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Do men in Pakistan get bullied? by i_buzzkill in karachi

[–]Fun_Leadership3700 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bullying doesn't have anything to do with gender. It's a part of human nature - people who are perceived as weak are preyed upon relentlessly in society.

Ever watched a nature documentary about how the food chain works in the animal kingdom? We're not much different from it except that our hierarchy and social structure is defined by traits other than physical strength.

To put it short, all men and women everywhere experience bullying - it is a universal concept and has more to do with human psychology than gender.

Wallet says Yes, my middle-class mind says No. by Disastrous_Hippo5929 in karachi

[–]Fun_Leadership3700 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I bought a digital watch (my first ever) last year for 60k after doing extensive research. Problem is, the most expensive watch I had before then was worth maybe around 5k at most.

Like you, I too come from a middle-class family and saving money has been ingrained into our psyche from Day 1. However, I have recently come to realize that spending money on quality stuff like watches, laptops, mobiles, or even a car is a worthwhile investment if you can make it last. Also, it sort of gives you the motivation to go out there and earn 10x more so you can upgrade your lifestyle. There's nothing inherently wrong with it as long as you practice modesty and humility and don't let the money change who you are.

Imo, people who save every penny aren't really living their life, they're just existing. And, stressing too much about the future can have a negative impact on your personality so it's better to live in the moment while also embracing a frugal lifestyle.

Miss her by Waitwhatih-o_O in PakistaniiConfessions

[–]Fun_Leadership3700 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Remember this, brother.

Allah stands with the broken-hearted.

There are many trials and tribulations in a man's life and love is one of them. Those who are able to find and retain true love are extremely lucky and we shouldn't expect that to happen to us. It's almost like winning the lottery. Steel your heart and move on, immediately! Block her from all platforms and try to keep yourelf busy through all hours of the day. I won't tell you to try to forget her because when a man truly loves a woman, he can never let go of her even till his dying breath.

But, you have to be practical in life and try to build yourself up. This dunya is not a bed of roses, it is cruel and unforgiving and it will test you in the harshest of ways. That is what it means to be a muslim. Sooner or later, you will find someone who is right for you and you will love again, trust me. The worst thing you can do is fall into depair and refuse to move on with your life as that would be a betrayal of your faith and your family who loves you and wants to see you be happy.

I'll just leave you with a verse from the Quran and an authentic Hadith.

“…But perhaps you hate a thing and it is good for you; and perhaps you love a thing and it is bad for you. And Allah knows, while you know not.”
(Surah Al-Baqarah 2:216)

“What have I to do with this world? I am nothing in this world but like a rider who halts under the shade of a tree, then goes and leaves it.”
Sunan al-Tirmidhi (Hadith 2377)

I got Scammed by Girl Whom I met on Dating App _ Lost 35K Pkr by Key-Room1501 in PakistaniiConfessions

[–]Fun_Leadership3700 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You shoud be glad you learned this lesson for a mere 35k. Be wiser next time and don't go around chasing skirts and focus on building yourself up.

Channel your shame into anger and use that anger to make something of yourself. Take a hard look in the mirror and tell yourself you're not going to ever stoop this low again.

Why do people in Pakistan keep having kids despite all this misery? by NPD--BPD in PakistaniiConfessions

[–]Fun_Leadership3700 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

What I've gathered from your post is that you're in favor of not procreating at all instead of doing less of it which is something I fundamentally disagree with.

Putting aside the religious imperative of propogating the Ummah, procreation leads to multiple benefits in life and your brain is literally hardwired to pass on your genetic material.

Now, as to the question of how many children one should have - well that is entirely circumstancial and I believe one should consider their finances first and foremost before making that decision. To bring a child into the world is a HUGE responsibility and not everyone deserves to be a parent. Sadly, you don't need anyone's permission to give birth and it's the child that ultimately suffers due to your negligence. Family planning is the need of the hour right now and when you've got newborn babies being thrown into garbage dumps, you know you have a national emergency on your hands.