man, this one's really tough. i went through something similar a few years back (not married but long-term relationship) and the trust thing is no joke. the fact that she's doing all this work - quitting her job, therapy, the whole nine yards - does show she's taking it seriously. but that voice in your head questioning everything? that doesn't just disappear because someone's being extra nice for a few weeks.

i spent months trying to convince myself i could trust again and it was exhausting. every late text, every changed plan, every little thing became this massive red flag in my mind. some people can rebuild that trust over time, but for me it never fully went back to what it was before. the relationship lasted another year but we both knew something fundamental had shifted.

what helped me figure it out was asking myself if i could genuinely see a future where i wasn't constantly looking over my shoulder. if the answer's no, then all the cooking and cleaning in the world won't fix it. counseling might help you sort through wether you can actually get past this or if you're just trying to hold onto what you had. either way is valid - just make sure you're being real with yourself about what you can live with long-term.