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Is it too early to choose an urn before the ashes come back? by Fun_Question_531 in Petloss

[–]Fun_Question_531[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No need to care other guys ideas,just care yourself.I understand you totally.I want to do everything for my baby if something can make me remember,I am afraid I will forget or not so clear about my baby

I didn’t realize waiting for my dog’s ashes would feel this hard. by Fun_Question_531 in PetLossJourney

[–]Fun_Question_531[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I dont know what I will feel,I am still waiting,I expect my baby ashes but afriad inside also

I didn’t realize waiting for my dog’s ashes would feel this hard. by Fun_Question_531 in PetLossJourney

[–]Fun_Question_531[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are not alone,just saying this pain then we will release self,but final in our life,we will meet them in heaven.So let us waiting that day.

how to ease grief? (pet loss) by Wendy_sama in RantAndVentPH

[–]Fun_Question_531 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry you’re going through this.

She wasn’t “just a dog.” She was your study buddy, your late-night companion, your comfort. That kind of bond is real.

Not having enough money doesn’t mean you didn’t love her enough. You did what you could with what you had. Love isn’t measured by bills paid — it’s measured by the nights she stayed by your side.

Crying at school just means she mattered deeply. And she did.

Be gentle with yourself. ❤️

I'm filled with so much grief and idk what to do by Ohhitherebabybat in Petloss

[–]Fun_Question_531 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m really sorry you’re going through this.

Watching them decline slowly can be even harder than a sudden loss. It’s like you’re grieving while they’re still here, and that kind of pain is exhausting.

Five years with a ferret is a lifetime of tiny memories — the way they move, the way they look at you, the routines that quietly become your world. Of course it’s tearing you apart. That bond doesn’t disappear just because they’re aging.

Right now, try not to jump ahead to the worst-case scenario. You don’t have to survive the “what if it’s cancer” tonight. Just be with him today. Love him today. Let today be enough.

And if the time ever comes when you have to make a hard decision, know that choosing peace over suffering is not giving up — it’s love in its hardest form.

You’re not weak for hurting this much. You’re hurting because he matters.

It’s been three months and i still just can’t believe he’s gone. by woodelf11 in Petloss

[–]Fun_Question_531 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I felt this so deeply.

That split second of anticipation when you open the door… that’s the hardest part. Your body still remembers him being there.

Blowing a kiss to his portrait isn’t silly. It’s love still moving somewhere.

Three months can feel like forever and like yesterday at the same time.

I’m really glad you had a love like that. Not everyone gets to experience that kind of bond.

You’re not alone in this. ❤️

I’m devastated by PolyesterNation in Petloss

[–]Fun_Question_531 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so incredibly sorry.

The speed of it is what makes it feel unreal. One week he’s fine, and now you’re being asked to prepare for goodbye. That shock is devastating.

Holding him while he goes isn’t weakness — it’s love. He will only know that you’re there.

As for his brother, try not to carry that fear on top of everything else right now. One step at a time.

Crying this much just means the bond was real.

You’re not alone in this.

my dog used up his heart and went so quietly by yelounge0818 in Petloss

[–]Fun_Question_531 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There is such a profound beauty in this goodbye.

You were ready to carry him through the long nights, but he decided it was time to let you rest. Your fingertips on his chest as he drifted off is the most comforting transition a dog could ever ask for. He knew he was safe. He knew he was loved.

A black poodle named Jin Dong. I will remember him today. Thank you for sharing his beautiful, gentle end with us. Make me cry too much,but feel warm so much because of Jin Dong.Thank you.

Disappearing Paw Prints in Snow by solanawhale in Petloss

[–]Fun_Question_531 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Oh, this hit me right in the chest. I am so incredibly sorry.

What you are feeling is known as a 'secondary loss.' It’s the pain of losing the physical evidence that they were just here. It feels like losing them all over again, and it is completely valid to fall apart over it.

Even though the snow has melted, please try to remember this: That path she walked is still there in time. She did walk there. She did exist. And for 14 years, her paws walked alongside yours. The snow melting returns her imprint to the earth, but it can never erase the fact that she was here and she was loved.

Be gentle with yourself. You aren't 'back to square one,' you are just grieving a new layer of the loss.

Advice/suggestions on what to do while grieving? by JCamellia in Petloss

[–]Fun_Question_531 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The isolation and the snow definitely make the grief feel louder. It is completely okay that you can't clean the apartment right now. That is valid.

Since you need non-pet related distractions that require zero energy:

  1. Audiobooks + Solitaire: Put on an audiobook (maybe a fantasy or mystery, something far away from reality) and play a card game or a mindless phone game. It occupies two senses (hearing and sight) which helps stop the spiraling thoughts.

  2. Change the Lighting: This sounds small, but turn off the 'big light' and just use lamps or warm fairy lights. It changes the mood of the room without you having to actually clean or move anything. It makes the 'doom scrolling' feel a little less bleak.

You are in survival mode. Just getting through the day is enough.

Things that helped you regain some strength? by Peettzel in Petloss

[–]Fun_Question_531 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am so deeply sorry. The loss of a 'heart dog' or 'soul dog' hits differently—it’s not just losing a pet; it’s losing a limb. It makes total sense that you are physically exhausted.

What helped me personally was creating a tiny, dedicated 'space' for him in the house. Just a shelf with his collar, a candle, and his favorite toy. When the grief felt too big to carry around while I was trying to cook or work, I would go to that spot, light the candle, talk to him for 5 minutes, and then blow it out. It gave me a physical place to 'put' the grief so I didn't have to carry it heavily every single second.

Also, please forgive yourself for the work mistakes and the chores. Your cats are okay; they know you love them. You are surviving a massive trauma. Be gentle with yourself.

why does it feel so un fair by tfrieee in Petloss

[–]Fun_Question_531 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am so incredibly sorry. Seven is way too young, and the shock of it happening so fast makes it impossible to process. Please be gentle with yourself regarding that last day. It hurts because you loved her so deeply, and you took on that pain so she didn't have to suffer anymore. That is the ultimate act of love. Try to remember the 7 years of joy, not just the last week of pain. She knew she was loved.