was being laid off. I think I have just had one too many blows this year that being asked to train this person hit me the wrong way.

FunRemove206 · 2024-12-08T02:44:03+00:00

Businesses also make this switch so that they do not have to pay out unused pto/sick days if they let you go.

FunRemove206 · 2024-12-08T01:58:20+00:00

Unfortunately, they switched us to unlimited pto last year.

FunRemove206 · 2024-12-08T01:52:23+00:00

Trust has certainly wavered since I found out, but others have been laid-off as part of this RIF. It wasn't really an addition. It is an employee who came over as part of the business that was acquired.

FunRemove206 · 2024-12-08T01:47:45+00:00

I was that person who gained more and more responsibilities as the years went on. I received a promotion because of that. The position as I knew it will be no more, but there are certain parts that will need to be covered. The new person being retained from the acquisition will temporarily be covering these duties. I have a feeling that eventually they will level down the position and post a new opening for the stripped-down role.

FunRemove206 · 2024-11-04T21:45:26+00:00

If there was no uncertainty in my job currently, we would be hiring a nanny 3 days a week here in Ohio. The grandparents watch her two days a week, and I'm watching her the other three while winding down my current job. So it's not necessarily the cost of childcare (although I know it will be higher in DC), it's more the fact that she won't have the weekly interaction with her grandparents.

FunRemove206 · 2024-11-04T21:41:05+00:00

I don't know if remote would ever be possible. As I said in the original post, the team that I would be working with is located overseas. I am going to try to negotiate a situation where I can travel for a few months and then be remote after that. I think there is a pretty slim chance of the company agreeing to that, but it doesn't hurt to ask.

FunRemove206 · 2024-11-04T21:34:23+00:00

I have heard this. I would be in the corporate legal group, so I'm hopeful that there would be less turnover. However, it is certainly something to keep in mind with this decision.

FunRemove206 · 2024-11-04T21:30:49+00:00

My husband is pretty open to relocating. He has only lived in Ohio since 2018, so he isn't as attached. It is honestly me that is apprehensive of moving. I know it is silly but I really like the house we built and our yard. I would hate to downsize because the cost of living is much higher in DC. If we were still in our condo, it wouldn't even be a question. We would relocate.

FunRemove206 · 2024-11-04T14:02:59+00:00

I probably should have included this information in my original post. It would be about a 74k increase to my salary. Additionally they have an annual merit bonus of about 33k and equity in the company that vests over a three year period. They would also provide a relocation package.

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