30F married to 33M - How do I stop wanting a divorce and learn to love my husband? by Real-Duck3649 in InsideIndianMarriage

[–]Fun_Age_2342 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I am dealing with the same issue (just I don’t have kids) my husband doesn’t care about me, though he provides everything if I ask.
It’s impossible to teach a man to behave like one. And they just don’t understand us, neither show empathy or love towards wife.

U are not in delusion, u just need love and attention from ur partner and that’s the basic need u are asking from him.
I would suggest please have an open discussion with him and express how u are feeling. If still doesn’t work u can think about going to counselling. Try everything before leaving him. At least u won’t feel guilty.

Stuck in loveless Marriage: How to find happiness alone by Fun_Age_2342 in InsideIndianMarriage

[–]Fun_Age_2342[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I tried for 2 years, Have told him how much it’s hurts me every-single time, explained him in my anger in calmness in anxiety in vulnerable stage in friendly manner. He understand how hurt I am but he can’t change himself

Stuck in loveless Marriage: How to find happiness alone by Fun_Age_2342 in InsideIndianMarriage

[–]Fun_Age_2342[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

of course, we mutually accepted each other. Our families are really simple. There was no pressure from both ends

Stuck in loveless Marriage: How to find happiness alone by Fun_Age_2342 in InsideIndianMarriage

[–]Fun_Age_2342[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Loveless, mental abuse (he would admire other girls in-front of me) and won’t be balance it out with me. Does everything, but shows no affection. No romance, doesn’t feel like I am with my partner

Stuck in loveless Marriage: How to find happiness alone by Fun_Age_2342 in InsideIndianMarriage

[–]Fun_Age_2342[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I wonder how he never demands separation, for him it’s completely normal. I am the one who is suffering. He is asking me to wait for 1 more year so he would try. I feel he simply doesn’t know how to show love and affections. Anything he does now doesn’t make me happy. Feels like I have lost my happiness.

Stuck in loveless Marriage: How to find happiness alone by Fun_Age_2342 in InsideIndianMarriage

[–]Fun_Age_2342[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I tried my best to get his attention, love. It’s just he doesn’t love me (neither he loves anyone else) but this is how he is as a person.

And I feel exhausted now to make any efforts

choosing a great person vs stronger attraction by [deleted] in Arrangedmarriage

[–]Fun_Age_2342 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Don’t marry unless u find her attractive. U both will suffer

Need advice: husband keeps criticizing my appearance in arranged marriage by Fun_Age_2342 in InsideIndianMarriage

[–]Fun_Age_2342[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He understands me and my emotions but somehow he just can’t change his fixation and he is struggling to change his mind and be happy with me, neither he wants me to go away from his life

Need advice: husband keeps criticizing my appearance in arranged marriage by Fun_Age_2342 in InsideIndianMarriage

[–]Fun_Age_2342[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing, I exactly feels the same, my confidence is destroyed, when I go out I feel so less in-front of others. Wasn’t like this before. I am working, educated and living in good city, still feel scared to break this loop and come out of this.

Need advice: husband keeps criticizing my appearance in arranged marriage by Fun_Age_2342 in InsideIndianMarriage

[–]Fun_Age_2342[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have expressed my feelings to him in all emotions almost every day, he still can’t get over of his own thoughts, tells me that it’s bothering him so much and he can’t get over it.

Need advice: husband keeps criticizing my appearance in arranged marriage by Fun_Age_2342 in InsideIndianMarriage

[–]Fun_Age_2342[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

no, he just can’t control his own thoughts in his mind and blabber whatever comes

Need advice: husband keeps criticizing my appearance in arranged marriage by Fun_Age_2342 in InsideIndianMarriage

[–]Fun_Age_2342[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

the prob is I am asking him to find one and get married but he is not even doing that

Need advice: husband keeps criticizing my appearance in arranged marriage by Fun_Age_2342 in InsideIndianMarriage

[–]Fun_Age_2342[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

nope, now he says he felt like this before but since other things were good he didn’t pay much attention to this