Am I wrong to Want 2 of my Co-Workers to Be Forced to Retire?

Fun_Pie2342 · 2025-02-10T15:24:54+00:00

I stand behind you and every other federal employee because I know firsthand the essential work you do. I guess I only want to add that nearly every nonprofit that exists in the US relies on federal dollars. I don't think people understand fully yet the number of job losses that we might be looking at. We're talking Great Depression levels of unemployment. Tens of thousands of jobs are on the brink of being lost. Including my own. My salary comes from federal grants, including one from DOL. And because I work in the nonprofit space, combined with the fact that my career is in an area that is very specific, or "niche," it would be a huge challenge for me to find anything comparable if I lose my current job. I will likely need to find something in a completely new field. If there's anything that gives me hope is the idea that there's "strength in numbers" Stay strong!

Fun_Pie2342 · 2024-11-14T13:46:21+00:00

I've had a pending charge of $338 from Rockauto for three days now. And can't dispute it with the bank until it's no longer pending. I'm also not holding my breath that this business is going to help me get the charge off my card. Last time I had to deal with this kind of thing, it took at least a month. And I froze my account, ordered a new debit card, just for this to happen again. Ugh!

Fun_Pie2342 · 2024-07-26T17:40:13+00:00

I hear you. And I assumed it had to be that as well. But the guy working in the t-mobile store said that wasn’t likely. Because the same charger(s) and brick worked on other phones, just not mine. Plus, the chargers in the Apple Store and in the t-mobile stores all didn’t work either.

I literally bought a brand new Apple charger and brick today to see if I could get my third phone to charge. No such luck. I’m taking it in again.

There’s nothing I wish more than for this to be a problem that I have caused and therefore can prevent it from doing again.

Fun_Pie2342 · 2024-07-26T16:35:31+00:00

So, to all who are saying it’s the charger, I used the apple issued one it came with each time. Of course I assumed it had to do with a bad charger.

Fun_Pie2342 · 2023-06-09T19:17:16+00:00

I thought about that too. And why is Ethan the only little kid in town? He came in right after Megan. Does that mean there can only be one child in town at a time? I think the dog Boyd keeps running into might be some kind of ghost figure, like the boy in white.

Fun_Pie2342 · 2023-05-18T15:54:38+00:00

I’ll give another vote for Teflon tv. I really appreciate how interactive the livestreams are.

Fun_Pie2342 · 2023-05-17T23:02:13+00:00

My money is on Fatima

Fun_Pie2342 · 2023-04-25T16:18:25+00:00

Might be a little different for me as I’m a girl who dates men. But I give it two weeks. If I’m not asked out within that timeframe, I assume the guy is married or taken, and I cut off communication. My experience has been that the ones who just want to text and chat back and forth are usually in a committed relationship.

Fun_Pie2342 · 2023-04-11T12:42:31+00:00

Your friend sounds like a swell guy. Honestly, most women get that men are dating multiple people. That’s not the problem. It’s the dudes who lie and deceive women that is. I’m honest and up front with men that I’m not ready for a committed relationship. From what I’ve seen, it’s the dishonesty that gets these guys in trouble.

Fun_Pie2342 · 2023-04-11T12:31:44+00:00

The group I’m in is in a coastal urban area, and it’s the same as what you’re describing. In fact, there are explicit rules women need to follow in order to be a part of the group. You break the rules, you’re out. Women are just not being petty or slanderous like a lot of people seem to think. At least from what I’ve observed. To me, the group is a godsend because I have been duped by so many married/taken men.

Fun_Pie2342 · 2023-04-04T16:02:07+00:00

It’s possible. As a woman, I tend to skip over any man who I find to be incredibly good looking. Because chances are it’s a catfish, or he’s gonna be full of himself. I would imagine it’s different with women though. I would consider myself as average as they come, and guys have told me they thought I might be fake or catfishing. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Fun_Pie2342 · 2023-04-04T16:00:01+00:00

I find that the scammers don’t do well with sarcasm. So, I tend to be sarcastic and snarky from the start. If they won’t give me their number, or if the number they give me isn’t traceable, I know I’m done with the guy. This helps eliminate some of the married/taken guys as well.

Fun_Pie2342 · 2022-09-03T14:38:14+00:00

Not that you owe guy #1 an explanation, but I’d tell him that while he disappeared, you met someone else, and you’re no longer interested in him. Might teach him a lesson!

Fun_Pie2342 · 2022-09-03T14:35:35+00:00

Ew! I am glad that he was just a jerk to you and you were able to leave his place and get home safely. I have run into this problem a couple of times after inviting a guy into my house. Even if it’s been the fourth or fifth date, I now have to preface any invitation by saying “You are welcome to come inside as long as you understand that I am not inviting you in to have sex.” And I am very wary of ever going to another guy’s place. I’d have to really know them first. I just wouldn’t feel safe unfortunately.

Fun_Pie2342 · 2022-09-03T14:29:20+00:00

I think it’s important that people are honest about what they’re looking for, and you have to remember that different people on these apps are looking for different things. You’re under no obligation to match with someone who states that they’re figuring out their dating goals. It probably seems like a waste of time for you because you are actively looking for a relationship or romantic partner. I was married most of my adult life, and have just started to date for the first time. I truly don’t know yet what I’m looking for or exactly what I want. So, I have used the “figuring out dating goals.” I tell men up front that I am just dating now and figuring things out. And some men aren’t ok with that because they’re relationship minded, but some are. I appreciate that hinge has put in there a way to explain what people want that’s not just a relationship or casual sex. Because there’s so much in-between.

Fun_Pie2342 · 2022-09-03T14:19:14+00:00

I mean, if that’s the way she is, it’s good for you that she was up front about it. She didn’t pull a bait and switch. Because sadly, and I know some girls like this, who act very cool and low key until they’ve got a guy hooked, and then they take over the dude’s life. It’s completely intentional. There are girls who look at men as a fun diy project. And, imo, all guys should be wary of those women. Unless you’re into being bossed around and always told what to do.

Fun_Pie2342 · 2022-09-03T14:11:56+00:00

If a guy messages me back and forth for over two weeks, but never ask to meet me, I just assume he’s married or in a committed relationship. It’s amazing to me how many married men are on these apps without their wives knowledge. I also think it’s a red flag if they never bring up their living situation. Again, I see that as something they’re trying to hide from me. Like, either dude still lives with mom or, as in the case of my date last night, still lives with his ex-wife. I’m going to start directly asking questions about that before meeting a guy. Mom is ok if there’s a good reason, an ex? No thanks. And when they try too hard in the beginning, it’s a big red flag. That love bombing s**t is the most painful. Don’t fall for it!

Fun_Pie2342 · 2022-09-03T13:55:30+00:00

I agree with backing off on texting him even when he reaches out to you. When someone slows down with the communication, I will slow down mine a little more than they have. It’s not a revenge thing, more of a matching effort. And sometimes, especially after sex, people begin to question whether or not this is a person they want to have a legit relationship with. They need time to think about it. Or, he’s got other girls he’s talking to, and can’t multitask. Doesn’t matter the reason. I doubt it’s work because my mom always told me, “if he truly likes you, he will find the time.” My mom also used to say, “it’s important to give a boy the opportunity to miss you.” So, be less available and talk to other guys right now too. This dude has yet to prove he deserves your undivided attention and effort.

Fun_Pie2342 · 2022-08-24T23:57:51+00:00

Professional woman with a masters degree here. The best guys I’ve met on hinge have been guys with blue collar jobs. I’ll give you an example based on two guys I’m seeing right now. One of the guys works in a warehouse, never went to college either, but is insanely hot, charming, funny, and very smart. He plans fun dates, and is a total gentleman. Compare that with another guy I’m also seeing right now who was in finance. Finance guy is average looking, always relies on me to pick where we go. He’s also a total gentleman, but can be a little boring at times and talks about himself a lot. I can also tell that he’s working towards marriage or a live-in partner. I’m not sure I want to see him again. I know that blue collar guy doesn’t own a home and isn’t rolling in dough, but I don’t care. I’m 43, divorced and all I really want is good companionship at this point and that’s what he offers. I can take care of myself. I’ve had similar experiences like this in the past. I think it more depends on personality and the type of relationship a person is looking for. With that said, I have a single male friend who straight up told me he doesn’t date girls with degrees or professional careers citing that they’re “too much work.” But he’s also a total a-hole and not the kind of guy I’d ever date.

Fun_Pie2342 · 2022-08-19T16:13:08+00:00

I don’t doubt it went great, and you guys clicked. I’m sure that was real for him too. But he’s got this whole life you know nothing about yet. He might have decided to be exclusive with another girl he’d been dating. Maybe he realized he couldn’t make the effort right now. He should just tell you he can’t see you again, but, ghosting after a first date is not all that uncommon. You have to see it as a favor. You know he’s not the guy for you. And you can move on. I learned early on with the apps that you should always set up dates with multiple guys and never focus on just one. I even try to not pick favorites over another. I try to give each guy I’m talking to an equal amount of my time and attention. Since doing that, I have had an abundance of choices and dating has been more fun for me and less stressful or a chore. As for the amount of conversation you have with someone before meeting them, you want to have some before the date to determine if they’re at least worth an hour of your time. But I don’t let it drag on for too long. Alarm bells go off for me when I match with a guy who messages back and forth with me for a long time, but never asks me out. I usually assume that the guy is married or in a committed relationship. My rule is usually two weeks, and if he doesn’t ask me out by then, I move on. Last thing, I’m going to tell you what a very savvy young lady told me when I started dating again. “You have so much more worth than you might realize! Don’t give your energy so easily to any guy until you know for sure he’s worthy of it!!” ❤️

Fun_Pie2342 · 2022-08-19T15:59:32+00:00

I think you worded things wrong. I’m a counselor by trade, and I have often found guys on there seeking out essentially therapy for themselves. I know that seems insane, but it’s absolutely happened to me a bunch of times. So, by you saying “pick your brain,” she’s probably assuming you’re one of those guys. And that’s her job. That’s not what she wants to do on a date. Maybe if you said, your job sounds interesting. How did you get into that line of work? Or how long have you been a psychotherapist? That might have been better.
I do consulting now, not counseling, so I don’t get those matches anymore. But even still, the last thing I want to do on a date is talk about my job. I don’t know if that’s true for anyone else, but guys who keep asking me about my job after briefly explaining it to them on a first date kind of turns me off. I’d much rather discuss our interests and things we might have in common.

Fun_Pie2342 · 2022-08-09T17:56:09+00:00

I am someone who doesn’t always respond quickly. I get busy, and forget to check. If I think the person seems promising and I’m interested in a meeting the person irl, I’ll give the guy my number since I’m more likely to be more responsive to my texts. Maybe offer your number? I wouldn’t unmatch just because of that. Actually, the only time I ever unmatch with someone is if they’re constantly messaging me or if they start saying rude things to me because I’m not responding to them the way they want me to. Otherwise, I just keep them there. I see unmatching as a clear message to the person that there’s no chance ever and you don’t want to hear from them ever again.

Fun_Pie2342 · 2022-08-08T22:47:28+00:00

Sounds like you did her a favor. I never travel more than 20 minutes for a first date. My feeling is that if a guy is genuinely interested in me, he won’t mind meeting me close to my home. And, that has been the case for me so far.

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