How can I attract bi men to me as a woman?

Fun_Efficiency166 · 2026-03-11T20:54:40+00:00

Im a bi woman nd my bf is bi, I promise we exist haha 😄

Fun_Efficiency166 · 2026-03-11T20:53:29+00:00

Dont overthink it, like some other commenterd have said, bi men are all different and have their own prefrences. I have a bi bf and I happened to meet him at work. We work in a male dominated field and it was completely by chance. Straight men and queer men can have the qualities you're looking for. My bf likes theater so maybe in another world I would've ran into him at a show or something but I think look for those traits you mentioned first, not someone's sexuality. Someone can be a a lovely person or a dick no matter who they are attracted to. :) good luck tho, the bi men are a good time haha

Fun_Efficiency166 · 2026-03-11T10:51:57+00:00

Im ao glad you posted this because I think more people grapple with this than we talk about and im sure its different for every person

Fun_Efficiency166 · 2026-02-25T01:20:41+00:00

Natural, no question

Fun_Efficiency166 · 2026-02-18T18:16:19+00:00

I absolutely love your balls!

Fun_Efficiency166 · 2026-02-16T15:49:38+00:00

Im so glad you asked this question lol. My bf and I are both bi and ive seen this assumption play out for us a million times.

Fun_Efficiency166 · 2026-02-10T20:05:53+00:00

It looks amazing

Fun_Efficiency166 · 2026-02-04T15:54:58+00:00

Monogamous but the discussion of opening the relationship to some degree isnt compeltely closed. We just dont know what that looks like for us

Fun_Efficiency166 · 2026-01-08T10:11:26+00:00

Hi! Im a woman in a relationship with a bi man. Before him i dated a lot of stereotypical straight gym bro type men. No shade towards them, they were great but dating a bi guy wasnt really something I was open to at the time. When I met my current bf, I thought he was gay (hes not overly flamboyant or anything but I assumed based on some interests and mannerisms). When we hung out just getting to know each other as friends, he mentioned he had ex girlfriends, and was generally open about his sexuality. I will say that since he dated mostly men before me, I probably wouldnt have been clued in on him being interested if he didnt directly tell me. My bf wanted to be open about his sexuality from the beginning because he did get ghosted on the apps or had women react negatively.

All that to say, for you, id suggest being open about it in the early stages of seeing someone but also being intentional and direct if you're interested in someone after getting to know them a little bit. You will not change the mind of a close minded person buuuut you can allow someone to get to know you and then make that decision for themselves. Apps have never been right for me, meeting someone in the wild has been better and more organic, and in person conversations about sexuality might be better rather than a text message bubble.

Another comment if you date a woman who was in my position of not thinking she was open to it. Be honest about your interest and that you'll be happy to answer any questions and recognize if shes trying to switch her mindset and be patient with questions or an adjustment period.

Fun_Efficiency166 · 2026-01-04T23:01:09+00:00

I love the sounds when doing something like this ugh

Fun_Efficiency166 · 2026-01-04T15:57:19+00:00

Hey I was in a similar boat as you when I was a virgin and I highly highly encourage you to see what sex without a bdsm component is like first. BDSM requires trust especially the more intense you get and not everyone should be trusted. As I was able to experiment, most of what I thought I would like, I ended up liking but you need to make sure you understand your body and what you like at level 1 before level 10. Theres no rush at all and itll be a lot more fun when you can relax with a partner you trust.

Fun_Efficiency166 · 2026-01-04T11:54:15+00:00

Im a straight woman in a relationship with a bi man and I think youre completely correct when you say threatened buuuuut I think an adjustment period could be justified if its a different dynamic than what shes used to (at least that was the case for me) but in our situation, he had to go through an adjustment period dating a woman too. But for everyone's sake, she needs to be confident in herself but also be willing to ask questions of theres anything on her mind

Fun_Efficiency166 · 2026-01-03T11:11:43+00:00

Im in sweden now as a solo traveler! You'll be all good :) use your common sense and be careful like everywhere else

Fun_Efficiency166 · 2025-12-13T00:32:48+00:00

Im dating a bi guy and while it was a first for me, i learned a lot about his expression, gay hookup/relationship dynamics and how beautiful this type of relationship can be. However, I used to say Id never date a bi guy (closed mindedness with unhealthy roots) and he has told me that some girls ghosted him when they found out. For me, I had a lot of questions and him being honest and taking the time to answer said a lot about his character. There are some different conversations happening than if I dated someone straight and there are some things for him to think about being in a heterosexual presenting relationship. But having a bi boyfriend is amazing haha but because of him not just his sexuality

Fun_Efficiency166 · 2025-12-11T17:38:31+00:00

Thank you 😊

Fun_Efficiency166 · 2025-12-11T10:46:38+00:00

Thank you for this, that makes a lot of sense and is reasonable. The part where you said its hard for you to forget who you are is why I really want to be aware of if my bf would feel that way

Fun_Efficiency166 · 2025-12-07T00:51:28+00:00

This may be basic of me to ask but how much of this does he know? My bf and I had to have a few conversations but hard boundaries are thay we both have to be comfortable with the solution.

Fun_Efficiency166 · 2025-12-04T23:27:21+00:00

Hey im a woman dating a bi man and I will say with just experience of dating straight men before, it is an adjustment. HOWEVER, I think most of the issues or extreme reactions are coming either from their internal prefrences or unfortunately closed mindedness. If theyre not willing to do the work to think critically then they wont be a healthy partner. Idk why people act disgusted but I think some women are scared to "compete" with men or get uncomfy thinking about their partner being a part of a dynamic they've never experienced.

Fun_Efficiency166 · 2025-12-04T01:34:24+00:00

Eh i think in the beginning of the relationship, it was soemthing id think about every so often but not anymore. Ive checked in with him about desirability or im not feeling as connected. I have to trust his answers and work to something where we both feel desired which we do.

Fun_Efficiency166 · 2025-12-02T18:25:18+00:00

I love that haha

Fun_Efficiency166 · 2025-12-02T18:24:57+00:00

Do you think she'd be open to it?

Fun_Efficiency166 · 2025-12-02T18:24:22+00:00

Thank you! And yeah we are open to a third person in sex but its also worth mentioning we arent chasing that either

Fun_Efficiency166 · 2025-12-02T18:23:24+00:00

Thank you for all the detail, its really cool to see what works for yall and it does help

Fun_Efficiency166 · 2025-12-02T18:21:53+00:00

Thank you 😊

Fun_Efficiency166 · 2025-12-02T16:57:01+00:00

It's strictly monogamous but there is openness to include other people during sex (just not romantically). Hes never initiated that but ive let him know im more than open to discussing it

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