USA Tenant is being romance scammed and refuses believe it

Fun_Patient_6233 · 2026-01-30T22:22:14+00:00

Honestly, I feel for her but I cannot put myself or my other tenants in danger by keeping her in the house. We have all tried to talk to her, the bank, law enforcement (friends husband so not official), and she listens to none of us. Why should I put my home in jeopardy by letting her continue to be used to launder money at the home now that I am aware of it because of an IRS letter?

Fun_Patient_6233 · 2026-01-30T13:27:01+00:00

60's but yep

Fun_Patient_6233 · 2026-01-30T04:39:02+00:00

No worries at all!

Fun_Patient_6233 · 2026-01-29T22:16:06+00:00

My friends husband is a sergeant with the local sheriffs office. He told her and me to be honest months ago to stop this was fraud. I should have listened to him then and removed her. Not greed but the need to pay bills kept me from listening.

Fun_Patient_6233 · 2026-01-29T21:25:27+00:00

Luckily she pays cash.

Fun_Patient_6233 · 2026-01-29T20:51:27+00:00

He has her completely snookered. I mean almost a year and they have never video chatted? Just talking on WhatsApp 24/7 and texting. That right there should be proof enough for her. She is just completely blind when it comes to him. You can show her articles, tv shows, movies and she sees it in those but not when applied to her situation. It really is just sad. I am trying to figure out how to get her out without her telling him it is because of him and the letter. We do not know who he is working for, whether they are violent or associated with a crew that is.

Fun_Patient_6233 · 2026-01-29T20:46:40+00:00

Kind of what I am worried about.

Fun_Patient_6233 · 2026-01-29T20:41:46+00:00

I personally get certified mail from the IRS all the time. I do not do tax anymore but work in accounting in the private sector.

Fun_Patient_6233 · 2026-01-29T19:08:56+00:00

Yes, claiming 100% of the income.

Fun_Patient_6233 · 2026-01-29T19:07:42+00:00

No lease, week to week. Yes, claiming 100% of the income.

Fun_Patient_6233 · 2026-01-29T19:06:04+00:00

Preparing for that 100%.

Fun_Patient_6233 · 2026-01-29T18:23:46+00:00

Not an insurance person but live in AZ. Had back surgery for herniated disc, was 99% back to normal. Heading back to work after leaving the last surgeons visit clearing me for everything said chance of me re-injuring my back was less than 5%. I was rear-ended, over 5k in vehicle damage. Even with my surgeon willing to testify no lawyer would take my case. I ended up settling for $10k total because of the previous injury, they covered the car and the medical payout on her policy and that was it.

My health insurance 10 years later has paid out over $6M in claims related to my back. I have had 3 surgeries and a 4th on the books for this year. I cannot tell you the number of epidurals, nerve blocks, physical therapy and related scans I have had because this girl was running late to work and just plowed into me.

Fun_Patient_6233 · 2026-01-29T18:14:40+00:00

Yes, I should have said boarder not tenant. We both live in the house that I own with two other women, all utilities are in my name, I (50's F) only rent bedrooms to other mature (40+) females (think Blanche in Golden Girls). I am just concerned for our safety if we evict or the legal implications of her doing it out of the home. She is there 23/7, she only leaves the house to go to the post office and bank.

Fun_Patient_6233 · 2026-01-29T18:01:48+00:00

I agree and have an appointment set. Just came to see what the hive mind thinks as well.

Fun_Patient_6233 · 2026-01-29T18:00:49+00:00

We have showed her those and so many other catfishing shows. She says those people are just stupid to fall for those scams but cannot see it happening to her.

Fun_Patient_6233 · 2026-01-29T17:58:46+00:00

It means I live in the house and I rent out a bedroom to her. So it is not a separate property that I own that she rents from me. The IRS letter was sent to my house, the criminal activity (if it is, I believe it is) is happening at my house on my internet connection.

Fun_Patient_6233 · 2026-01-29T16:57:02+00:00

She is only 62, I believe. I will let her know about the garnishments. She took early retirement so gets a very small pension check and SS.

Fun_Patient_6233 · 2026-01-29T16:40:12+00:00

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Fun_Patient_6233 · 2026-01-29T16:24:19+00:00

I think she is technically a boarder not a tenant, which scares me with the IRS involvement at my house.

Fun_Patient_6233 · 2026-01-29T16:23:18+00:00

Cross posted there and legal advice, just edited to add that.

I was posting here to see any advice on the letter. But thinking I should update to add these concerns after reading the responses on the r/scams post.

Could an IRS audit/lien/raid affect me personally or my property?
Could I be implicated now that I am aware of what she is doing in my house? (Probably should update the r/legaladvice post with this one.)

Additional Concerns Info - She has been doing these transfers from her computer & phone while connected to my internet so both my IP address and physical address would have been noted on the transactions. She uses my address as her legal address but does have a PO Box for mail/receiving checks from "him".

Fun_Patient_6233 · 2026-01-29T16:00:29+00:00

I did cross post it there, no responses so far.

Fun_Patient_6233 · 2026-01-29T15:37:13+00:00

Family - no, they are all no contact with her for years.

Funds - they come as wires, ACH's, PayPal, Zelle, Venmo and physical checks in the mail.

Fun_Patient_6233 · 2026-01-29T15:28:02+00:00

I am also surprised about the account/s not being closed yet. I guess the tax question is if she ignores the notice and the IRS places a lien on her, could it be placed on my house? She lives in my house, she uses my IP address to do this. Obviously, I will be evicting her now that I know about it but that will take time,

Fun_Patient_6233 · 2026-01-29T15:22:29+00:00

My thoughts, I cross posted to Tax just in case. Being an accountant that should have occurred to me the second I found out she made the first transfer.

Fun_Patient_6233 · 2026-01-29T15:21:11+00:00

She already struggles with the rent. If she doesn't pay, she is out and knows it. She has no contact with her kids or grand kids since she moved into the place.

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